Showing posts with label Gay Grandson. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gay Grandson. Show all posts

February 15, 2019

When He Came Out His Mom Said She Would Mourn Not Getting a Grand Kid From Him But That Changed



"When I came out to my parents in 1988, my mom said she had to mourn the life that I wasn't going to be able to have," Andy Cohen tells PEOPLE exclusively
By  JESS CAGLE





 

Andy Cohen “always knew [he] wanted a family,” but he admits that he wasn’t sure becoming a father would ever become a reality for him.
“As a gay man, I never thought it was in the cards for me,” the Watch What Happens Live host, who welcomed son Benjamin Allen via surrogate on Feb. 4, told PEOPLE and Entertainment Weekly Editorial Director Jess Cagle in a candid interview for this week’s issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday.
“When I came out to my parents in 1988, my mom said she had to mourn the life that I wasn’t going to be able to have. And that life meant getting married and having kids,” recounts Cohen, 50.
“[At that time] people were dying of AIDS; [that’s] what was happening in the gay community. So all these years later, gay men are raising families and getting married. There were points where I thought that it was too late for me or that I was really focused on my career, and I was having too much fun to think about it. It was still there nagging at me in the back of my head.” want all the latest pregnancy and birth announcements, plus celebrity mom blogs? Click here to get those and more in the PEOPLE Parents newsletter
 "Turning 50 also played a big part,” Cohen continues. “I just realized that now was the time. From the time I decided, ‘Okay, I’m doing this,’ which was December 2017, for the entire year of 2018 I lived my life as though it was my last year on the planet.”
“I went to London twice. I followed the [Grateful] Dead on tour. I went to Israel for the first time. I went to Europe for three weeks. I took advantage of every opportunity, and it was a joyous, joyous year,” he raves.
“I knew that I was turning a page on that chapter in my life. It’s not to say that I can’t go to a party anymore, but things are changing.” 
Watch the full episode of The Jess Cagle Interview: Andy Cohen, streaming now on PeopleTV.com, or download the PeopleTV app on your favorite device.

January 28, 2019

LGBT Navajos Have Discovered a Powerful Ally and Surprisingly is Their Grandparents


                                                        
                              
LAUREL MORALES

When she was 5 years old, Michelle Sherman learned exactly what her mother thought of gay men.
"I remember seeing two guys holding hands, and then my mom's like, 'Oh, that's disgusting,' and so I was like, 'OK, maybe it is disgusting,' " Sherman says.
But then she realized she was attracted to girls and began to believe something was wrong with her too. At just 11 years old, Sherman attempted suicide.
Nationwide, the share of LGBT teens who attempt suicide is high — 23 percent. For Navajo LGBT youth, the rate is three times as high, according to the Navajo Nation's Diné Policy Institute.
Through her teens, Sherman tried to fit in on the northern edge of the Navajo Nation, but she was living a double life. When she was 19 years old, her sister walked in on Sherman and another female in her bedroom.
"She just barged in the door and, you know, yelled at me like, 'What the hell are you doing?' Like you shouldn't be doing this," Sherman says. "You know, [she] made me feel less human. Cuz she was like, 'What do you think Grandma's going to think about you?' "
That's when Sherman felt she had to leave the reservation and her family. She moved to Phoenix and began drinking heavily. It wasn't until she sought help from a Navajo medicine man to address her alcoholism that she reconnected with her grandmother.
It turns out that her grandmother embraced her as a lesbian.
Michelle Sherman found an unexpected LGBT ally when she came out — her 93-year-old grandmother, Alice Palmer.
Michelle Sherman/NPR
Alice Palmer, 93, and Sherman had always been close. And they are today again, now that Sherman has reconnected with her family. Even though Palmer is difficult to understand because of a stroke, she and her granddaughter spend a lot of time together. They watch wrestling, grind corn and go to flea markets.
A time before prejudice 
It's not unusual that Navajo grandparents are accepting of being LGBT while parents are not. Historians say federally run boarding schools and other assimilation tactics taught a generation of Navajos that same-sex relationships are wrong.
Navajo leadership also plays a role — in 2005 the tribal council passed the Diné Marriage Act, a law forbidding same-sex marriage.
"When I came out to my family, my mother of course took it the hardest. But my grandparents didn't," says Alray Nelson, a Navajo LGBT rights activist.
"We are seeing clearly the aftereffects of what colonialism can look like and how it really shifted our values as Navajo people," Nelson says. "Whereas at the time, if you were LGBTQ and growing up in Navajo traditional families, families celebrated that fact. They said that we were sacred. They said that we had sacred roles."
But returning to understandings that predate colonialism has helped the families of LGBT Navajos. Traditionalists believe that the "two spirited," as they're sometimes called, are powerful and that not all humans can be classified as male or female.
Navajo historian Jennifer Denetdale says the Diné creation story includes a nádleehí.
"Today we take the nádleehí as a being who was what we would call an intersex person today, meaning that this is a person who has sexual organs of the male and the female and is considered to be a third gender in Navajo society," Denetdale says.
When the first man and the first woman weren't getting along, it was the nádleehí who intervened.
Finding a purpose
In Michelle Sherman's family, her grandmother has persuaded other family members to open their minds. Even Michelle's mother, Virgie Sherman, agreed to go with her last June to the Diné Pride festival, where Michelle gave a speech.
"I was there for her," Virgie says. "She can talk to [the] audience. She wasn't even embarrassed about what she is. Yeah, so I'm proud of her."
Now 33, Michelle is working on her bachelor's degree at Haskell Indian Nations University. When she graduates, she plans to return to the Navajo Nation, where LGBT youth often don't have access to resources, let alone the Internet.
"If I want to keep inspiring, then why not do it at home?" Michelle says. "Just like my grandma, she's here. She still inspires people."
Michelle looks down at her forearm, where she has tattooed a black diamond, the same design her grandmother used to weave into rugs. On the other side of her arm are scars from her suicide attempt, reminding her every day that she is still here, that she has a purpose: to help Navajo youth like herself.

