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March 24, 2020

OutSports Reports 10X National Champion Denis Finnegan Comes Out Gay

Denis Finnegan looks to the future as an open book, with hope and ready to help any other LGBTQ athletes looking to contribute their voice.
Denis Finnegan is a national champion. And he’s been a national champion 10 times over. That’s some real dominance. Few people in the world, in any sport, can claim that many titles over a decade.

Finnegan also happens to be gay. That’s not something lost on him. While it’s been just a small part of who he is as a person, and an even smaller part as an athlete, in recent years he has drifted more and more to coming out publicly not for himself, but to help other LGBTQ people in sports — and in particular track and field — who may feel alone. 

“For younger people it will hopefully give them more confidence in what they’re doing,” Finnegan told me on my Five Rings To Rule Them All podcast. “There are still people who are scared or unsure of what’s happening, so I hope just telling my story might help one person notice there’s more acceptance out there.”

In the podcast interview, Finnegan talks about why he drifted toward track and field and away from team sports like basketball and Gaelic football, which he played as a youth.

“Athletics was always a place that, because it was quite mixed, it was a place I could have gotten away from everything,” he said.

It’s a theme we’ve heard from many gay men, who drifted away from the locker-room machismo environments of team sports and embraced individual sports like track and field.

 "I think those sports, because they were a team sport with males, there were times when it wasn’t comfortable,” Finnegan said. “Athletics was always my favorite sport, it was always the sport that was the one that was the most open. I’d be training with girls, I’d be training with guys, and I think that did help a bit. I was never worried about any kind of comments on the track. But when I was going for, say, football, it was more of an issue.”

For Finnegan, sports was a part of his identity, and finding a way to continue in sports beyond his university days was important to him. 
“I loved sport and my whole family was sporty. I’d want to be doing the sports, but there was a part of them I wasn’t enjoying at all.”

The interview with Finnegan was raw and real, discussing the impact of being publicly “closeted” on his personal life, as well as other aspects of his public and private journey.

When I asked Finnegan if there was anything else he wanted to be sure to add, he pointed to a speech by Theodore Roosevelt that has resonated with him over the years. 

I paste it hear because it reflects with so much of what Finnegan told me about being one person in a sport trying to earn accolades and make change: That speaks to the man that Finnegan is, as well as the hopes and dreams of a national champion to contribute to an international conversation about the acceptance of LGBTQ people.  

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, and comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
You can listen to the entire interview with Finnegan on the player above.
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March 6, 2020

Anti Gay Republican Ex Congressman of Illinois Aaron Shocks Comes Out Gay

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 I reported a couple of times in the past that he was a hyppocrite for being anti gay when he was just that.

 While he was a member of Congress representing Illinois from 2009 to 2015, Republican Rep. Aaron Schock voted against many measures that would have helped the LGBT community, earning a pathetic score of zero on the Human Rights Campaign’s Congressional scorecard. Chief among his controversial positions were a vote against the repeal of the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, and a vote against the Matthew Shepard Act, which expanded federal hate crime laws to include attacks motivated by a victim’s gender identity or sexuality.

But five years after the congressman resigned at age 33 amid investigations into his alleged misuse of taxpayer funds, Schock has come out as gay himself. In a lengthy essay posted on Instagram on Thursday, Schock said that he wanted to make a public announcement “to remove any doubt and to finally validate who I am as a person.” 

Partially thanks to stereotypes about gay men, rumors around Schock’s sexually have existed since he rose to national prominence with his election to the House. The fact that he was unmarried, dressed well, posed shirtless on the cover of Men’s Health, and had an office that was decorated to look like a room in “Downton Abbey” all led to speculation that Schock was gay. In 2019, after he left office, he was photographed partying with gay men and kissing one of them, removing almost any doubt months before Schock confirmed the truth.

“He spent entirely too much time in the gym for a straight man,” Rep. Barney Frank, who is gay, said while Schock was still a congressman. He then defended his comments by arguing that, regardless of his sexuality, Schock was no ally to gay people.
“When you are in public office and you vote opposite to the way you live your life, no I don’t think you have privacy,” Frank said.

