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April 7, 2019

23 Yr Old 313 LBS In Nine Months Lost 156 LBS Only Gave Up ONE Thing

                     Image result for Ben Pamment ran out of excuses. The 6-foot New Zealander

At 23 years old, Ben Pamment ran out of excuses. The 6-foot New Zealander found himself weighing in at just over 313 pounds, and experiencing anxiety and depression. Though he suffered a knee injury years earlier, he could no longer think of a reason for being so unhealthy.
But, after “breaking up” with his best friend-sugar-he pulled off a staggering 156-pound weight loss transformation in nine short months, and found himself in a much healthier mental state, too. 
"My life before it all happened had been very difficult,” Pammet told Men's Health. “I was roughly always around the 253-pound mark, so I was always a bigger guy. I just never looked at it that way-as that’s who I always was, and who my friends and family always knew me to be.” 
For Pammet, his “downward spiral” began with that fateful knee injury in his early 20s. He proceeded to use it as an excuse to get out of just about everything in his life. 
“I would sit around and wait for something good to happen to me rather than getting out there and doing something to change the situation,” he said.
This period of waiting for something better to come along lasted for more than two years. In that time, Pammet said he “developed serious anxiety and depression where I basically closed myself off away from the world, and food and sugar became my two best friends.” 
One day, Pammet woke up and simply had enough. He was tired of being alone, without friends, and missing out on a life that was quickly passing him by. The one thing he had to overcome was the fear of his family and friends judging his new larger body. 
“I would avoid family events and going out because they hadn’t seen what I had become through my years of body abuse through bad habits and eating,” he said. 
But this fear ended up being the catalyst to push himself to become the absolute best version of himself. The first step for Pammet was reevaluating his eating habits and changing them for the better.
“It was incredibly hard, and I fell off the wagon a few times, but if you want something enough you will get there,” he said. For him, the biggest challenge was avoiding sugar altogether. (Think it’s easy to cut sugar out of your daily routine? Here’s what really happens to your body when you cut out sugar.) 
Next, he joined a gym. Though he was plagued with an injury and overweight, as an athlete, Pammet knew what to do and set small goals for himself that kept his fitness progressing. He did so through mixing a short interval cardio routine with a weight circuit five days a week. 
Just three weeks into his new lifestyle, Pammet’s mother sent him a photo. In those 21 days, Pammet lost about 22 pounds. And it showed. 
“The change was dramatic,” Pammet explained. “I posted it onto social media, as I was very proud. I was overwhelmed with support and comments and from there onward I felt like I had to keep going not only for myself but others as I’d become a role model and I didn’t want to show everyone I was a quitter.” 
Another benefit of his weight loss was his knee pain slowly subsiding. As he continued to lose weight, the pressure slowly released, and his muscles continued to get stronger. 
“I just had to take it day by day and do things that didn’t put stress on my joint but still giving my body the workout that it needed,” he said. “There were mentally challenging times, too, and times I would go home in tears or wanted to give up. But I always remembered that the bigger picture was the ultimate goal and the feeling I would get when I achieved it.”
And achieve it, he did. In nine short months, Pammet dropped to 162 pounds, marking a 156-pound weight loss. 
"To reach the weight that I have is still crazy to me, as it hasn’t even been a year of my life,” he said. “It feels like I’ve been doing it for years but at the same time, it’s flown past so fast.” 
Now, Pammet said his “whole mental state” has completely changed. He’s now able to share a side of himself he never knew existed with those around him. “My mindset and thought pattern has changed dramatically everything about the mental side has changed, and I’m very positive, where 11 months ago you wouldn’t even whisper the word positive and associate it with me,” he said. 
As for advice he’d give others? “You only get out what you put in," Pammet said.
“If you want something bad enough you will get it,” he added. “Start slow, and set yourself very small goals that you know you can achieve. When you do achieve them, you will feel amazing and continue to set more and more goals. Always keep them realistic and in sight.” 
Now, Pammet said his “whole mental state” has completely changed. He’s now able to share a side of himself he never knew existed with those around him. “My mindset and thought pattern has changed dramatically everything about the mental side has changed, and I’m very positive, where 11 months ago you wouldn’t even whisper the word positive and associate it with me,” he said. 
A s for advice he’d give others? “You only get out what you put in," Pammet said.
“If you want something bad enough you will get it,” he added. “Start slow, and set yourself very small goals that you know you can achieve. When you do achieve them, you will feel amazing and continue to set more and more goals. Always keep them realistic and in sight.”

