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January 16, 2020

"The Seal of The Confession is Sacrosanct" But Not For Gay Service Members Being Outed By Their Pastors


 By Christine Rousselle
Catholic News Agency

London, England, Jan 14, 2020, / 04:00 pm (CNA).- U.K. Minister of Defense Johnny Mercer has issued an apology to lesbian, gay, and bisexual service members who were reportedly outed by military chaplains. He issued the apology at an event recognizing the anniversary of the repeal of the United Kingdom’s ban on homosexual members of the military.

“Our policy regarding LGB members in the military was unacceptable then, and as a defense minister, I personally apologize for those experiences,” said Mercer at an event held Jan. 9 and again in a statement to CNA Jan. 14. 

“Pastoral encounters between service chaplains and personnel should be strictly confidential.”

LGBT campaigners have alleged that over a period of years Catholic military chaplains, as well as Church of England chaplains, regularly violated the seal of confession and informed military superiors of the identities of lesbian, gay, or bisexual members of the military. These service members were then discharged as homosexuality was not permitted in the military until January 2000. 

LGBT activist Edmund Hall, a former Royal Navy sub-lieutenant, claims that he has spoken to over 100 self-identified lesbian, gay, and bisexual members of the military who were dismissed due to their sexuality. 

Hall told The Sunday Times Jan. 12 that while these former servicemembers “were dismissed in all sorts of circumstances,” confessing homosexual behavior to chaplains “was certainly one of those circumstances.”

Elaine Chambers, who co-founded a group advocating for the inclusion of homosexual men and women in the military, told The Sunday Times saying that it was “absolutely shocking” that priests “used to break the rules of the confessional.”

“[Our members] told somebody, thinking, ‘I am just getting it off my chest,’ and the next thing you know, that has led to the military police knocking on your door and that could only have come from the padres,” she said.

Breaking the sacramental seal of confession is a grave crime in the Catholic Church, and incurs a latae sententiae (automatic) ex-communication. Priests are expected to keep the secrets of their penitents confidential, even if the penitent confesses to a serious crime or treason. 

Patrick Lyster-Todd, another "gay rights" activist, told The Sunday Times that a letter was allegedly sent by Cardinal Basil Hume, then Archbishop of Westminster and head of the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of England and Wales, to military chaplains in 1994. This letter allegedly emphasized that the seal of confession was sacrosanct and could not be violated.

Lyster-Todd claimed that once this letter was written, the outings stopped.

A secretary for the Catholic Bishopric of the Armed Forces for the U.K. told CNA Jan. 14 that it could not comment on that claim, because officials are checking archives in an attempt to locate any such letter, and then confirm what specifically was written, and to whom it was addressed.

“Knowledge of the information is for the priest, the penitent and God,” Bishop Paul Mason of the Armed Forces said to The Sunday Times.

“Information gained in the context of sacramental confession may not be used in any other forum.”

CNA contacted the Archdiocese of Westminster and the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of England and Wales for comment on the allegations of violation of the seal, and to confirm the alleged letter from Cardinal Hume, but has not yet received a response.

Hall stated that the Ministry of Defense instructed the chaplains to put military efficiency above their spiritual duties. 

“Would you expect a chaplain to withhold the fact that someone was giving away their location to a Russian submarine? At the time, the [Ministry of Defense’]s view was that homosexuality was in the same category--that it would damage the efficacy of the units,” he told The Times.

While Hall suggested that a priest would be obliged to report acts of espionage confessed to him, Church law admits no exception to the secrecy of the confessional.

In 2001, former FBI agent Robert Hanssen was arrested and pled guilty to 15 counts of espionage. Hanssen, a practicing Catholic, repeatedly confessed his crimes to a priest, who did not report what he did to the authorities. 

Conversations that occur outside of the context of a sacramental confession, even if they occur in the context of counseling or mentorship, do not fall under the seal of confession. If a servicemember went to a chaplain seeking advice and revealed, inadvertently or purposefully, a same-sex relationship, the chaplain would not be bound to keep that a secret as though it were made in confession. 

Despite a focus on sacramental confession in the allegations of LGB activists, Hall’s comments to the press are actually ambiguous as to whether priests may, in fact, have violated the seal of confession. Some remarks from Hall suggest that the context of “confessions” may have been pastoral or other guidance, but not a sacramental confession.

He said that chaplains were “welfare officers” who heard “issues of a highly personal nature” about a person's marriage, family, and faith life, but did not offer specific allegations concerning violations of the sacramental seal.

“What was more damaging was not any particular case where it may or may not have happened,” said Hall. “It was the fact that the threat of it happening removes the key pastoral support option for people going through the toughest time of their life. Because you knew you couldn’t talk to a chaplain, so who the hell could you talk to?”

March 8, 2018

Male Escort Outs 40 Priests

August 21, 2017

Matthew Colligan, An American Nazi Who Never Had to pay a Price for Spreading Hate, Not Anymore

 Matthew Colligan (center with mustache) marched through the grounds of the University of Virginia in Charlottesville Friday night.

The photograph is as chilling as it is unforgettable: a sea of young white faces, lit by torches and inflamed by hatred.

The picture was taken in Charlottesville, Va. But the hate? At least some of that has its roots in Boston. 

When Dicky Stock first saw that now-infamous photo from last weekend’s violent rally, a face jumped out at him: The mustachioed guy in the second row was unmistakably his former Brighton neighbor and onetime friend. That, he knew instantly, was Matt Colligan.

