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October 22, 2019

Are We Ready For Breast Feeding Dads





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Mr. Cederstrom is an associate professor at Stockholm University.


A young man with shoulder-length dark hair leans back in a chair, his T-shirt pulled up to his chin. Two plastic tubes the size of shot glasses are attached to each of his nipples. Through the plastic, we see his skin inflate and deflate in a steady rhythm.

It’s early autumn 2009, and on a little-watched Swedish late-night television show, 25-year-old Ragnar Bengtsson has begun what the host calls a “scientific experiment.” Over the next three months, three times a day, Mr. Bengtsson will pump his breasts to see whether they will produce milk.

In retrospect, the odds were stacked against him. He was not on any hormonal treatments; his 2-year-old son was not even breastfeeding anymore. No milk, in the end, ever made its way through his nipples. “For me, it was just a fun experiment, and a platform to speak about fatherhood as something more intimate than we’re used to,” he said over lunch in Stockholm 10 years later.

Is it possible for a man to breastfeed a baby? For millenniums, this question has tickled people’s imagination. It has intrigued; it has disgusted; it has also remained largely hypothetical.
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That is, until last year, when a peer-reviewed case report confirmed that a transgender woman, assigned male at birth, was able to breastfeed her child after she was put on a regimen of hormonal drugs. Weeks before the baby’s birth, she was able to produce eight ounces of milk per day, and for the first six weeks, the baby could be sustained solely on that milk alone.

Before the treatment, the patient had been receiving feminizing hormones for six years. We don’t know how long it would take for a cis man to induce functional lactation. But “we have a pretty good idea of the types of hormone cocktails that would be needed,” said Tamar Reisman, an endocrinologist with the Mount Sinai Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery and one of the two authors of the case report. 

We are unlikely to stumble upon dads openly suckling their babies anytime soon. The hormones are not without side effects; they inevitably entail some degree of breast growth. But as technology has made it increasingly feasible, the potential impact of male breastfeeding on gender roles — who take on what sort of parenting duties, and all of the consequences that result from those early first choices — looms larger than ever. And at least one man is excited about the possibilities.

“I just thought, ‘How cool if it would work!’” Mr. Bengtsson said. “Just imagine the extraordinary consequences it could have for our society.”

Tales of men whose breasts contained milk date back centuries. In the fourth century B.C., the philosopher Aristotle noted that some men were able to produce milk by squeezing their breasts. In the King James translation of the Bible, the breasts of the malnourished Job are described as full of milk. Later, in the Babylonian Talmud, we find a story of a widowed man whose “breasts opened and he nursed his child.”
 

Just what events those lines were describing has been the subject of much speculation and, for the most part, has been ignored or interpreted allegorically. One reading suggests that Job’s breasts symbolize ponds, where cattle can drink.

A few hundred years later, during the 19th century, a time of scientific discovery and adventurous expeditions, allegorical readings of men breastfeeding gave way to more detailed accounts, albeit ones tinged with an unmistakable colonial exoticism.

In the summer of 1800, during a five-year expedition through Central and South America, the Prussian naturalist Alexander von Humboldt passed through the small village of Arenas in what is today Venezuela. There, he was told the story of a local man who, after his wife had fallen ill, nursed his baby “two or three times a day for five months.” Humboldt got to meet the father later that year and examined his breasts, which were wrinkled, “like those of a woman who has suckled.”

By the end of the 19th century, the American physician George M. Gould and his colleague Walter L. Pyle listed, in their book “Anomalies and Curiosities of Medicine,” a number of instances of men suckling infants, including an unverifiable report, relayed by 16th-century missionaries in Brazil, claiming “there was a whole Indian nation whose women had small and withered breasts, and whose children owed their nourishment entirely from the males.”

Only once do we get a sense of how others reacted to these events. The naturalist John Richardson, while on an expedition through northern Canada in the early 19th century, wrote of a Chipewyan father who nursed his child after his spouse died. He was viewed as “partaking of the duties of women” by other Chipewyan, who saw it as “degrading.”

What Richardson thought of the matter we don’t know. Nor do we have any additional sources to help determine that any of these events actually happened as recorded, or whether cultural misunderstandings or biases may have warped the accounts.

In the 1930s, the search for an answer to whether men could breastfeed moved from expeditions to the laboratory. Although Charles Darwin had observed that there were instances when men could yield “a copious supply of milk,” it was not until the discovery and naming of the milk-producing hormone prolactin in 1933 that scientists could really begin to examine the lactating ability of male mammals. Experiments were performed on rats, monkeys and, in some cases, humans. And they worked. In a study in 1954, three men with cancer who had been on estrogen treatment were injected with large doses of autotrophic, a form of prolactin. One of them, age 64, lactated on the sixth day of the treatment. He didn’t stop for seven years.
 