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December 18, 2012

A Fighter’s Penis Broked Not In The Ring But During Sex


MMA is a pretty dangerous combat sport that can lead to some serious injuries. Who would figure that the most gruesome injury one fighter suffered actually happened out of the cage?
Ray Elbe, who competed on Season 9 of “The Ultimate Fighter,” announced on Saturday that he sustained one of the most horrifying injuries we can think of: a broken penis. No, the injury did not occur while he was fighting; it actually happened while he was having sex.
Elbe explained in a video posted on his website over the weekend that the injury occurred while he was having sex with his girlfriend in Malaysia on Dec. 3. He says his penis broke (ed note: there is no bone to break) when his girlfriend landed hard on him. Blood began spraying everywhere.
“I ended up fracturing my penis bone … I tore the urinary tract, tore some membrane — as it happened you can imagine the shock and the horror that was going on,” Elbe said in the video. “I jumped up from the intimate moment, blood shooting out of my groin. I immediately tried to run to the shower, felt myself losing consciousness, tried to walk back to the bed at which point I collapsed, knocking myself out. I gave myself 10 stitches and fractured a couple teeth.”
Elbe says he tried treating himself after coming to, and that his girlfriend was frantic. She called emergency while he was laying naked on the floor in a pool of blood.
Elbe says he spent 13 days — including his birthday — in the hospital, and that he’s still using a catheter to urinate. He says he’s going back for a checkup on Dec. 19 where the catheter should be removed.
Elbe was obviously embarrassed about the injury, but he says he went public about it to raise awareness for it.
“This is probably the worst nightmare you can think of,” he said. “The biggest problem people suffering from this medical emergency encounter…is not immediately seeking medical attention.
“I hope my story helps someone with a similar injury in some way…as this experience is truly something you would never wish on,” Elbe wrote on his blog.
Over Twitter, Elbe described the experience as coming “as close to death as you can come without dying.”
Doctors expect him to make a full recovery.
We’ve seen other athletes get hurt during sex, but this is the first time I’ve ever heard of someone breaking their penis. I honestly didn’t even know that was possible, so I really do thank Elbe for sharing his story to help educate the public.
And here I was thinking sex was supposed to be an enjoyable experience …
Elbe has racked up thousands of dollars in medical expenses as a result of the accident. If you feel badly for him, or at least got a nice laugh out of his painful story, maybe you could see fit to donate a few bucks to him to help him pay for the medical bills. You can donate to him through paypal by sending money to the following email address, which is Ray’s
Note: A photo previously posted here misidentified a woman as Elbe’s girlfriend.
Photo credit: Ray Elbe/Twitter
About Larry Brown:
Larry Brown has over 10 years of professional sports media experience, working in online, radio, and TV capacities. He recently was a nationally syndicated sports radio host. Follow him on twitter @LBSports 

February 29, 2012

Don't Be the Worst: How to Be a Good Ex-Boyfriend

So you broke up. Big deal. Stop whining about it in public. And follow these simple rules for handling your ex