Schock seemed apologetic about his old political positions in his essay, writing that, if he were in Congress now, he “would support LGBTQ rights in every way [he] could.” But also, when anticipating the inevitable criticism that he should have fought harder while in office, he shifts the blame a bit, noting that when he was elected in 2008, presidential candidates John McCain, Barack Obama, and Hillary Clinton all opposed gay marriage.

“That fact doesn’t make my then position any less wrong,” he said, “but it’s sometimes easy to forget that it was leaders of both parties who for so long wrongly understood what it was to defend the right to marry.”

Lauren Theisen

New York Daily News
 Lauren Theisen is a journalist and hockey fan originally from Michigan who covers national breaking stories for the New York Daily News. Before arriving at NYDN, she wrote for publications including Deadspin, Vice, Jezebel, The Guardian, and Popular Science.


February 17, 2020

Rick Cosnett, Vampire Diaries, Comes Out Gay

Rick Cosnett, who starred on The Flash and The Vampire Diaries, has come out as gay in an honest and cheerful post on Instagram.
The actor, best known for playing Iris’ (Candice Patton) love interest in the first season of The Flash as well as one of The Vampire Diaries‘ season 5 villains, shared the confessional video on Thursday with the caption, “Just me. Hello.” 
“Hi everyone. Dramatic pause. I’m gay,” Cosnett says in the selfie video. “I just wanted everyone to know because I’ve made a promise to myself to live my truth every day and sometimes that is a really hard thing to do when you have all these subconscious things that you don’t even know about from childhood and society and from just life.”

October 8, 2019

The fist Hockey Player Co Come Out Gay in Denmark, 27 Yr Old Jon Lee-Olsen

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Jon Lee-Olsen

The 27-year-old becomes the first professional male ice hockey player to come out as gay in Denmark and joins Lars Peter Karlsson of Sweden and Brendan Burke of Canada as the third openly gay professional ice hockey player in the world, per TV 2.
“There’s a risk that some people might shout and heckle me while I’m playing matches. It’s something I have to be ready for and be mature about. But I feel that I’m ready to show that you can be gay and play ice hockey,” said Lee-Olsen. “It took longer than I expected, but now I’m ready to stand up for myself and others.” Note: He spoke in Danish, which we translated to English for Outsports readers. 
While the NHL has been doing more in recent years to show support of its fans in the LGBTQ community, there’s never been an out man in the NHL. Still, Danish NHL player Lars Eller of the Washington Capitals has shown full support on Lee-Olsen’s coming out, hoping that his actions will inspire others in their sport to come out too. “It’s special. You might say that about any sport, but ice hockey has a very macho culture, so I think it must not have been an easy decision for him. It’s very brave.”
Unlike women’s pro hockey which is home to a number of out players and wide LGBTQ acceptance within the NWHL, Lee-Olsen’s coming out represents a meaningful shift for men’s hockey and inspiring courage in gay boys and men aspiring to be in the NHL one day.
You can watch the full interview (in Danish) with Lee-Olsen on TV 2 PLAY.

August 24, 2019

Alec Smith Comes Out "I hated Myself Being Attracted to Boys"

Alec Smith can squat 440 pounds and deadlift 505, but no lift was as hard as recording the four-minute video he released today where he came out as gay.

“Took a DNA test, turns out I’m gay.” Smith posted on Instagram.

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In a halting voice and at times on the verge of tears, Smith, 26, told his 311,000 followers that he has struggled with his sexuality since he was 12.

“I’m gay and I’m at the point in my life now where I’m OK with that. I’ve accepted it and I’m happy with who I am.

“It’s been a struggle, it really has. My whole life I’ve known that I was different. ...

“I hated myself for being attracted to guys.”
Smith is an accomplished CrossFit athlete who won a silver medal at this year’s CrossFit Games in the team competition. He plans to compete in the next CrossFit Games. The CrossFit Open takes place Oct. 10 through Nov. 11.

In the video, he traced an arc familiar to most LGBTQ people — denial, then fear, then acceptance. He threw himself into sports to distract himself from dealing with his sexuality, but slowly came out to people and became happier.

