Showing posts with label Boys. Show all posts
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October 11, 2018

Boys Talking About Sexual Assault Encouraged to Come to The Right Answers By Themselves




In the basement of a suburban Philadelphia home, a half-dozen high school freshman boys recently met to munch on chips and pretzels ... and to talk about sexual assault in the wake of the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation hearings.
A Jewish organization called Moving Traditions brought them together as part of its programs to encourage teenagers to talk about this and other difficult issues.
Volunteer group leader Cody Greenes, 35, introduced the week's topic by asking the boys to raise their hands if they've heard of the #MeToo movement. Then Greenes lead a discussion about the historical power differences between men and women and how that can play out when it comes to sex.
After talking about the larger issue, Greenes posed this question: "Do we believe that verbal consent is necessary?"
Most of the boys said yes, but one, David Levin, argued it isn't always simple. He described a situation on a bus where both people already said they're interested in each other and the girl purposely sat next to the boy. "And then she like puts a blanket around you two and lays down, and cuddles into you and grabs your hand so you can hold hands and stuff," says Levin, who suggested those are signs of consent.
Complicating the discussion, the boys talk about a case where verbal consent may not be enough, say if a movie producer asks a subordinate to have sex.
Arriving at the right answer on your own
Moving Traditions founder and CEO Deborah Meyer says the goal is not to tell teens how they should behave, but give them space and guidance to arrive at the right answer with their peers.
"We help guys uncover the tenderness and the connection and the joy in themselves, as a human being, and develop for themselves a sense of ethics and values and responsibility," Meyer says.
Talking about sexual assault and consent this way sounds different from what a lot of people heard in the past, often during presentations for incoming college freshman.
"We gave females rape whistles and mace and we told them to be careful when they went out. And then we would sit down and talk to men and tell them not to be rapists," says Sharyn Potter, Professor of Sociology at the University of New Hampshire.
Bringing in the bystanders
Potter says research shows that only a small percentage of men are perpetrators so it doesn't make sense to frame this as a men-versus-women problem. Instead, she focuses on educating the community with a "bystander intervention strategy".
"We teach people to be aware of these situations and then we give people the skills to intervene in these situations before, during and after," says Potter, who also co-directs the Prevention Innovations Research Center at UNH.
Potter says it can be difficult to encourage people to intervene because they're often concerned about being seen as a "killjoy" or "party pooper." She says what's needed is cultural change like what happened with movement to end drunk driving.
Decades back, most people were uncomfortable taking a friend's keys when they're too drunk to drive. But after years of research and education campaigns, the rate of alcohol-related traffic deaths has been cut in half since the 1980s.
Potter says for sexual assault this kind of culture change is just getting started. But there are examples.
One of the teenagers from the Moving Traditions group, Matthew O'Donnell, says he's already used these skills as a high school freshman. At a football game, he says another guy was touching a girl and trying to get her to be intimate. He wasn't sure it was a problem but just in case he made an excuse to separate them.
"When I saw it happening I was just kind of like, 'Oh, I have to go to the bathroom.' And the bathroom was on the other side of the stadium," O'Donnell says he asked the guy to come with him and the potential problem was averted.
Potter says that's a perfect example of identifying a situation and then intervening in a way that doesn't make a big fuss. She says more of that, along with praise for people like O'Donnell when they intervene, will lead to the culture change that could result in fewer sexual assaults in the future.