Not long ago, while I was traveling on business, I decided to take the opportunity to have one of Those Dinners with an ex-boyfriend who lived in town.
At this point, he had politely and maddeningly declined to speak to me for almost twice as long as we'd dated. But, as I'm one of those people who takes pride in being a Great Ex, this was the creepy hand-shaped birthmark on the otherwise unblemished cheek of my dating history. Also, because men find it super-attractive, I like to live everyday like I'm in a different straight-to-DVD romantic comedy. Remarkably, my ex agreed to my High 
Fidelity 2: The Kingdom of the Crystal Solipsism, and we met up.
Everything was going reasonably well. We were in a dark bar where The Shining was somewhat portentously projected on the wall, slurping martinis with two hands like cereal milk. Until round three or four, when he looked at me and said, "So, Fat Lincoln, huh?”  Busted.
Before I explain, I should point out that I was:
a) very hurt that this guy was silent treatment-ing me in the six intervening years since our breakup
b) writing about relationships for a living 
c) an immature and cringe-inducingly awful human being.
"Fat Lincoln" was part of an elaborate running joke in my writing, in which I made up new, horrible nicknames for the Ex Boyfriend Who Hurt My Feelings, and how he'd gained a few pounds and grown a scary beard. Basically I was like Sawyer from Lost if he wasn't a charming Southern con man, but more like a horrible ogre nightmare biotch.
If I ever thought for once that my ex-boyfriend was reading my work, I would never have referred to him as 
"Fat Lincoln," "ZZ Torpid," "Dom de la Williamsburg," "Andre the Giant Asshole," or "Hipster Orson Welles."
The point is: I'd behaved badly, and I didn't deserve Fat Lincoln's post-relationship friendship, which is something that takes a lot of work.And, while I spent years calling him names and resenting him for not wanting to be my best friend (What is wrong with me?), he got really into yoga, landed his dream job, and started sleeping with attractive, lunatic actresses. The yolk is on me, so to speak.
A bad breakup can turn even the most Jimmy Stewart-ian of us into bitter, slobbering monster people, but the world keeps getting flatter, and it's harder than ever not to tell everybody JUST HOW YOU FEEL with a late night status update of a Liz Phair YouTube video that perfectly sums up your feelings about that stupid whore, Leslie. 
In the old days, you had to settle for word of mouth. Or, you know, recording a cassette answering machine greeting that casually references how crazy hard your abs have gotten. Now, you can post that "Art of Losing” poem on your Tumblr with one hand, upload a Facebook photo of you and your sexy new haircut with the other, and make a ukulele cover of "Falling Down" with the other. (In this scenario you are ambidextrous and usingtabbed browsing and are a starfish.)
And I think you gents may have it worse than we do when it comes to expectations post-breakup behavior. It's a gender parity issue and I'm not encouraging it, but it's one of the few instances in which being the "hysterical” sex works in our favor.
We're encouraged to get a little crazy—to vent to our friends over shots, watch dumb British ensemble films, and mainline lo mein. We goad each other into moping—the phrase "mourning period" gets thrown around a lot—and having a good cry. I'm guilty of finding the sight of a sad guy a little physically repulsive.
If I walked in on my friend Andy clutching a forty and silently mouthing along to Beach House, I'd knock his laptop off the table and shout, "Ugh! Go camping!" If I were sitting at my favorite brunch spot (Hooters) and Iheard some girl telling a table full of her friends about how she just dumped a guy because his balls looked like "weird golden raisins," I'd think to my self, Oh no! Not raisin balls! Been there, girlfriend. And then I'd send over a round of scones.
But if I overheard a guy telling a table full of men, "The crazy bitch tried to feed my baby a heroin balloon and take him to Colombia," I'd get right out of my booth like, "The crazy WHAT tried to steal your baby and feed it heroin?”
 Then I'd take a huge snort of an HGH-spritzed handkerchief and demand that he address the goddess within his ex-girlfriend, and the goddess within all of us. SXNNNERRXXXXXXTTTT!
It's not fair, it's not egalitarian, and it's not very sisterly of me to admit. I guess keep paying me 89 cents to your dollar and take away my traveling pants.
The truth is, I think that men and women should try to modify the way we act in the days, weeks, and years following our breakups. True, there are some exes you shouldn't stay friends with: your sundry sociopaths, abusers or, yes, that one ex of yours who eats 
Klonopin like he's Brad Pitt in a Brad Pitt movie where Brad Pitt says to the director, "Hey, what if in this movie, my character has a thing where he's always eating Klonopin?"
Remember that initially you dated that person because you really liked them. Even if she ended up breaking yourheart, you liked her enough to ruin whatever potential friendship you could have had if you didn't mash your genitals together. I realized, while hanging out with Yoga Lincoln, that I have been part of the scorched earth policy of exes.
Sure, it took six years for me to stop being a monster asshole, but that's because the Z factor in these instances is time. Being angry forever is unhealthy, and the trick is waiting until all the crap dust has settled from the swirly manure cloud of breakup angst.
It's possible that it can take you any number of years to get over being sad or super-pissed, but let those be years in
which you get out your feelings in the privacy of your own home. As therapeutic as it feels to bad-mouth somebody who hurt you, it's ultimately the most unproductive of feelings.
Do what you need to. Cry. Scream. Break a vase. And look, maybe you'll never be friends with your ex, because it takes two people to call a truce. You can only control what you do, but if you choose to be the one who's not a dick, you'll feel much better about it. 
There's a Buddhist saying about how holding on to hot coals only burns your hand, and I firmly believe that people who think, I could write an epithet-filled email or I could frisbee golf this out rarelydie of one of those anger tumors.
I'm not saying you have to be friends. I'm just saying chill out and be open to the possibility that maybe in six years, you'll both be in a different place. A better, more mature one, where you also maybe get to have emotion-neutral sex.   Namaste.