“I considered him a friend,” said Stock, a comedian who now lives in Los Angeles. “He would come over and drink beers on our porch with us.” That was in 2011, and there was no inkling, Stock said, that his neighbor, who has spent the last several years living in and around Boston, would become one of the most recognizable faces of a white supremacist movement. 

“He was a very nice guy, I really liked him,” Stock said. “There was no sign he was going to get into this disgusting stuff.”

On Twitter, where he is known as @Millennial_Matt, Colligan cultivated an insipid notoriety, palling around with a right wing “comedian” known online by the nom de idiot Baked Alaska. The poster known as @Millennial_Matt once compared Auschwitz to a five-star resort and devoted a lot of time to trolling the right-wing men’s group the Proud Boys, evidently for not being far enough to the right.

In one video, he sidles up to Senator Elizabeth Warren under the pretenses of taking a selfie. Once he’s in position, Colligan smiles through his mustache and happily recites what has become his catch phrase: “Hitler did nothing wrong.” 

In Charlottesville, Colligan pulled the same stunt with Elle Reeve, the Vice correspondent behind a searing documentary about last weekend’s unrest. As he blurts his Holocaust denial, Reeve appears to realize what’s happening and dives out of the picture.

Until Stock outed him, Millennial_Matt was another anonymous Internet troll, spreading hate without consequences and saying increasingly outrageous things to get a rise out of people.

How much of his shtick is trolling for attention and how much was deeply held racism is impossible to know, if that even matters. Many a racist has sought to obscure his ideology in a cloud of LOL JKs. But once you show up among the chanting, torch-bearing crowd, then you own the full-throated white supremacy that comes with it.

In liberal Boston, Colligan could blend in — another skinny, white, twentysomething Allston hipster with a silly mustache. But if you believed the audience for white nationalist speakers at Saturday’s “free speech” rally in Boston would be coming from someplace else, consider Matt Colligan.

Colligan did not respond to requests for comment through various channels. But his Instagram account, “allstonninja,” confirms that Colligan and Millennial_Matt are one and the same. Several of the same photos appear on both the Instagram account and Millennial_Matt’s Twitter account, though the allstonninja is largely devoted in recent years to (I swear I’m not making this up) selfies taken with a hairless cat named Igor. “Allstonninja” at one point also posted what was plainly his own driver’s license photo. He cropped out his name but not his birthdate — a birthdate that RMV records show matches Matthew Colligan’s.

Colligan’s current address isn’t listed, but his driving record and Instagram photos suggest he remains in the Boston area.

Though he initially had some reservations about outing his former friend, Stock decided to identify him on Facebook as the man in the Charlottesville photo. Freedom of speech isn’t freedom from consequences, and the same Constitution that gives Colligan the right to shout his Holocaust denial and march alongside neo-Nazis gives Stock the right to tell the world who he is.

Soon after though, others posted phone numbers and addresses for Colligan that were either outdated or incorrect.

One home address that circulated had belonged to his mother years ago; a man in Illinois started getting death threats on his cellphone, which a database had incorrectly linked to Colligan.

After initially responding with taunts — he posted what he said was his “real” home address, the site of a Jewish temple in Boston — Colligan soon turned serious. In a video posted on Twitter, Colligan pleaded for the future of the country he’d been helping to tear apart.

“What’s happening today is horrible,” Colligan said. “This is a very dark time for America.”

Millennial_Matt is gone now. Not long after I reached out to him for this column, he tweeted that he had received death threats police deemed credible, and wrote that his family was in danger. Then he abruptly deleted his Twitter account. Police in the town where his mother lives said they were aware of the situation but did not confirm the specifics.

“I’m usually a jokester. I do a lot of comedy,” Colligan said in the video, visibly emotional. “But there’s nothing funny about threatening people’s lives, threatening people’s families.”

Publicly, at least, it was the first true thing he’d said in a long time.
 Mathew and the best president he is ever had

Boston Globe

April 20, 2017

Our Ally South Korea Using Dating Apps to Out Gay Soldiers

South Korean military officials are allegedly conducting an army-wide search for gay men among the country’s troops, after a sex tape between two soldiers was uploaded online, according to an investigation by a non-profit group.

Army investigators have been trying to dox suspected homosexual soldiers through the use of dating apps, with at least one soldier arrested so far for allegedly engaging in homosexual acts, according to the Military Human Rights Center of Korea (MHRCK), an activist group. The allegations draw attention to Korea’s conservative attitudes towards homosexuality, particularly in the military, which is one of the country’s most powerful institutions. It’s a crime for Korean soldiers to engage in consensual homosexual acts, but that’s not true of same-sex relations; outside the army, same-sex relations are legal but not widely accepted.

On Monday (April 17), the center released screenshots of in-app conversations dated Feb. 15 showing a discussion between two soldiers about exchanging photos and which military units they serve in. MHRCK alleges that prosecutors coerced a soldier, already under investigation, into approaching another officer on an app widely used by gay and bisexual men in order to extract information about the officer’s name, rank and military unit. MHRCK also unveiled a leaked guideline from the High Army Prosecutors’ Office dated March 23 that urges “strict handling of same-sex sex acts to prevent a proliferation of soldier-on-soldier sodomy.” 

The center said that army chief of staff Jang Jun-kyu ordered the search, with about 40 to 50 soldiers identified so far as being homosexual. The army has rejected claims that such a search is occurring.
“If military personnel who served without any problem are forced to be dishonorably discharged and sent to prison due to their sexual orientation, it is hard to distinguish Korea from the worrisome countries where homosexuals are detained, tortured and executed,” said the MHRCK in a statement.