What is startling, when we dig into history, is just how many great minds, from Aristotle to Darwin, have earnestly, and without judgment, pondered the question of men’s breast milk. It’s useful to remind ourselves of this, as the theories of these same men are often invoked to argue that men and women are predestined for specific functions and that the mere thought of a man using his breasts to feed a child is immoral, delusional or disgusting.

It seemingly wasn’t until the 1970s that the notion of male breastfeeding became politicized. That’s when Shulamith Firestone, a 25-year-old activist, wrote her blazing manifesto, “The Dialectic of Sex.” In it, she called pregnancy barbaric (she compared it to excreting a pumpkin) and argued that the only way for women to become free was to liberate them from the tyranny of reproduction. Childbearing, Ms. Firestone argued, should be taken over by technology, and sex distinctions eliminated.

This vision was brought to life in Marge Piercy’s 1976 sci-fi novel, “Woman on the Edge of Time,” in which a woman named Connie is transported into the future — the year 2137 — where she sees a bearded man breastfeeding a child. She notes that he has breasts, “like a flat-chested woman temporarily swollen with milk.” Connie is angry at first: “How dare any man share that pleasure?” she thinks. But in the end, the world depicted in the book is ultimately intended as a gender-free utopia.

We are, from a scientific and, some would argue, a cultural point of view, growing closer to Ms. Firestone’s vision of eradicating sex differences. (Not everyone who calls himself a dad today, for instance, was assigned male at birth.) And maybe that’s also why the image of the breastfeeding father provokes such strong feelings. Male breastfeeding was once the sole province of the exotic “other,” observed on faraway expeditions; today the breastfeeding father seems to be just around the corner.

The breastfeeding dad may be a threatening image. He may never actually come to be. But it’s worth, at this moment, also remembering how alien stay-at-home fathers first seemed in the 1970s, when they were viewed as unmanly and as having abdicated their breadwinning responsibilities, said Michael Lamb, a psychology professor at Cambridge University and a pioneering fatherhood scholar.

Last year, Marie-Claire Springham, then a product design student at Central Saint Martins, in London, developed a kit for expectant fathers, including hormonal drugs and a breast pump, which she submitted for a design award.

Two weeks before it was announced that she had won, photos of the actor Daniel Craig (James Bond) carrying his child in a BabyBjorn on his chest appeared in the tabloids. Piers Morgan, the British television presenter, lamented on Twitter, “Oh 007 not you as well?!!!” Soon after, the comedian Ricky Gervais tweeted a link to an article about Ms. Springham’s breastfeeding kit, writing: “I know what I’m getting @piersmorgan for Xmas.”  

“And then, it really blew up,” Ms. Springham told me.

When she appeared on “Good Morning Britain,” she was attacked from all sides, women and men alike. “I was called a perverted fetishist,” Ms. Springham said.

And yet even as the media derided the kit, Ms. Springham says, her mailbox quietly filled up with letters from expectant dads who wanted to know more. “If these emails are to be believed, I’ve got a large enough group of dads who’d be up for a medical trial.”

Carl Cederstrom is an associate professor at Stockholm University.

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A version of this article appears in print on Oct. 20, 2019, Section SR, Page 4 of the New York edition


October 21, 2019

The Men Who Wear Make Up




Turns out men's style bible, GQ finally discovered that men wear makeup. Revolutionary, right?⁣

In the outlet's November "Masculinity Issue," dedicated to men across the masculinity spectrum, GQ attempts to highlight what they believe to be 21st-century trends surrounding masculinity.⁣

At face value, this is powerful. For GQ, a publication that has been a major voice of hypermasculinity, promoting overt machismo, sexism, and chauvinism throughout its history, it's as if in this singular issue, they're looking to right some of the cultural wrongs they've had a hand in creating via toxic masculinity.⁣

It's no surprise, as most who hold the keys to power at the pub are cisgender, straight men, viewing this movement of "new masculinity" through a very narrow lens. ⁣

In our editor's note, David Yi, Arienne Thompson-Plourde and Garrett Munce write about how disappointing this men's beauty editorial is, from the headline: "One day we'll look back on the era when makeup was only for women," to the actual celebrities in makeup.