January 21, 2012

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August 1, 2011

Male Make Up

Keromask Range
Man MakeupLike it or loathe it, some men wear make-up. 
Sometimes it is for fun, sometimes 
it’s almost necessary – whether it’s covering up unsightly bags 
before or after a night out, or, in a more
 serious scenario, covering up scars to give you confidence.
 Following the years of metrosexuality there is an apparent trend where
 men are returning to be ‘real men’. However, this trend is contradicted by the rise in
 sales and wealth of make-up products on the market, from concealers to bronzing
 powders. So So Gay has taken a look at some of the best products to help those that
 will help you look like a natural male beauty rather than a tangerine queent
First up is Yves Saint Laurent’s Touche Eclat pour Homme from their 
L’Homme range (Selfridges – £24.50), a light concealer for the eyes which not only
 covers unsightly bags but also illuminates, providing amazing coverage without
 being greasy. A must for the overworked or those who enjoy a good party and
 don’t want to wear the signs on their face. It has been a staple in women’s daily 
routines for many years and now thankfully they have repackaged it for men, not 
that it ever stopped any guys desperate for cover up whipping out the gold wand
 in a time of need. 
If you require more of an all over cover up solution then Jean Paul Gaultier’s 
Monsieur Range bronzing powder is a must (Boots - £30.65). Giving naturally
 bronzed all over coverage, the light powder contains reflective pigments that 
help even out the complexion leaving a smooth, even finish. Be sure to cover 
your neck and decolletage that is on show, otherwise you’ll run the risk of a 
make-up ‘tide line’ if you aren’t naturally tanned elsewhere.

For something offering a bit more cover then try the Keromaskrange. 
developed for use by the Red Cross to cover up war 
wounds and skin disorders in poverty stricken countries.
 Unfortunately, from time to time accidents happen and 
although many people might choose to wear their scars 
with pride, for some confidence can be knocked and they
 might feel they need a solution to cover the marks. 
This range includes a some great products, one of which
 is a plain uncoloured powder which covers rosacea extremely well.
Whatever your requirements there is a product for you. If you want to cover up
 blemishes or even out your skin tone then there are plenty of products out there
 to give you the result you require. Male skin is different in many ways from female
 skin, so try to invest in something designed specifically for your skin type – 
otherwise you may end up with your make-up running down your face at the 
worst possible moment.
by Stuart henshall

July 8, 2011

'Psychiatrist studies men closeted until middle age': Then He Comes Out

PHOTO: Gay psychiatrist Dr. Loren Olson studies men who remain closeted until middle age.

