Slate had the following Headline: "Can I get Oral Sex From Another Guy and Still Not Be Gay?"





I like the answer by Rich Juzwiak on Slate. I've been asked that personally and through Facebook. My answer is similar to Rich and I wonder what yours is, as you read this. No need for a Ph.D. or any Doctorate or tittle before your name except Mr., Ms or Mrs. Mine is my out experience of being in the closet until the age of 24 (multiply by 2 and and add more years to get to my age but only important thing to know how long I have been out and its been a long! time).

All you need is common sense and the experience of giving or receiving during oral. My answer is similar to Rich at Slate: Whether you give or receive a straight or gay man is the same experience as far as oral sex is a concern, so all you need to do is enjoy it and don't qualify it just like when you have dinner. If you start thinking of where the steak came from, how old the chicken was whether they enjoy the free-range or not. The potato you don't think about how little the Mexican or other got paid and how much you had to for it. If you did you might as well not eat. Those questions are supposed to be asked before you eat. If you need to eat, you need to eat and the morality of it comes before and having oral sex with a guy is just that and it won't change your life unless you feel you need to change.

However, if you keep being aroused by some men you are either bisexual or gay. Some people say they don't like labels but labels assure us we get the right solution to our problems.  We give names to everything that touches our lives so we can learn how to deal with it. People that don't like labels are because they don't like what certain labels say about them, for instance like they are LGBTQ.

Whatever we do now in sex is not new and it's been done through the centuries since man realized what to do when the urge for the companionship of the same sex came knocking on the door, whichever door it knocked. 

The immorality of these comes from forcing someone or taking advantage of someone's age or even disability.

Thanks! 


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Labels like straight and gay start to break down pretty quickly. If you start determining 'gay' and 'straight' simply by the physical acts that you enjoy, then where does that leave celibate gay men? They know they are gay. They look at men and feel attraction, desire. But for various reasons, they may never consummate this feeling, never experience the touch of another man. Yet they remain just as gay in their hearts and in their identity.