According to the MHRCK, Jang sought punishment for the identified soldiers in accordance with the longstanding ban on sodomy in the armed forces, which is enshrined in Korea’s Military Criminal Act. Those found guilty of such acts in the military can be sent to prison for up to two years, though a Korean legal expert speaking on the condition of anonymity said the ban hasn’t been strictly enforced and jailing suspects for the charge is highly unusual.

The law was upheld by Korean judges last year after a legal challenge. In the ruling, justices said:
“In the military, there is a markedly high potential for abnormal acts of sexual intercourse to take place between members of the same sex and a strong likelihood for superiors to attempt homosexual acts with subordinates… If left alone, this presents a serious risk of direct harm to the preservation of fighting strength.”

Because of the Korean military’s outsized influence in Korean life and the belief that the country is in a near constant “pre-war state” because of the threat from North Korea, the military and conservative establishment are “afraid of excessive liberalism as it might affect the readiness of their young people to die,” said Vladimir Tikhinov, a professor of Korean studies at the University of Oslo who has studied the military in Korea.

All able-bodied men in Korea are required to serve about two years in the military, which has about 630,000 active-duty soldiers (for comparison, the US has about 1.3 million active military personnel).
The Korean army said Friday in a statement that its prosecutors launched an investigation after a video clip of two men in uniform having sex surfaced online, and that it wasn’t ordered to do so by the army commander. The army “strives to ensure that the human rights of gay men in service aren’t violated, and forbids involuntary outing and discrimination as well as guaranteeing privacy according to the law.”

A defense ministry spokesman said it couldn’t comment on ongoing investigations.
Domestic and foreign human rights groups have criticized human rights violations by Korea’s military in the past. Physical abuse and bullying of soldiers is rife, for example, and public outcry (paywall) against such violations have become more vocal since the particularly gruesome death of a conscript in 2014. Groups like Amnesty International have also routinely cricitized the Korean military’s policy of jailing conscientious objectors—according to the human rights group, Korea imprisons more conscientious objectors than every other country put together.

A small number of alternative non-combat service positions is available for Korean men, but the vast majority of conscripts who are gay serve in the closet for the fear of ostracism and bullying. The US allowed openly gay, lesbian, and bisexual people to serve in the military in 2011. In 2016, openly transgender people could also serve in the US armed forces. In neighboring Taiwan (paywall), which also has compulsory military service for men, openly homosexual and bisexual people have been allowed to serve in the military since 2002.

Even as attitudes towards homosexuality in other traditionally conservative Asian countries begin to loosen up, including in Japan, acceptance of LGBT people in Korea remains relatively poor. Young people are growing increasingly accepting of LGBT people, but still less than 24% of Koreans said they had “no reservations about homosexuality,” according to a 2014 survey conducted by the As an Institute for Policy Studies, a think tank.

Korea has a large Christian population, and vocal Protestant groups have for years blocked the inclusion of sexual minorities in a proposed anti-discrimination bill by pressuring politicians to vote against it. Jang, the army chief of staff who allegedly ordered the investigation into gay soldiers, is also the head of the Korea Military Christians Federation (link in Korean).

A group of activists opposed to gay rights held a press conference on Monday in front of the defense ministry, urging a thorough investigation into same-sex activities in the military.

“The Korean Peninsula is facing a North Korean nuclear weapons crisis. Gays have a questionable logic in demanding the resignation of the army chief of staff to justify their sexual urges,” Han Hyo-gwan, an anti-gay activist, told local newspaper Kookmin Ilbo (link in Korean).

Most LGBT people in Korea choose to hide their sexual orientation in public, and only feel free to express themselves openly in selected areas such as the so-called Homo Hill in Itaewon, also the district where the US military base is located. There are also few openly gay public figures, the best-known being Hong Seok-cheon, an actor-comedian who was Korea’s first openly gay celebrity. In 2014, director Kim Jho Gwang-su married his partner in a same-sex public ceremony in Seoul that was not recognized by the law. Such actions have raised visibility of sexual minorities, advancing the conversation on LGBT rights.

November 20, 2016

Texas Republicans are Really Uncomfortable with LGBT kids! ‘Let’s Force Them Out’

First, they blocked a federal order to allow trans students in public schools to use the bathrooms that match their gender identity. Now, they want teachers to out LGBT students to their parents, with or without the student’s consent. 

Sen. Konni Burton introduced a bill on Thursday – which just so happened to be national Transgender Day of Remembrance – that would require public schools give parents "any general knowledge regarding the parent's child possessed by an employee of the district” and records "relating to the child’s general physical, psychological or emotional well-being." 

This may sound vague — and even harmless. But Burton has explicitly said this is a response to guidelines adopted by Fort Worth school district earlier this year, guidelines that banned staff from telling parents about their child's transgender status. The rule was quickly extinguished by Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick, Texas' leader in anti-LGBT policies. 

According to LGBT rights groups, Burton's bill is a direct attack on a vulnerable population: LGBT kids who aren't ready to come out to their parents — but want to talk about it with someone they trust. In many cases, that's a school counselor. 

“What she’s proposed would destroy any productive communication between a student and a school counselor,” said Chuck Smith, CEO of Equality Texas. "It would take away a counselor’s ability to do their job.”

In public schools, a counselor’s job is to do the opposite of what Burton’s bill suggests: Provide a safe and confidential space for students to express their emotions. If passed, this bill would effectively erase every child’s right to confide in a counselor, teacher or nurse. 

Burton has said her bill will protect a parent’s “right to know” or “right to matter” in their child’s life. But what she’s suggesting could instead force public schools to knowingly enable an abusive parent. 