"Their insistence on gendering makeup reductive and sexist, it fails to acknowledge the millions of men who already use," they write. "Makeup isn't just dragged, performative, it isn't solely for women, it isn't an act of 'bravery.' ⁣

What's more curious is that GQ interviewed our very own David Yi back in July for this issue. He was notified only weeks before publishing that editors wanted to omit his voice after his interview was transcribed. In any case, we hope this promotes their audience to understand that male-identifying persons can be anything they want to be. And the expression isn't gendered. Makeup has no sexuality. We can all be free to, well, be free!


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October 15, 2017

Work Place Sexual Harassment is Fed by the Sainthood Elevation of Powerful Men



Following the news that Harvey Weinstein sexually harassed and abused women for decades, waves of women in Hollywood are coming forward with allegations that describe a culture that permits widespread harassment and assault. This culture disproportionately affects women—but it does not affect women alone.
Actors Terry Crews, James Van Der Beck and Rob Schneider have all said that they have had executives or other powerful figures in Hollywood grope them or make sexual advances. Sexual harassment is not only about sexism. It’s the result of the patriarchy—and the way it works to give powerful men carte blanche to diminish others’ humanity.
Women are all too often singled out for sexual harassment in the workplace. A 2015 study of workplace harassment in Australia found that women filed nine out of 10 workplace harassment complaints, as just one example. Because of sexism, women are seen as sexual objects; as Andrea Dworkin wrote, women “are treated as if we are subhuman, and that is a precondition for violence against us.”
Sexual harassment is also the direct result of patriarchy—a system in which men hold the majority of the power, and in which masculinity is glorified. In patriarchy, masculinity and power are bound together. This means that power is inherently sexualized. The ultimate expression of power and authority in patriarchy is the ability to act with sexual impunity. And sexual impunity in patriarchy becomes an expected perk of power.
This is why many men in powerful positions wind up mistreating others. When Weinstein or Steven Seagal allegedly held meetings in a state of undress—or when Lyndon Johnson held meetings on the toilet— they were actively asserting their absolute power as patriarchs by showing they could violate bounds of sexual decorum. Donald Trump made this quite clear when he boasted about sexually harassing women. “When you’re a star they let you do it,” he said. Fame and power enable sexual abuse, and men act as if sexual abuse demonstrates fame and power.


Men usually signal and assert power in a patriarchy by sexually dominating and humiliating women. But they can also signal power by sexually humiliating men—particularly men of color, gay men, and young men. For patriarchs who behave this way, the goal is to show that you are the manliest of all men—and one way to demonstrate this is by treating other men the same way men treat women.
Sexual abuse, then, is not about sexual attraction or gratification; it’s an assertion of, and an abuse of, power. Understanding this is crucial to making a cultural shift. Putting in place more rules limiting contact between the sexes —following the Mike Pence rule of never being alone with women — isn’t helpful. Nor will it work to draw a strict line between work and after-hours socializing, as Josh Barro at Business Insider suggests. Harvey Weinstein wasn’t confused about the line between appropriate and inappropriate behavior. No one thinks that masturbating into a potted plant in front of a colleague is reasonable, whether you’re in the office or on a social outing.
Men can and do harass women when other people are around, in public spaces and in private ones. Men can harass and abuse other men when women aren’t present. To reign in sexual abuse, we don’t need more restrictions on women. We need more restrictions on power.
Hierarchical workplaces, in which people at the top are seen as infinitely more important than the people at the bottom, encourage abuse and mistreatment. Unions have a mixed record on combating sexual harassment, but at the very least—by putting standard procedures in place and holding employers accountable—they have the potential to identify and punish abusers.

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Creating more gender parity in upper-management positions will also help to address the problem. Having women in power undermines the patriarchal logic that says that power is about manliness and that you show you are powerful by humiliating your subordinates.
We also need more legal scrutiny of abusive contracts. Roger Ailes and others have used confidentiality clauses in contracts to prevent victims from talking about rape and abuse. Harvey Weinstein’s contract allowed him to settle sexual harassment lawsuits with no other consequences, according to a TMZ report. A judge refused to allow pop singer Kesha to break her contract with her producer Dr. Luke on the grounds that Luke’s abusive behavior was “foreseeable.” In other words, from the standpoint of contract law, Kesha should have known better, so any abuse is her responsibility. In all of these cases, maintaining the prerogatives of those at the top is more important to the legal system than the safety and humanity of victims. That’s patriarchy—a system that protects men in power.
Of course, abusers aren’t just protected by laws. They’re also protected by the reluctance to challenge or restrain, powerful people. When victims speak out and are taken seriously, others begin to believe that power can be challenged. That’s why Weinstein’s fall has led to a deluge of revelations about others, including Seagal and Ben Affleck—and two men coming forward to say that they have been harassed as well.
Currently, our laws and our culture venerate men in power and protect them from facing consequences for their actions. The default assumption is that successful men have proven their superiority by virtue of their money and influence and that they have therefore earned the right to treat other people as beneath them. Weinstein’s fall is an opportunity to try to create a different culture, in which men in power are accountable for their actions. That would be a boon for people of every gender.
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November 6, 2016

