Showing posts with label Coming Out. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Coming Out. Show all posts

March 2, 2020

Her Dad Coming Out Helped Her In Her Own Life

Father's Day, 2004. I was 11 years old. My family and I had driven four hours from Connecticut to New Hampshire to celebrate the day with my father at a lakeside home that he shared with a male friend of his whom he had grown close to during that year. It was hardly my first time visiting their home in New Hampshire, but even amid their shared bedroom and having witnessed them embrace one night in the shadows of our nightly campfire, I had never registered them as more than just friends. This is why, on that perfectly sunny Summer's day in June as I lay on a hammock listening to the distant sounds of my cousins playing in the sand, I was stunned to hear the words that quietly and bravely slipped from my dad's mouth when he calmly approached me with a tear in his eye:
"Princess, I have something to tell you . . . I'm gay."
I can't remember exactly what I understood of the word "gay" at that point in my life, but whether it came from hearing my classmates use it to disparage our peers or the innate understanding that its existence in our life meant complete and utter change to our family dynamic, I instantly registered the word as synonymous with "bad." Before I could even manage to take a full breath, my eyes burned with tears, my limbs flailed uncontrollably in an attempt to push my father away, and my lips emitted painful screams calling him names I wish to this day I could take back. My family panicked as my tantrum worsened, and before I knew it, I was strapped in the backseat of our car preparing to make a premature journey back home; the sun still up, the freshwater waves still lapping at the shore where my cousins' abandoned sandcastles stood, and my dad trying everything he could to reach me through my tears to tell me that he was sorry and that everything would be alright. 
It wasn't until an hour into my car ride home that I would come to that very conclusion myself. I still don't know what in my 11-year-old mind allowed me to realize that I was the one who should feel ashamed for how I had reacted and not my dad for revealing who he was, and I still don't know what compelled me to pick up my flip phone, dial my dad's number, and say, "I'm sorry, Dad. I love you. I am not mad at you anymore," but I did. What I do know for sure is that in that instant, our lives changed forever.

February 24, 2020

Nine Year Old Boy Wants To Come Out~He Asks Pete Buttigieg For Advice

Pete Buttigieg greets Zachary on stage at a campaign event in Denver on Feb. 22.
 Pete Buttigieg greets Zachary on stage at a campaign event in Denver on Feb. 22. Photographer: Win McNamee/Getty Images

Pete Buttigieg welcomed a nine-year-old boy on stage at a rally in Denver, Colorado, on Saturday night after the young boy asked the Democratic presidential candidate for help coming out as gay.
“Would you help me tell the world I’m gay too,” the boy wrote in a pre-submitted question that was read to Buttigieg. “I want to be brave like you.” Buttigieg, who is the first major openly gay presidential candidate, was momentarily speechless. The crowd, numbering in the thousands, started to cheer “love is love,” as the young boy, Zachary, was brought onto the stage.

January 13, 2020

DJ Qualls Comes Out Gay But Some Are Saying thought He Was Out Already!

    Were He and I The Only Ones That knew He was Gay?    I don't think so...          

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DJ Qualls has come out as gay.
The 41-year-old actor – best known for his work in The New GuyRoad Trip, and Supernatural – opened up about his sexuality while on stage at Jim Jeffries‘ stand-up comedy show.
“It is from 11:20pm. I just came out on stage at a @jimjefferies show in San Diego. Yep, I’m gay. Been gay this whole time,”DJ wrote on Twitter on Friday night (January 10). 
He added, “Tired of worrying about what people would think of me. Tired of worrying about what it would do to my career.”
DJ worked with Jim in the FX comedy series Legit and he also appeared on The Jim Jeffries Show in 2018. From 2015 through 2018, DJ played a gay character on the Amazon Prime Video series The Man in the High Castle.

It is 11:20pm. I just came out on stage at a @jimjefferies show in San Diego. Yep, I’m gay. Been gay this whole time. Tired of worrying about what people would think of me. Tired of worrying about what it would do to my career.