July 12, 2019

Juan Di Pace 'The Story of Your Life’ Comes Out Gay

“Many years later and still justifying my being gay with my critic, I get offered the role of a lifetime: Jesus Christ,” Di Pace, who was raised Catholic, said. “Well, you know, of all the people in the world that could play this part, they gave it to me.
“So there I am, hanging on the cross… in Morocco… and I look up at the sky, and I think, ‘You could still strike me down with lightning. Are you sure you want me to play your son?'” he continued. “Instead, what I felt was an overwhelming feeling of love and acceptance and freedom that I could never even put into words. A message from God? Maybe.”
He added: “Words are like universes and we are musicians who can create universes with them.” 

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The fifth and final season of Fuller House will air later this year on Netflix.
Di Pace has been a main cast member since the show first started streaming in 2016, and has also starred in TNT’s revival of Dallas and in 2008 film Mamma Mia!.
In addition, the actor — who also sings and directs — appeared on the 27th season of Dancing With the Stars.
Watch Di Pace’s TedX talk below:

March 20, 2019

Sam Smith Comes Out As Nonbinary

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By Gwen Aviles

Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter Sam Smith has come out as gender nonbinary.
“I’m not male or female. I think I float somewhere in between,” Smith said Friday on actor Jameela Jamil’s new Instagram show, “I Weigh Interviews.”
Smith said when he saw the words "nonbinary" and "genderqueer" and heard people speak about these identities, which are used to describe those who identify as neither exclusively male nor female, he thought, "Fuck, that's me."
While many nonbinary and gender-nonconforming individuals prefer to use the gender-neutral pronouns “they” and “them,” several news reports claim Smith still prefers male pronouns, like “he” and “him."

While this is the first time Smith has explicitly identified as nonbinary, the performer has previously talked about his gender identity lacking a label. In an October 2017 interview with The Sunday Times, Smith said, "I don't know what the title would be, but I feel just as much woman as I am a man."  During his "I Weigh Interviews" appearance, Smith also discussed his ongoing body-image struggles. Though he said he's achieved greater self-acceptance over the years, he said he has “always had a war between my body and my mind.” He revealed that he had liposuction when he was 12 after a doctor discovered he was developing breasts because his body was storing high levels of estrogen in his chest.
Lee Airton, an assistant professor of gender and sexuality studies at Queen’s University and author of the book “Gender: Your Guide,” told NBC News that it’s “wonderful that folks in the public life can come out as they are.” However, Airton stressed that nonbinary people have always existed.
“There are nonbinary people in all walks of life, in every position you can think of,” Airton said. “People might feel being nonbinary is a new thing, but it’s a re-emergence.” 
Smith is not the only celebrity to identify as nonbinary. "Billions" star Asia Kate Dillon, "Transparent" creator Jill Soloway and "RuPaul's Drag Race" contestant Valentina also identify as nonbinary.
A growing number of states across the U.S. now legally recognize nonbinary gender identities on official documentation. At least eight states and Washington, D.C., offer a gender-neutral option on driver’s licenses and state-issued ID cards, while at least five permit gender-neutral birth certificates.

September 19, 2018

Bert and Ernie Come Out Gay They Have Been Much More Tham Roommates For A Long Time

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He compared his own relationship with acclaimed editor Arnold Glassman to the characters. “I always felt that without a huge agenda, when I was writing Bert and Ernie, they were. I didn’t have any other way to contextualize them. The other thing was, more than one person referred to Arnie and I as ‘Bert and Ernie,’ ” Saltzman recalled. However, Sesame Workshop tweeted a statement denying Saltzman’s assertion hours later.
“As we have always said, Bert and Ernie are best friends. They were created to teach preschoolers that people can be good friends with those who are very different from themselves,” the tweet reads. “Even though they are identified as male characters and possess many human traits and characteristics (as most Sesame Street Muppets do), they remain puppets, and do not have a sexual orientation.” 
Of course, Bert and Ernie are pop culture icons. They even covered The New Yorker in July 2013, which Saltzman referenced in his interview. More recently, the duo remade the theme song of The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, which skyrocketed Will Smith to fame. In the Muppet version, they rap about how they met. 
 “I said, ‘hello’ when I got near,” Bert sings in the video, released on Sesame Street‘s YouTube channel. “He said …” “Oh what’s that? I got a banana in my ear,” Ernie adds.
“Wanna be friends who laugh learn and share?” Bert responds. “Ernie pointed to the chair and said …” as Ernie continues, “Sit right there.”
“One half of a whole, one half a pair,” Bert sings.
“This is the story of how we became Ernie and Bert. What a pair,” Ernie concludes.