What Type of Gays Would Endorse Trump? Think Male, Vanilla




 Male, White




On Sunday night in Greeley, Colorado, Donald Trump spotted something he wanted in the crowd. He gestured to a supporter, who handed a wad of rainbow fabric up to the stage. Trump unfurled it for the fans and cameras — a pride flag scrawled with the words “LGBTs for Trump.”

He strutted stage left, grinning and nodding to the audience with a literal sign of his diverse support. A Facebook group called LGBT for Trump posted a photo of Trump with the flag on Monday morning, captioning it: “Most pro-gay nominee of any party ever.”

Both Trump and his supporters have nurtured this LGBT-cozy image, diverging from past Republican presidential candidates. That coziness was on display during the Republican National Convention in July, when a group calling itself Twinks for Trump held a soiree festooned with poster-size photos of lithe, shirtless young men in Trump caps. Inside the convention two days later, Trump pledged to protect “LGBTQ” citizens, taking care to enunciate the “Q” — a gesture to queer people.

Despite all this, Trump’s campaign has not confirmed any direct outreach to LGBT voters. Over the last three months, his staff has not answered questions from BuzzFeed News about whether Trump has an LGBT policy platform, contacted or plans to contact LGBT communities, or if anyone on the campaign staff is LGBT themselves. He also did not fill out at least two LGBT groups’ surveys about his positions.

Further, Trump’s most prominent LGBT supporters and surrogates are not a spectrum of LGBT diversity, but rather, are overwhelmingly white gay men. Which is to say, “LGBTs for Trump” reflects much of same homogenous bloc of dudes who make up the rest of his base.

“Essentially it is a Facebook page,” Barron explained in a phone call. There is no board of directors and its members are the 1,509 people who have liked the page. A smattering of other Twitter and Facebook accounts, which are run independent of Barron and separate from the Trump campaign, promote variations of the same theme.

Barron has become the most public face of LGBT for Trump supporters, pressing his message in cable TV interviews. He built bridges in the past between Republicans and gays with the group GOProud. And this year, he said, he has been in touch with the Trump campaign to consult on media and other LGBT issues.

He brushed aside any concern that Trump lacks an LGBT platform or that he supports certain anti-LGBT positions, because, he said, Trump tolerates LGBT people around him. “If there had been a pride flag on stage at a Mitt Romney event,” he speculated, “Romney would have been running off the stage.”

Barron was not aware of any LGBT Trump staffers nor a lesbian Trump group, but argued the movement is diffuse. “There are a bunch of grassroots activists — they are all over the place,” he said. “I certainly know lesbians for Trump. I know more than one, but I don’t know the exact number.” He added that “there was a picture of a transgender person for Trump” at a pride event in Savannah, Georgia, though he didn’t specify where that photo was published.
Trump’s most prominent gay supporters are Peter Thiel, a PayPal co-founder who spoke at the RNC, and Milo Yiannopoulos, a columnist of the white nationalist alt-right.

“Just because the most visible LGBT folks for Trump happen to be gay white men, not every LGBT person for Trump is a gay white male,” said Barron. “We are an incredibly diverse community.”
There is no doubt that Trump has backing from some lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people — though polls show the numbers are quite slim and they don’t compare to Hillary Clinton’s hearty LGBT support.

Yet in July, they appeared in short support supply at the Twinks for Trump event.
“I do not remember seeing any trans people,” Carlos Maza, who attended the event and works for the left-leaning Media Matters, told BuzzFeed News. “There were women, though the few I interacted with seemed to be straight.”

Lucian Wintrich leads Twinks for Trump. “It’s not really organization,” he said on the phone this week, calling it a small collective of “primarily gay men.”
“I am a gay man, so by virtue of that, gay men will reach out to me,” said Wintrich.

Inside the Twinks for Trump party

Finding a lesbian Trump supporter became a goal for Jennifer Bendery, a Huffington Post reporter, who wrote an article about her search last month accompanied by an illustration of a unicorn in a haystack.

“It took me a week to find just one lesbian,” Bendery told BuzzFeed News. “A couple others started trickling in after that. Add to that a smattering of gay white men, and you’ve got an LGBTQ coalition as diverse as a bag of iceberg lettuce from Safeway.”