Growing up in the Iowa farm belt, Dr. Loren Olson always thought of himself as "heterosexual, with a little quirk."
He wondered why he had to work so hard at masculinity and attributed his feelings of being a "man-imposter" to the death of his father in a tractor accident when he was 3.
Olson went on to have a satisfying 18-year marriage and two daughters but, inside, he always knew something wasn't quite right. He describes "always editing my behavior and thoughts." But long after many men acknowledge their sexual orientation, he came out after the age of 40.
In his new book, "Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight," Olson, now 68 and semi-retired psychiatrist, examines the lives of closeted gay men, many of whom have sex with other men but deny they are homosexual.
"These men lead hidden lives and that's a very lonely place to be," he said. "They feel like they are one secret away from losing everything they love." Olson describes it as "a kind of sexual purgatory," and many turn to drugs and alcohol for solace.
In 2007, when Republicans distanced themselves from former Idaho Sen. Larry Craig after he was arrested in an airport bathroom in a sex sting operation, Olson was horrified.
"I felt personally attacked," he said. "In many ways, Sen. Craig is the same age and from the same kind of community and same period of time as I am. The important thing [Craig] said is, 'I am not gay,' but he didn't say, 'I did not have sex.'"
A 2006 study that was published in the Annals of Internal Medicine revealed that 10 percent of men who called themselves heterosexual have had sex with men, many of them married.
Olson's book weaves memoir with an online survey of 132 men who have sex with men. In seeking responses, he intentionally didn't use the word, "gay." He provides insight into their mindset and sexual habits: They avoid the intimacy of kissing and anal sex in their relationships.
"My sexual attraction, behavior and sex identity are all in alignment," Olson said. "Many men struggle to line these three things up in a way that gives them peace and comfort."
Olson also noted a real "disconnect" between the older and younger generation of gay men.
"There are a lot of really out and proud gay young men, but they don't know we exist or they don't really sense that we are authentically gay," Olson said. "They think we should have figured it out or are intentionally hiding and don't have the guts to come forward as they did."
The average age at which gay men come out has fallen steadily in four decades, according to a 2010 survey by the British LGBT group Stonewall. In the 60-plus group of those who had already come out, the average age was 37. For men and women in their 30s, the average age was 21 but it was 17 for the 18 to 24 age group.
Gays, lesbians or bisexuals who reveal their sexual orientation typically boost their self-esteem and experience less anger and depression, according to a 2011 University of Rochester study.
But men who come out in middle age face other barriers: financial insecurity, social isolation and being childless or estranged from their families, according to Judy Evans, a spokeswoman for the group Service and Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE).
"These older Americans came of age at a time when being gay was labeled a psychiatric disorder and there was overt discrimination," Evans said. "They are really not used to living lives so openly as the younger generation."When Olson came out, "I felt over the hill as a gay man, clueless about what gay meant and suddenly alone," he writes.Many men don't ever come out, in part because of the idea that "being gay is associated with being weak and powerless," he said. "Somehow we think we got away from that, but we still haven't. Part of it for my generation is giving up the privilege of being a man."Olson said he decided to tell his story because it wasn't unique. "I felt I needed to share some of my own secrets to make my story authentic. ... I needed to say, 'I know where you are; I have been there.'"Olson buried his attraction to men until, while still married, he fell in love with an Argentinean man, who was also married. They developed both a sexual and a deep emotional connection."I knew that the feelings were so powerful and strong that I would not be able to shut it down again," he said.Olson eventually divorced his wife, but the journey wasn't easy. "It created a lot of guilt," he said. "There was a lot of anger back and forth for a period of two or three years.By the time he was free to be gay, Olson had developed all the signs of clinical depression.He eventually embraced the gay community that he once derided as a "hedonistic lifestyle," joining a gay father's group in 1985. For the first time, he said, he experienced "a sense of sanctuary, a feeling of peace with myself among men who accepted me without the pretenses that by then had become so automatic."In 1988, a close friend from that group was murdered in a hate crime.Olson also felt tremendous guilt about disrupting his children's lives and it was "hard to give up the American dream," but said that divorce was harder on them than accepting that he was gay.Fears that he would be an outcast among his colleagues never materialized.Although intense, the relationship with the Latin American lover didn't last, and he formed a more lasting union with Doug, whom Olson wed in 2009, when gay marriage was legalized in Iowa.The couple, who had been together for 23 years, married in the presence of both their families, including Olson's two children and six grandchildren. He enjoys a positive relationship with his wife, who is now remarried.Marriage, he said, has "changed the dotted family line to a solid family line. ... I cherish the fact that I had kids and experienced that."After the wedding, the one daughter who had struggled with her father's choice told him, "I finally realized this not just a sex relationship, it's about loving another person."Olson said there is no universal path to coming out, but his advice to those in the closet is: "The loss is far less than imagined and the gain is far more."

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