"If your kid is gay, and can tell his teacher, but hasn’t told you, then you are the problem," said Steve Rudner, Equality Texas board chair. "If a kid can tell a teacher but not their parent, it is a pretty good indication that your child is scared of you and the consequences of telling you, and you are who the kid needs to be protected from."

Nearly half of the country’s homeless population who are under the age 18 identify as LGBT — often a result of being kicked out the house from an intolerant parent. Hundreds of other parents banish their LGBT children to a "reparative therapy” program until they are 18. In fact, this wildly discredited conversion “therapy” is still a piece of the state’s GOP platform. If they’re lucky enough to stay at home, other kids may just fall victim to child abuse — a statewide problem Texas officials openly admit to not handling well. 

“Until children stop being beaten up for being gay or being kicked out of their home for being gay, we have a responsibility to protect them,” Smith said. 

This bill comes on the heels of Lieutenant Gov. Dan Patrick announcing his interest in a bill that will block all trans Texans from using the bathroom that aligns with their gender identity under the guise of protecting women's privacy. Paired with Patrick’s bill, Burton’s “right to know” measure may just be the kick-off to an aggressively anti-LGBT legislative session. 

October 1, 2016

Married Conservative Louisiana Politician Outed with 17 Yr Old Boy

 L) Mike Yenni R)Alex Daigle and he’s 19 now

A married conservative politician from Louisiana has been outed for allegedly dating a 17-year-old boy he met at a Catholic high school.

The FBI is currently investigating allegations that Jefferson Parish President Mike Yenni sent sexually explicit texts to the teenager he first met at a Catholic high school function last year. The encounter, which happened in the middle of Yenni’s successful 2015 campaign to become Jefferson Parish President, was confirmed by the teenager. Yenni, 40, was the  mayor of Kenner at the time.

WWL-TV reports that FBI agents have interviewed at least four individuals about the sexually explicit text messages between Yenni, 40, and a young man who was 17 at the time and is now 19.
The teen tells WWL-TV that a mutual friend, who was 19 at the time, helped Yenni connect with him.

The teen says they began texting and talking on the phone, but soon after, the politician came to visit him at his job at a mall food court. Yenni, who is married and has a young child, arranged to meet the teen in a mall bathroom where he gave him some designer underwear to try on. They kissed briefly.
The texting progressively became more explicit over time.

WWL-TV adds:
The youth provided WWL-TV what he says are copies of the text exchanges that were recovered after they were deleted, on the condition that the station not directly quote from them. Printouts of the messages appear to indicate they came from a cell phone account linked to Yenni in multiple online search engines. WWL-TV called the number in June and got the same outgoing voicemail message, featuring Yenni’s voice, as could be heard on Yenni’s official parish cell phone at the time.
The phone listed on the printouts of the text messages is not billed to taxpayers.

According to printouts of those texts, Yenni tells the teen he wants him naked.

Days later, Yenni writes to ask the 17-year-old if he’s worn the underwear Yenni bought him. Yenni says he wants to see him model it.

Then Yenni texts the teen to say he wants to perform a sex act on him that night.

The youth, who is openly gay and is now in college, said in an interview with WWL-TV that he wants to expose Yenni’s behavior because he finds it disturbing.

While the youth was initially flattered and intrigued by Yenni’s overtures, he said the texts and phone conversations began to make him uncomfortable, such as one proposing three-way sex with him and the 19-year-old mutual friend.

“He asked me to go with him to his house in Oxford (Mississippi),” the youth said, where records show Yenni owns an apartment there. “Also, the way he would describe the sexual things he wanted to do to me. And he asked me to be a secretary or assistant in his office; that way I could be with him and not be questioned.”

Just a few weeks after the sexting began, in June 2015, the teen says he broke off communication and blocked Yenni’s number.

Yenni has not been charged with a crime, but WWL-TV notes that Yenni could face federal charges:
Under Louisiana law, the age of consent is 17, meaning Yenni would have committed no crime if he had had sex with the youth – something the youth said did not happen. But ironically, one question is whether Yenni’s texts proposing such activity could violate a federal law designed to protect children under 18 from obscenity.

The federal law bars the use of a telecommunications device for “the transmission of any comment, request, suggestion, proposal, image, or other communication which is obscene or child pornography, knowing that the recipient of the communication is under 18 years of age, regardless of whether the maker of such communication placed the call or initiated the communication.”

Former U.S. Attorney Harry Rosenberg speculates that may be the law the feds have been looking into.

The law has been challenged in the past, and upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court, Rosenberg noted. Still, it’s rarely invoked, both because obscenity can be hard to define – and is often defended as free speech under the First Amendment – and because it’s hard to prove the sender knew the recipient was under 18.

As to whether Yenni knew how old the youth was, the teenager says he established his age in one of his first phone conversations with Yenni.

“It was the phone call where he told me who he was, and I told him I was 17,” the youth said.

Yenni’s response, according to the teen, was: “I know the laws.”

