Before I go into the story let me say that Russell Tovey has been out of the closet and has been a good supporter for gay and HIV causes. I expect but hope it doesn’t materialize a fire storm of criticism from the gay community. On his defense I will say non effeminate gays tend to like others that are non effeminate and sometimes in the past have been critical of the more effeminate or sometimes called “girlish” or “queen” gays. I think sometimes is forgotten that this is the community that has always taken the blunt of the abuse, murder and criticism from homophobes and sometimes from fractions of the community itself.
Famous people are always on the public eye even if at times they think they are talking to friends or people they take as trustworthy. I hope we have patience with him and just take this was a teaching moment with him and the community as a whole, knowing that we will only advance if we treat each other with respect and dignity knowing that we are different even within the community.