December 19, 2019

These Young Well Developed Athletes Will Tell You, There is Power in Coming Out


I am quite a late bloomer in rowing. I only started when I was 28. Growing up, I used to play basketball and tennis. 
Although I loved both sports, I had to give them up to go to college.
It didn’t take long before I got addicted to the sport. Because we train five times a week, your fellow rowers quickly become your second family. Training so much and so hard creates a special bond between everybody. ​
Besides being a competitive rower in Belgium, I also coach young rowers. Teaching them to row is the main job, but equally important to me is making sure that they feel at ease and that everybody can be his or her true self. 
Because we see each other all the time, I want the club to be a safe place of acceptance and tolerance.
That is why I started a social media campaign — #samesportdifferentsexuality — to call out homophobia in sports and encourage tolerance and acceptance. 
I came out as gay when I was 23, after five years of hiding it. Looking back I wish I didn’t wait this long and I certainly don’t wish the stress I felt upon anyone else. By launching #samesportdifferentsexuality I hope some people will find the support they need and can stop hiding who they really are. ​
It was very important to me to include straight athletes in this project. If you are looking for acceptance in sports, I’m convinced that both straight and queer athletes have to work together. ​
With the reach of social media, taking a picture with my fellow rowers can have a positive impact on closeted athletes. 
I remember being nervous the day before the launch. I was telling a friend I hoped I could reach a few hundred people. It turned out I didn’t need to worry. The campaign became national news here in Belgium. The big newspapers and radio stations called me non-stop and we were even asked to do a TV talk show that night. After a few days, more than 200,000 people had seen our pictures. I can’t explain how grateful I am for all the support. A huge thank you to Outsports for helping me to share this message in other countries. ​
Simon Haerinck, second from right, with his rowing teammates.
 Louis Kerckhof
 I received hundreds of messages. It took me a while to read them all. A few of them really touched me.
 After the launch of our campaign, a 21-year-old closeted volleyball player, Eduard from Belgium. send me a message that he has always been afraid of his coach, who he thought was homophobic.
Eduard never had the courage to come out to his team. I really connected with him and I told him about the idea behind the campaign. 
Inspired by our talk, he told his coach the next day that he was gay. Although he was super nervous and afraid, he told me, he found the courage to do so. The outcome was very positive for him. His coach didn’t mind and told him he considered him one of the guys.
Eduard texted me the next day that a huge weight was lifted off his shoulders and that he couldn’t thank me enough. Just for this reason, I am happy we did this campaign and hope we can inspire more people.
The attention it got proved to me that a lot of people agree that homophobia in sports is still a big issue. However, I feel we are going in the right direction and received a lot of messages from straight people showing their love and understanding. ​
I still have some other things planned for this campaign, so stay tuned. Let’s keep going.​​
Simon Haerinck, 34, is a rower and rowing coach for the 10 -14-year-old at the Royal Rowing Club in Ghent Belgium. He also manages a sports hotel in Ghent. Sport is a big part of his life so that is why his social media campaign is so important to him. He can be reached by email or Instagram (@simonhaerinck)
Story editor: Jim Buzinski

November 26, 2019

Coming Out Gay Made Me a Better Athlete "Michael Gunning"

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Michael Gunning

I started swimming at a very early age and if I’m totally honest, I hated it at first. Neither of my parents is strong swimmers, so they put me into lessons. But it wasn’t long until I began to love the water and was always playing and messing around in it when I should have been paying attention to the instructor.

 During my school years though, people always used to say to me ‘black people don’t swim’. Yet here I was, a black man who loved swimming. I quite liked the fact that I was different and was doing something that many people didn’t understand or really even think possible. Competitive swimming and sport have been a huge part of my life for the past 15 years, but through that time I’ve struggled and worried about how my sexuality would be perceived when I started representing my country (Team GB until 2016 and since then, Jamaica) on the world stage. Because of this, I suppressed my feelings for a long time and wasn’t open about who I was. 

It wasn’t until I decided to take time away from the sport last summer to really find myself and go through my own journey in addressing, accepting and being open about my sexuality. I ended up taking part in the E! Reality series The Bi Life and it was a transformative experience. 

Although it was daunting to come out on television, I have no regrets. Being in that villa of like-minded people who understood what it’s like to feel different was exactly what I needed.  I didn’t really grow up with many LGBTQ role models – especially in sport – so there wasn’t much out there to help me learn about who I was and feel OK in my own skin. Particularly as a black gay sportsman, I didn’t see anyone who looked like me being open about who they are and who they love. 