March 1, 2016

College Runner is Outed and He is Shock by the way its received

This posting appeared on Outsports last night:    Cavender Salvadori must talk to Jacob Sears. Salvadori starts walking to the party where he saw Sears and sends his teammate a text.
Salvadori left the party shortly after midnight with his ex-boyfriend and walked to the College of William & Mary campus. Now, he can't get back soon enough.
He walks as fast as he can. His heart throbs in his chest. Tears come to his eyes, and he takes deep breaths to keep from crying.
Salvadori's ex-boyfriend told him as they walked away from the party that a week earlier he let Sears know about their relationship.
Salvadori had never told his track and field teammates that he's gay. He'd been outed.
"That freaked me the fuck out," Salvadori says. "I can't believe the moment I've been dreading my whole life is about to happen."
The panic Salvadori felt walking back to the house party that May 2, 2015, night made sense to him. He couldn't comprehend being accepted as a gay athlete. Over the next 13 days, the dread he harbored gradually made less sense. Each chance he gave them, his William & Mary teammates showed they treasured him as a person and openly gay man.
"He's my teammate, and this didn't change anything," Sears says. "He my friend. I love him."
Salvadori's ex-boyfriend asked to not be identified and declined to be interviewed for this story. The name Tizio will be used for him.    

"It was pretty random," Sears says of Tizio revealing his relationship with Salvadori.
Sears worked with Tizio at Ruby Tuesday in Williamsburg. He previously learned Tizio identifies as LGBT, but it surprised him Tizio knew Salvadori let alone that Salvadori is gay.
"That particular way that I found out wasn't the ideal way, but I was determined to try to spin it as positively as I could," Sears says.
It bothered Sears that Salvadori felt a need to keep his sexuality secret, and Sears wanted to talk with his teammate about it. When Sears and Tizio talked the next day, Sears said he wanted Salvadori to know he knew. It took Tizio about a week to talk to Salvadori, but when Sears received Salvadori's late-night text message, the topic seemed obvious.
When the 6-foot-1, 155-pound Salvadori located Sears at the party that night, they went outside. Many of their teammates were inside celebrating successes from earlier that day at the Colonial Athletic Association conference championship meet, so Sears and Salvadori walked a couple blocks and sat at a picnic table outside the School of Education.
It was approaching 1:30 a.m. as they sat across from each other.
"In my head, everything was quiet," Salvadori says. "The only thing that I could hear was the conversation. I was so involved in the conversation itself, because obviously, it was a huge turning point in my life."
Sears tried to ease Salvadori's tension with jokes, and he tried to connect by sharing his own mental health difficulties. Sears also made sure Salvadori knew he loved him.
Salvadori remembers Sears repeated encouraging phrases: "No one cares," "It's what you're attracted to," and "People are people." His first conversation with a straight person, not to mention a teammate, about being gay surprised him.
"It was so relieving, and I felt so strong," Salvadori says.

2. The Consoler

Salvadori planned weeks earlier to start the conversation about his sexuality with his roommate, Faris Sakallah. They had grown close their first two years as William & Mary teammates, but Salvadori repeatedly created reasons to delay the conversation.
Instead of Sakallah being the first to know, he became the person consoling Salvadori after an emotional night.
Around 3 a.m. the morning of Sunday, May 3, Salvadori returned to their apartment from talking with Sears. Sakallah was still awake, and Salvadori asked him to go outside. They walked around the Ludwell Apartment Complex and found a bench. It rained earlier in the night, leaving the sky calm and the campus peaceful.
Once they started to talk, Salvadori pulled the top of the gray sweater he was wearing over his mouth. The tears, which he suppressed talking to Sears, poured now.
"Just say it," Sakallah told him.
Salvadori did: "I'm gay."
Sakallah hugged Salvadori with no regard for the snot and tears.
"It just broke my heart," Sakallah says. "I couldn't bare to see how much pain he was in trying to deal with this."
Their conversation lasted a couple hours and approached dawn in southeastern Virginia. Salvadori explained that the past three months he started using Tinder to meet guys, met Tizio, and developed his first romantic connection. Sakallah learned about the lies Salvadori told to secretly see Tizio. Salvadori explained the betrayal he felt earlier that night to learn Tizio told Sears his secret.
By the end of their talk, Salvadori says, "I remember being emotionally exhausted."
The next day, Sakallah saw Salvadori begin to transform.
"He just looked better," Sakallah says. "He was smiling, which I hadn't seen in a long time. He was just coming back to his old self.” 

3. The wingman

Since Salvadori started running cross country in seventh grade, he liked that a clock, not a person, determined his success.
"It [running] was a way for me to objectively do well," says Salvadori, who earned all-state eight times at his Wilmington, Delaware, high school. "You can't argue a really fast time. My whole life, I wanted to be objectively viewed not subjectively. If someone subjectively viewed me, they could call me gay or something like that."
Ryan Gousse became the third teammate to know Salvadori is gay, and that conversation changed Salvadori's relationship with running by connecting his sexuality with his sport. Salvadori texted Gousse that he wanted to tell him something. When Salvadori stopped for a bathroom break during a long workout, Gousse waited for him to learn what he had to say.
As they ran alone the next 30 minutes, Salvadori talked about his self-acceptance. Gousse remembers Salvadori getting choked up and releasing big gasps as he talked about being gay and how it led him to withhold emotions from friends and teammates, particularly in recent months.
Salvadori says Gousse is the most important person he told, because he helped him tell the rest of the team.
"He was there for pretty much everyone I told," Salvadori says. "He was really good at forcing me to tell people, because he knew I wanted to but was terrified to do it."
Through nearly a dozen face-to-face conversations, Salvadori told William & Mary's other distance runners that he now identified as gay. Gousse went, too, just to sit, listen and smile.
"It was kind of fun, because you could see him becoming less bottled up every time," Gousse says. "The first few people, it would take him like five to 10 minutes to actually say it. Then, it was just right off the bat."