September 14, 2018

Tadd Fujikawa The First Professional Golfer to Come Out Gay

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Professional golfer Tadd Fujikawa announced Tuesday on Instagram that he is gay.
"So...I'm gay," the 27-year-old wrote in his caption. "Many of you may have already known that. I don't expect everyone to understand or accept me. But please be gracious enough to not push your beliefs on me or anyone in the LGBTQ community. My hope is this post will inspire each and every one of you to . be more empathetic and loving towards one another."'s Dylan Dethier reported Fujikawa is the first male professional golfer to come out publicly. According to Outsports' Cyd Zeigler, he is the first pro to come out who has appeared in the U.S. Open. 
Per Zeigler, Fujikawa hadn't come out to anyone in golf prior to his social media post, but the reaction has been positive.
"The love and support have been overwhelming," he said following the announcement. "I'm so glad that I came out. I can finally be the best version of me."
As a golfer, the Hawaiian is best known for being the youngest to ever qualify for the U.S. Open as a 16-year-old in 2006. His career hasn't blossomed as expected, and he is ranked 2,042nd in the world.
He won the Hawaii State Open in 2017, though his only PGA Tour appearance in the past five years was the 2017 Sony Open in which he missed the cut.
Still, his announcement could be a groundbreaking moment for the sport.
"I can't wait for the day we all can live without feeling like we're different and excluded," Fujikawa added in his Instagram post. "A time where we don't have to come out, we can love the way we want to love and not be ashamed. We are all human and equal after all. So I dare you...spread love. Let's do our part to make this world a better place."

July 3, 2018

Major League Soccer Player Collin Martin Has Come Out As Gay

Major League Soccer player Collin Martin has come out as a gay man, making him the second-ever MLS player to do so.
Martin, who's a midfielder for Minnesota United, announced his sexuality on Twitter, just hours before his team was scheduled to host a “Pride Match” in support of the LGBT community.
Acknowledging that his friends, family and team members have known his sexuality for “many years,” Martin wrote: “Tonight my team, Minnesota United, is having their Pride night. 
“It’s an important night for me - I’ll be announcing for the first time publicly that I am an openly gay player in Major League Soccer.”
The 23-year-old continued: “Today, I’m proud that my entire team and the management of Minnesota United know that I am gay. I have received only kindness and acceptance from everyone in Major League Soccer and that has made the decision to come out publicly that much easier.” Martin has played Major League Soccer for the last six years and is currently in his second season with Minnesota. 
He is the second player to come out during a playing career, following Robbie Rogers' announcement in 2013 before immediately retiring as a Leeds player.
Rogers, who returned to play for the Los Angeles Galaxy, responded to Martin on Twitter, writing: “Love this! So so inspiring thank you, Collin! Good luck this season, except against the LA Galaxy.” 
Concluding his post, Martin expressed his gratitude to his teammates for “their unconditional support for who I am.”
"I want to take this moment to encourage others who play sports professionally or otherwise to have confidence that sport will welcome them wholeheartedly," he wrote. “June is Pride month, and I am proud to be playing for Pride, and to be playing as an out gay man." 
In response to Martin’s announcement, MLS Commissioner Don Garber said in a statement: “We admire Collin’s courage, and are proud of him and of the support from the soccer community.”
Martin’s teammates and fans also shared messages of support.
“You the man Col! Proud to call you a teammate and a friend! Now let’s go get this W!” said teammate Christian Ramirez.
Martin’s former team, DC United, wrote: “Sending you love and support from DC, Collin! Have fun tonight!”  
According to their website, MNUFC was the “first professional sports team to sign the Athlete Ally pledge in October of 2014, demonstrating a commitment to equality and inclusiveness - two guiding principles that the club has carried forward with it into Major League Soccer.”
To celebrate their commitment to the LGBT community, players will exit the tunnel surrounded by “massive rainbow scarves” and will be sporting rainbow-colored number decals.
Chelsea Ritschel in New York