July 13, 2018

A Boy with No Country Who Speaks 10 Languages is The Hero in this Story



 Adul-Sam-on, 14 coordinated rescue


A displaced teen who escaped conflicts in Myanmar nearly a decade ago emerged as a hero after he and his soccer team became trapped in a Thai cave, using his proficiency in multiple languages to assist in coordinating the rescue mission with divers and officials.
Adul-Sam-on was only 6 years old when he fled his home country. His parents slipped him out of the self-governing Wa region — well-known for guerrilla warfare and drug trafficking — and into Thailand with the hopes that he would have a better life and receive an education there, the New York Times reported.
At 14, he does not have an official home and is not a citizen of any country. He’s considered “stateless,” but Adul is the top student in his class at the Ban Wiang Phan School in Mae Sai, where 20% of the students are similarly considered stateless.
His academic record and his soccer skills have also earned him free tuition and daily lunch. “Stateless children have a fighting spirit that makes them want to excel,” the school’s principal, Punnawit Thepsurin, told the Times.
That would never prove truer for Adul than when he and the Wild Boars soccer team became trapped in the Tham Luang cave in northern Thailand. The boys had explored caves before and eagerly made their way through the winding passageways on June 23 — but heavy rainfall flooded their path to the exit and left them stranded. The team spent ten days drinking the water that dripped from the cave walls until a pair of British divers found them taking shelter nearly three miles inside the underwater complex.
In video streamed worldwide shortly after the rescue, Adul can be seen wide-eyed and thin in the depths of the cave alongside his eleven teammates.
“I’m Adul, I’m in good health,” the 14-year-old said in Thai, offering a traditional “Wa” greeting — which signals politeness. In addition to speaking both Thai and Wa, Adul is also proficient in Burmese, Mandarin and English.
His diverse knowledge of languages allowed him not only to speak on behalf of his team but coordinate and communicate between rescuers and the terrified soccer players.
Adul questioned divers on how long they’d been trapped and told their rescuers that getting food was their top priority. “Eat, eat, eat” one his friends piped in, prompting the teen to let him know that he’d already addressed that.
His teacher, Kru Nice, said she was not surprised to learn Adul stepped up amid the harrowing situation, telling CBS News that he’d always been a leader.
An elite team of 19 divers were tasked with extracting the young athletes and the coach from the cave, emerging with the first four boys on Sunday, another four on Monday and the final four boys and their coach around 8 p.m. local time Tuesday. All in all, they’d spent 18 days fighting for life in the cavern.
“He’s a miracle boy,” Nice said. “I’m happy he’s safe.”
The Wild Boars soccer team on Thursday remained in the hospital in good spirits. Video from inside the medical facility has shown them waving and flashing peace signs while doctors and nurses check their vitals in the background.
The first batch of boys rescued Sunday have normal heart rates and no fevers, though two of them are recovering from lung infections, said Jedsada Chokdumrongsuck, secretary of the Public Health Ministry.
Two of the four boys rescued in the second wave have mild fevers. And three people rescued on Tuesday are suffering from middle ear infections and three still have fevers, though they are easing, the secretary said.
Chiang Rai province acting Gov. Narongsak Osatanakorn praised all involved in the rescue efforts, especially the coordination between Thai and international volunteers.
“The situation when beyond being just a rescue mission and became a symbol of unity among mankind,” he said. “Everyone worked together without discrimination of race or religion as the ultimate goal was to save the youth football team.”
With News Wire Services

July 9, 2018

Operation to Save The Remaining Boys Has Begun


July 7, 2018

Alternative Efforts to Rescue the Boys Ramps Up and The First Casualty

CHIANG RAI, Thailand (Reuters) - Rescue teams thrashed through dense forest hundreds of meters above a cave complex on Friday, searching for an alternative way to extract 12 boys and their soccer coach trapped inside for nearly two weeks.  
BREAKING Navy SEAL diver rescuing Thai boys trapped in cave dies from lack of oxygen
 Their work above the Tham Luang cave near Thailand’s northern border with Myanmar took on added urgency as forecasts for rain threatened a plan to bring the boys back through cramped, water-logged passageways to the cave entrance. 
     Military personnel gathers near oxygen tanks near the Tham Luang cave complex, where 12 boys and their soccer coach are trapped, in the northern province of Chiang Rai, Thailand, July 6, 2018.  
 “We want to find the way down. I believe we are close,” Thanes Weerasiri, president of the Engineering Institute of Thailand, told Reuters at a makeshift camp for volunteers and media near the cave. 
Helicopters buzzed overhead before flying to the dense blanket of green hills above the cave to help look for an alternate extraction route. 
Rescue efforts since British divers found the team on Monday have focused on draining the flooded cave and teaching the boys – some of whom are as young as 11 and not competent swimmers – to attempt dives that would challenge expert cavers.  
The death of a former Thai Navy SEAL working in the flooded cave on Friday has shaken the rescue mission, and forecasts for more rain could undermine the draining of the cave, forcing officials to consider other options. 
Thanes’ engineers are working with the army to explore an area they believe to be the back end of the cave, chiseling away fragile limestone rocks that he said could be just hundreds of meters from where the boys are trapped. 
“Originally we were exploring it as a way to bring supplies to the children from the back end of the cave, but now it could become more,” said Thanes. 
Military personnel walks in line as they prepare to enter the Tham Luang cave complex, where 12 boys and their soccer coach are trapped, in the northern province of Chiang Rai, Thailand, July 6, 2018. REUTERS/Athit Perawongmetha
Chalongchai Chaiyakum, a senior Thai army officer, said that one team traveled some 300 meters down a shaft on the hill on Thursday until they reached a dead end. 
He said that up to 200 people are exploring the hill to try to find a workable shaft.  The muddy bank where the boys are stranded is some 4 km (2.5 miles) from the front entrance of the cave, with sections of the final 1.7-km stretch completely underwater. 
Drilling down raises concerns that parts of the cave could collapse on the boys. Efforts to widen diving channels have raised similar fears about blocking narrow passageways and hemming the team in. 
Billionaire entrepreneur Elon Musk tweeted on Friday that engineers from his firms - SpaceX and The Boring Company - were heading to Thailand to see if they could assist the rescue.   The firms have “advance ground penetrating radar” that is “pretty good at digging holes” or technology that could “create an air tunnel underwater” for the children to traverse, Musk said earlier. 
The Thai government said Musk’s team could help the rescue operation with location tracking, water pumping or battery power. 
Relatives of the boys, some of whom have camped at the site for weeks, say all they want is the safest exit for their children. 
“I’m worried...he has never dived,” said Somboon Kaewwongwan, the father of a 16-year-old boy trapped in the cave. 
Additional reporting by Chayut Setboonsarng; Writing by John Geddie; Editing by Darren Schuettler

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