4. The Party 

On the Friday night at the end of finals week, some runners asked Salvadori a question: How much Ben & Jerry's ice cream can he eat? A year earlier, Salvadori inhaled three pints faster than Sears during a competition.
Would a Vermonster, the Ben & Jerry's 20-scoop sundae, be something he could consume by himself? Of course, a confident Salvadori said.
About that time, members of the William & Mary women's cross country team walked into the house. Salvadori suddenly displayed a face-filling smile to see them toting a Vermonster.
In the 14 days since he started telling teammates, Dylan Hassett was the only women's cross country runner Salvadori told he's gay, and Hassett suggested a party for the rest of the women's team to celebrate his self-acceptance. Salvadori liked the idea, but he received no warning when it would happen.
"I wanted him to know that we're really happy for him to be out," Hassett says. "He was really thankful to have so many of us show up and be so supportive."
One of the women tied a rainbow ribbon to the plastic bucket carrying the 1 1/4 gallons of ice cream. There were also two notes written on Post-its. One said, "Ben loves Jerry." The other said, "We love Cav." Salvadori saved the notes and keeps them in the bag he takes to practices and meets.
"It represented the end of my coming out to my friends at college," Salvadori says. "I kept them as a reminder of that period and the positives that came out of it and how all my fears were wrong. ... People still like me and they care about me and nothing is going to change that."
The support from his teammates continued this season. Salvadori, currently a junior academically and a redshirt sophomore athletically, feels free running for the first time as a member of the William & Mary Tribe.
"I want to be happy, and I finally realized that," Salvadori says.
He broke his personal record in the 8,000 meters during the fall cross country season then opened the 2016 indoor track season with personal bests in the 3,000 and 5,000 meters.
"A happy runner is a successful runner, and that was one of the issues that was holding Cav back that is no longer in front of him anymore." says Chris Solinsky, the William & Mary distance running coach.
Salvadori's enjoying these new, genuine relationships with his teammates from the grand (winning the 2015 CAA cross country team title) to the minute (dancing to Kesha in the locker room).
"When I think of happy or hilarious moments in my life, my friends are always there," Salvadori says. "The really funny, even stupid stuff, those are the moments I enjoy the most.
"Those little moments where you're just driving around with your friends laughing so hard and your cheeks hurt from smiling so much, I wouldn't want to have a life without those moments."
Cavender Salvadori runs cross country and track and field for William & Mary, a Division I school and the second oldest college in America. Salvadori can be reached via email at or on Instagram @Lavender_Salvadoli
Erik Hall is a member of the Track and Field Writers of American. He can be reached at or on Twitter @HallErik.

December 7, 2015

Soccer Sensation Cristiano Ronaldo Seems to Have a Boyfriend


Straight people still get hung up on very ‘manly' athletes being gay. They still see gay people as weak and femme. The foreign media is got hold of this story like if it was impossible for Cristiano Ronaldo to be excited to be held by a very strong man and more.
Below is the shorter story of all the ones I read from giving the same photos as others but condensing the story.
I don’t think a so called stud man being in love or making love to another man is the big story it used to be.

Several media houses have sensationalised Cristiano Ronaldo's "bromance" with Moroccan kickboxer Badr Hari.
According to Spanish media, officials at Real Madrid officials are concerned about how Cristiano's lifestyle is affecting his performances on the pitch.
They have claimed that the Real Madrid forward has been flying frequently to North Africa after training sessions in his private jet to meet the boxer. According to a newspaper, Daniel Riolo, a contributor on French television show, hinted that the pair were more than friends. 
The Portuguese captain also shared a series of photos on a holiday he took with Hari and was even pictured lifted in the boxer's arms with the caption "Just married. Always there to pick you up, bro." In one picture the pair were having candlelit traditional Moroccan meal.
I have seen a close up of this picture and the Moroccan is very excited to be holding the good looking Cristiano. If his pants swelled any more the zipper will fly open seriously injuring any by standard.
These claims are made despite Ronaldo being linked with a number of beautiful models (ha,ha)throughout his football career. Earlier in 2010, the 30-year-old had praised Portugal's decision to allow gay marriage and said, "We must respect the choices of each other, because, after all, all citizens should have the same rights and responsibilities."

October 2, 2015

Anti Gay Hypocrite Gets Caught [Indiana Rep.Jud McMillin] 2005-2015 in depht


The Daily Beast:
 Indiana Representative Jud McMillin has resigned after his sex tape leaked without his consent. Earlier this year, he blocked the revenge-porn bill that would have made such a leak illegal.
An Indiana lawmaker is very sorry if you’ve recently received “anything offensive” from his cellphone. Specifically, his offensive sex tape.

Representative Jud McMillin resigned his role as Indiana House Majority Leader on Tuesday after his cellphone sent a sexually explicit video to an unknown number of recipients. McMillin, a Republican who helped pass a 2015 “religious freedom” law allowing businesses to ban gay customers, claimed that his phone had been “out of my control for about 24 hours” after being stolen in Canada.

Unfortunately for McMillin, it’s perfectly legal for someone to distribute a pornographic video of him without his consent. That’s because, as a member of the House Committee on Courts and Criminal Code, McMillin helped block a bill that would criminalize revenge porn in Indiana.

The exact acts depicted in the video remain unclear, although the Indianapolis Business Journal reports that McMillin is definitely the tape’s feature player. But according to McMillin’s apologetic mass-text to his phone contacts, he didn’t hit the send button.
“My phone was stolen in Canada and out of my control for about 24 hours,” McMillin texted contacts. “I have just been able to reactivate it under my control. Please disregard any messages you received recently. I am truly sorry for anything offensive you may have received.”
At least one person who received the apology text replied that they hadn’t received anything offensive, a possible indication that someone else had sent the explicit video. If so, the sender could be subject for arrest in Alaska, Arkansas, California, and over 20 other states with laws against non-consensual or “revenge” porn.