October 4, 2013

A Grand Dad Comes to The Defense of Gay Grandson After Mother Booted Him Out



                                                                    
  




What a gay child lost from his own mum, he recovered from his own grandfather. For members of the LGBT community, it's disheartening enough that society until this day continues to misunderstand them. But it's doubly depressing if it's your own parents, more so the mother who carried you in her womb, would become be the one to disown you.
On Oct 1, the online portal of FCKH8, a business entity that produces apparel and accessories for both gay and straight people, published on its Facebook page a letter of a grandfather.
The unidentified grandfather, writing to his daughter Christine, blasted her for her reaction and behaviour when she learned her son was gay.
Acting Superman to Chad, his grandson, the grandfather berated his own daughter for booting the kid out of her house just because he was gay.
"Chad didn't choose it [being gay] any more than he being left-handed," he wrote.

And then straightforwardly he told her, "I'm disappointed in you as a daughter."
"You're correct that we have a 'shame in the family,' but mistaken about what it is."
He continued then when she disowned her own child just because he was gay, that was 'the real 'abomination' here" because it goes "against nature."
Instead of trying to understand the turmoil his grandson is hurdling right now, "you, however, have made a choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded and backward."
The finale, albeit also sad, was the grandfather giving his daughter a dose of her own medicine.
"While we are in the business of disowning children, I think I'll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay [sic] put it) grandson to raise..."
Still hope remains because he did tell his daughter to give them a call.
Followers of FCKH8 on Facebook cheered on the doting and loving grandfather.
"I want to hug this supportive grandpa and slap his daughter!" Amanda Bean wrote.
"Best.Grandpa.Ever." Cori Lazarus-Search said.
"Bestest gramps ever!!!!!!! He wins the internet!!" Megan Woodcock Keegan wrote.
"Her son was ousted for what he was. She was ousted for what she did," Cheri Odum said in support of the grandfather's disowning his daughter.
Then again, he did say to call them up didn't he?
"'If you find your heart, give us a call.' She should really think about that line specifically," Amanda Adkins said.

As of Friday, grandfather's loving embrace of his gay grandson and brave front against his rather un-enlightened daughter had attracted 15,607 likes, and still counting. The post had been re-shared 7,705 times.
Below is the image of the letter:
Grandpa to the Rescue of Gay Grandson, Tells Own Daughter ‘You Are the Shame in this Family’ (Facebook/FCKH8.com)
Grandpa to the Rescue of Gay Grandson, Tells Own Daughter ‘You Are the Shame in this Family’ (Facebook/FCKH8.com)
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