June 18, 2018

Amanda Stenberg Comes Out Gay

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Amandla Stenberg came out as gay in a new interview for Wonderland.
The Everything, Everything star shared a picture of the corresponding shoot and cover story on Instagram. 
"OUT & PROUD," part of her post read. "So happy to say the words Yep, I'm Gay in official print."
In the piece, Stenberg said she released "joyful and overwhelmed sobs" upon realizing her sexuality.
"I was so overcome with this profound sense of relief when I realized that I'm gay—not bi, not pan, but gay—with a romantic love for women," she said. "All of the things that felt so internally contrary to my truest self were rectified as I unravelled a long web of denial and self deprivation. Like oh, maybe there's a reason why I kissed my best friends and felt ashamed growing up. Or watched lesbian porn and masturbated (and more) with my friends at sleepovers. Or stifled a scream of horror the first time I saw a penis and had to convince myself with much internal strife that I was enjoying what was going down. Or could only find attraction towards gay men and femme boys who damn near had the sensibility of a woman. Or developed earth shattering, all consuming crushes on… GIRLS!" 
She then added, "I was flooded with a sense of calm and peace because everything that I struggled with or felt discomfort around finally made sense to me, and once those floodgates opened and years of pent up pain and shame were released, I found the freedom to live my best life waiting for me just underneath." 
She also cited Mila Kunis as her "first lesbian crush" and recalled watching her performance in After Sex. Other early crushes included Mirage from The Incredibles and Christina Vidal from Freaky Friday.
In addition, the Hunger Games actress shared her appreciation for being gay.
"I'm grateful for how being gay has afforded me this ability to experience and understand love and sex, and therefore life, in an expansive and infinite way," she told the publication. "The continual process of unlearning heteronormativity and internalized homophobia can be difficult, but one of the biggest blessings lies in the magic that comes from having to understand love outside the confines of learned heterosexual roles. It is the power to reveal the ethereal love that exists within us underneath socialization. Once I was able to rid myself of those parameters, I found myself in a deep well of unbounded and untouchable love free from the dominion of patriarchy. My sexuality is not a byproduct of my past experiences with men, who I have loved, but rather a part of myself I was born with and love deeply." 
To read the full interview, visit

May 8, 2018

Jay-Z's Mom Says She Was Not Free Until She Came Out Gay

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Jay-Z's mum has spoken of how supportive her son was when she told him she was gay.
Gloria Carter told an audience at the GLAAD Media Awards that it was the first time she's spoken to anyone about who she really was.
The mother-of-four was presented with a special recognition going for her contribution to his song Smile, released last year.
She said: "Smile became a reality because I shared with my son who I am." "My son cried and said: 'It must have been horrible to live that way for so long.'" 
"My life wasn't horrible," she added.
"I chose to protect my family from ignorance. I was happy but I was not free."
Jay-Z has previously told how he cried with joy when his mother spoke to him about being a lesbian and of being in love with her female partner.
In the song on the rapper's latest 4:44 album, he says: "Mama had four kids, but she's a lesbian/Had to pretend so long that she's a thespian. Had to hide in the closet, so she medicate/Society shame and the pain was too much to take."
He told US talk show host David Letterman: "For my mother to have to live as someone that she wasn't and hide and like, protect her kids — and didn't want to embarrass her kids... for all this time. 
"For her to sit in front of me and tell me, 'I think I love someone'. I mean, I really cried," he told the David Letterman Netflix show.
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He said he had long known she was gay, but the pair only had their first conversation about it last year.
Their chat came about while Jay-Z was making his latest album 4.44.
"This was the first time we had the conversation, and the first time I heard her say she loved her partner," he said.
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