Indiana considered its own revenge porn bill as recently as this winter. The proposal would criminalize the distribution of pornographic images without their subject’s consent, elevating the act to a Class B Misdemeanor punishable by up to 180 days in jail. Victims of revenge porn would also be allowed to sue their attacker for damages in civil court.
But the bill, introduced by Democrat Christina Hale, never made it to a vote. The House Committee on Courts and Criminal Code, of which McMillin was a member and former chair, did not hear the bill, the IndyStar reports.

This is McMillin’s second time resigning an office over explicit photos of himself. In 2005, he stepped down from his role as an assistant prosecutor, after pursuing a relationship with Crystal Stapleton, a domestic violence victim whose boyfriend he had been prosecuting.

A Narrative from the Bilerico Project on thisTea party Anti gay activist:

  One former classmate described the young McMillin as Harry Potter's "Draco Malfoy but without the good looks and a worse personality."
In between his sophomore and junior years, McMillin and two friends were playing "leapfrog," a dangerous driving "game" 
brookville.jpgwhere participants speed down the road and attempt to keep passing each other while braving oncoming traffic. McMillin's opponent, Dennis Walter, wasn't able to complete one pass and struck another car head on. 

The accident killed Tom Marsh instantly, but his pregnant wife, Diana, survived long enough to give birth to a stillborn baby girl before dying the next day. No charges were ever filed against McMillin despite his obvious culpability in the case.
After he graduated high school in 1995, McMillin left to attend Ball State University. You won't find Ball State listed in his official biography though, because McMillin left the school in the spring of 1996 after members of the baseball team accused him of stealing from the parking lot fees. No charges were filed and McMillin was quietly allowed to leave the university. 
His legislative bio conveniently leaves out his Ball State attendance in favor of his degree in Economics from the University of Cincinnati - a school much closer to home and where his father's influence was stronger. After graduation, McMillin got his law degree at the University of Mississippi and returned to the area to find a job.
He eventually became a deputy prosecutor in Dayton, Ohio - a mid-sized city not far from the Indiana border. Luckily for him, his family wasn't too far away; he'd need their help again when he resigned after a sex scandal rocked the burg.

Prosecutorial Misconduct

In March of 2005, John Gonzalez reportedly broke into his girlfriend's apartment and in late April a grand jury charged him with burglary, aggravated burglary with a firearm, and misdemeanor domestic violence. McMillin was assigned to the case.
He met with the injured party, Crystal Stapleton, and according to Stapleton began flirting with her during the victim interview. According to a complaint affidavit filed with the court [pdf], Stapleton alleges that McMillin summoned her repeatedly to his office for multiple interviews about the case.

prosecutor"I remember [during] one of these meetings, Judson McMillin winked at me, which I took to be flirting," Stapleton said.

Stapleton repeatedly told McMillin that she had given Gonzalez a key to her residence and Gonzalez hadn't forced his way into the apartment. She didn't testify at the grand jury hearing and told McMillin several times that she didn't want charges pursued against Gonzalez.
Later that summer, McMillin showed up drunk at Stapleton's apartment to declare his romantic intentions. He was still assigned to her case as the deputy prosecutor.
"He told me that he had been drinking, that he wanted to come over and see me," Stapleton said. "He did come over to see me, and he told me that he would hug me except he was worried that an investigator might be watching as he came to my house."
According to Stapleton, McMillin repeatedly insisted that she would have to testify against Gonzalez and that he would send Gonzalez to jail for "a long time." McMillin threatened Stapelton with arrest as a witness until she cooperated and testified against Gonzalez. The Montgomery County prosecutor's office does not have a policy of arresting reluctant witnesses and routinely drops cases when a victim does not wish to press charges.
McMillin, blinded by his lust for Stapleton, wanted Gonzalez out of the picture and forged ahead with the charges despite Stapleton's protests.

Sexting: A Relationship Blooms

In August of 2005, Stapleton and Gonzalez moved to Toledo, Ohio. After constant wooing by McMillin, Stapleton returned to Dayton in early September. McMillin was still filing official paperwork with the court on September 2nd, but removed himself from the case shortly after Stapleton returned to Dayton and it appeared there was a chance of a relationship with the victim.
Shortly after Stapleton returned to Dayton, McMillin and Stapleton went on their first date. They went to a state park in a nearby county where a law enforcement source, who asked not to be identified since they aren't allowed to speak officially for the department, said they were caught having sex in McMillin's car. After discovering McMillin was a deputy prosecutor in the neighboring county, police let him go with a warning.
In an affidavit filed in Gonzalez's criminal case, Stapleton tells the story a little differently.
"We went to John Bryant [sic] State Park, we rented a movie and we returned to his apartment where we had sexual relations. For approximately two weeks after September 11, 2005, I was with Judson McMillin almost on a daily basis and we continued our sexual relationship during this period of time," she said.
"While I was with Judson McMillin during this period of time, he made statements about us being together 
Siren Sexting Sailors, after Edward Armitagewhen this was all over, meaning the charges against John C. Gonzalez, he made me believe that perhaps he would adopt my children... and he also said we would grow old together. He mentioned marrying me and having children," she continued. 