Seeing yourself reflected in someone else and their experience can be such a powerful, personal affirmation, but for so long I was lacking that. Still, I also never imagined that my ‘coming out’ story on the show would have sparked so many discussions within the LGBTQ sporting community. Many of these discussions are still ongoing because the sport is still a place where many LGBTQ people don’t feel welcome, or they actually feel excluded. 

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Stonewall research found that four in 10 LGBTQ people (43 percent) think public sporting events aren’t welcoming for them. Some may find this shocking, some may think it’s not surprising at all, but I think it shows why it’s so important we keep conversations going about sexuality, gender identity, and sport.  When I came out, everyone reacted better than I could have ever imagined. This past year, I’ve traveled to Australia, Switzerland, South Korea, and Puerto Rico for international swimming competitions and I’ve had nothing but love and support for my coming out story. 

While that doesn’t mean that’s going to be the case for everyone, I’ve learned that it’s OK to come out when you’re ready. MORE: LIFESTYLE Debt Diaries: I racked up £13k of credit card debt from shopping The best eco-friendly decorations for a sustainable Christmas Stylist shares simple trick to create perfect winged eyeliner in seconds It’s always a personal decision and no one else knows what you’re going through, so someone should never feel pressured to come out. 

Challenging anti-LGBTQ attitudes in sport can’t just rest on the shoulders of LGBTQ athletes – that’s a burden we all need to bear and play a part in tackling. What I will say is that all my friends and family have seen a massive change in my personality because I’m finally owning who I am. I swim at my best when I’m happy, and coming from a Caribbean heritage I’ve been given a bigger voice and platform to be a role model. 

I’m now a Stonewall Sports Champion for athletes still competing in their sport. I became a better athlete after I came out because I was no longer worrying about hiding a part of myself from everyone around me. My hope, dream, and ambition now are to carry on fighting to make sport a more inclusive place for athletes, so everyone can be their authentic selves. Sport and so many LGBTQ people will be all the better for it.

August 25, 2019

Lee Pace Talk About His Coming Out

It's been 10 years since Pushing Daisies was canceled by ABC, devastating fans of the dark comedy, but star Lee Pace has hinted that the show could be brought, well, back to life.
"Whenever I get together with [creator] Bryan [Fuller], we kind of talk about how great it would be to get the gang back together," Pace said Friday during an interview on BuzzFeed News' AM to DM. "It'd be so much fun." 
The quirky offbeat show followed pie-maker Ned (Pace), who had the ability to bring the dead back to life. But touching them a second time would kill them permanently. After partnering with a private investigator, they develop a scheme to bring murder victims back to life briefly in order to get reward money for solving the case.
The show won a suite of Emmys and Pace was nominated for his performance as Ned, but the series only lasted two seasons before it was canceled. Fuller has spoken of his desire to bring back the show, and Pace said he and his costars would definitely be down.
"Everyone's busy, though! It'd be hard to wrangle everyone back up for it," he told AM to DM, "but I know everyone would be interested!"

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Pace, who is currently starring as eccentric automaker John DeLorean in the movie Driven, has also appeared in the computer drama Halt and Catch Fire as well as Guardians of the Galaxy and Peter Jackson's Hobbit trilogy.
Last year, after appearing on Broadway in Angels In America, he became flustered during an interview with W magazine when the reporter asked him what his sexual orientation was.
"I’ve dated men. I’ve dated women. I don’t know why anyone would care. I’m an actor and I play roles," he said. "To be honest, I don’t know what to say — I find your question intrusive.”
He later tweeted about the interview, describing himself as "a member of the queer community."

In a recent phone interview, I was asked questions that I wasn’t expecting and found myself momentarily at a loss for the right words. My privacy is important to me, so I protect it. When interviewed by the media, I keep the focus on my work.
As a member of the queer community, I understand the importance of living openly, being counted, and happily owning who I am. That’s how I’ve always lived my life...

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Asked by BuzzFeed News if anything had changed since his public coming-out, Pace laughed and said things were "pretty much the same."
"I never felt like I was in [the closet], so I don't know what to say about it," Pace said. "It didn't really feel like that much of a change." 
"I'm 40 years old. I've been who I am my whole life," he added. "It's not like anything has altered."
Watch the full interview with Lee Pace:

Full interview: @leepace joins to talk his new film , how coming out as queer has impacted his life, whether we can ever expect a "Pushing Daisies" reboot, and more

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