"He would always say very nice things to me and I was also very happy when he called. He also took me to his parents' house in Indiana around this time and he introduced me to his friends... I also met the prosecutor at a mall in Cincinnati."
Shortly after the date McMillin and Stapelton started sexting - sending sexually provocative text messages to each other along with sexually explicit photos.
"McMillin began to text message me on my phone and send me photographs of himself which he took with his cell phone and sent to my cell phone," Stapleton testified. "The photographs he sent to me were sexual in nature as were my photographs."
Gonzalez's attorney, Jeffrey Slyman, submitted the photos and text messages into evidence with Stapleton's affidavit, but Slyman quickly suggested the court seal the exhibits [pdf] as "highly provocative and sexually explicit." Since Montgomery County court files are able to be viewed on the internet, the court decided that Slyman's recommendation to seal the photos and texts was "well-taken."
In a phone call Slyman's office, he refused to comment on the old case, but his assistant confirmed that Slyman had filed the affidavit with numerous provocative photos of both McMillin and Stapleton.
According to two sources close to the case, the photos were incredibly graphic. One photo reportedly shows McMillin masturbating and using a dildo on himself while others were simply of McMillin's genitalia. In one exchange, McMillin is alleged to have texted Stapleton that he was heartsick being separated from her and sent photos of himself masturbating with a string tied tightly from his testicles to the wheels of a rolling office chair to illustrate his pain.
Since the photos and texts were filed under seal and McMillin refuses to release them, there is no way to confirm or deny the photos' contents beyond what's blatantly spelled out in court filings.
After word leaked back to McMillin's boss about the incident in the state park and he confessed to starting a relationship with a victim he was supposed to be protecting, law enforcement sources in Montgomery County say McMillin resigned to prevent being fired. He left his job on September 16, 2005 - days after starting his illicit affair with another man's girlfriend.

Stapleton Sues McMillin for Damages

Stapleton and McMillin ended their relationship soon after her affidavit was filed (with the pornographic text messages and photos submitted as evidence) in Gonzalez's criminal case.
A year later - and after Gonzalez's court case had been resolved - Stapleton sued McMillin in civil court for $25,000 [pdf] for legal 
legal1.jpgmalpractice, intentional infliction of emotional distress, and breach of fiduciary duty. In papers filed with the suit, her attorney alleged that "McMillin repeatedly contacted Stapleton in the guise of his role as prosecutor, while, in fact, pursuing a romantic relationship."

"McMillin made inappropriate personal contact with Stapleton which culminated in a sexual relationship," the filing continued. "McMillin exploited his position as prosecutor in connection with Stapleton's as a victim and unwilling witness in a prosecution."
While McMillin initially denied the affair entirely in papers filed in response to Stapleton's suit, he later admitted the relationship to the Dayton Daily News.
A former assistant Montgomery County prosecutor admitted Friday he had a relationship with the complainant in a domestic violence case he prosecuted, but he insisted the relationship began after he stepped off the case Sept. 9.
Judson G. McMillin, 28, resigned from the prosecutor's office Sept. 16, his personnel records show.
He said he now practices in his father's firm in Brookville [Indiana].
In mid-January of 2007, Stapleton withdrew her complaint [pdf]. It's unclear whether or not McMillin paid Stapleton for her silence, but McMillin denies he did. Stapleton's motion to dismiss includes her right to file the case again in the future, so it would appear that the two did not reach a financial settlement or the motion would likely have included a stipulation that the case couldn't be refiled at a later date.
After McMillin's sexual impropriety came to light during the last election, he sent a written statement to a local radio station that read in part, "If some say dating a woman I had met through my work was not the best decision, I will not argue with them."
"I have never had any disciplinary actions taken against me in my professional career, and the creative and completely fabricated lawsuit that was filed against me... was quickly dismissed when my resolve to fully defend and not to be strong-armed into any settlement was understood," McMillin said.
The Ohio Bar Association decided there was no ethical violation on McMillin's part because he resigned from the prosecutor's office before consummating the relationship.
McMillin did not mention the sexually explicit photos or confirm the contents of the photos and texts filed under court seal in his brief statement, but he did acknowledge that contrary to what he'd said in his original court filings, he did, in fact, have a sexual relationship with a woman he was supposed to be advocating for in a domestic violence case.

Morality Is Messy

These days, Jud McMillin is a rising Republican star. He sits on the Courts and Criminal Code committee, the Roads and Transportation committee, and is vice chair of the Judiciary committee that oversaw passage of a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage, civil unions, and domestic partner benefits. McMillin voted in favor of the marriage discrimination amendment twice - once in committee and again on the floor of the House.
The amendment passed overwhelmingly in February with bipartisan support. Same-sex marriage is already illegal in Indiana. A previous court case challenging the law was initiated by the ACLU-Indiana, but the state's law was upheld. Marriage equality isn't coming any time soon to the Hoosier state's gay and lesbian citizens.
Even though a constitutional amendment is unnecessary since a court has upheld the law's constitutional authority, McMillin placed more importance on the amendment's passage than fighting to improve living standards in his poverty-stricken district. Clearly his priorities are a bit skewed.
On his campaign website, he listed marriage discrimination as one of his top issues.
"I will protect the integrity of the institution of marriage. I believe that a marriage is a union of a man and a woman before their peers, government, and most importantly, God. In southeastern Indiana the family has always been the foundation of our strength of community," he said. "Our relationships with our wives, husbands, parents, children, siblings and other loved ones provides the glue that binds our common purpose. In these times of turmoil the rest of the country could learn something from our example."
If Hoosiers want to learn something from McMillin's example, they should discover that when you want to dictate morality, you'd better have some outstanding morals of your own. 
McMillin doesn't.
Calls to McMillin's legislative office for comment were not returned. Photos via Flickr and McMillin's legislative website.

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