Statistics bear out Trump’s paltry LGBT support — and he struggles particularly among women. A Gallup poll this month found LGBT voters view Clinton almost five times more favorably than Trump, but LGBT women were especially wary. Only 9% of LBT women reported favorable feelings for Trump; GBT men were at 16%.

“You’ve got an LGBTQ coalition as diverse as a bag of iceberg lettuce from Safeway.”
Trump lost many voters by picking running mate Mike Pence, who, as Indiana governor and former Congressman, opposed LGBT-rights bills. Trump also created furor in September with a pledge to sign the First Amendment Defense Act, a bill in Congress that would protect those with religious objections to same-sex marriage.

The country’s top LGBT Republican group, the Log Cabin Republicans, declined to endorse Trump this year due to his anti-LGBT advisors and support for anti-LGBT legislation.

This flaccid buttressing from LGBT people hasn’t stopped Trump from inflating the appearance of their support. His online campaign store features an LGBT for Trump t-shirt. And though none of the positions on his website address pro-LGBT policies, the site links to external news articles to help burnish his image, including one ABC News piece titled “Donald Trump says LGBT voters like him ‘very, very much.’”

“It seems every time he opens his mouth, Donald Trump boasts about fictitious support from one corner or another,” said Jay Brown, a spokesman for the LGBT group Human Rights Campaign, which was unable to get Trump to fill out its candidate survey.

“He’d undo all the progress we made in the last eight years — and his campaign is especially threatening to those of us who are transgender, who are women, who are Latinx, who are Muslim,” Brown said. “I don’t think that’s lost on the majority of LGBTQ people despite his claims.”
The transgender advocacy PAC Trans United Fund also told BuzzFeed News this summer that Trump never responded to their survey. Clinton did not fill out that group’s survey, either.

Yet Clinton’s campaign has wooed an LGBT bloc aggressively, using a bench of LGBT surrogates, targeting outreach to LGBT voters, and pairing with with LGBT originations. Clinton also enjoys lavish donations from LGBT funders. But, as BuzzFeed News has also noted, one of her LGBT rallies this spring also skewed white and male.

There is some notable diversity in Trump’s LGBT support, including transgender activists on the Trump train. In June, as Breitbart reported, Facebook deleted the account for Transgender for Trump after the group’s administrator posted a video of an Imam advocating death to homosexuals.

Caitlyn Jenner, a leading voice for transgender Americans, praised Trump in April for standing “behind the LGBT community,” and she spoke at the RNC to advocate for LGBT inclusion in the party generally. But Jenner has since said she is not outwardly supporting any candidate this election.

A person who runs one of a handful of “LGBT for Trump” Twitter accounts told me by direct message they are transgender. But when I asked for a Facebook or Twitter account to verify their identity, they blocked me. That account, which has more than 5,000 followers, published a lewd anti-Muslim tweet recently about Robby Mook, Clinton’s campaign manager, who is gay. “Robby Mook needs to be thrown in a mosque during prayer time wrapped in bacon with stapled pictures of muhamad getting banged by a pig.

A Facebook page with about 5,000 followers, called “LGBTrump - Gays for Trump,” is run by a gay man named Joe Murray who contributes op-eds to local papers. “Of the two major political party candidates,” his website explains, “Trump is the only one not afraid to say radical Islam and Trump is the only one who has the back of our brave law enforcement.”

Another Twitter account called “LGBT support Trump” pinned a tweet that says “we represent the millions of #LGBT that support @realdonaldtrump.” It has 81 followers.
But Barron, from the most established LGBT for Trump group, said no single entity “is going to be emblematic of all of a candidate’s supporters.”

“People can take Trump to task for plenty of things, but not the LGBT issue,” said Barron, emphasizing that Trump departs from years of anti-LGBT hostility from Republicans. “I feel like I’m driving a Rolls-Royce after years of driving a Yugo.”



November 2, 2016

New Survey: Only Small Percentage of People Ok with Men Wearing Make up







New data reveals that while only 11% of the public thinks it would be good if males started wearing makeup, young people are the most open to it 

Recently, CoverGirl named 17-year-old makeup artist and Instagram celebrity James Charles as its first male spokesmodel. The announcement comes at a time when more and more companies are attempting to expand their customer base by erasing traditional gender lines that separate men from women.

New data from YouGov shows that despite CoverGirl's decision to hire its first CoverBoy, 50% of the general public believe it would be bad if men started wearing makeup on a daily basis. At the same time, about a third of US adults are indifferent to the idea, while only 11% think men wearing makeup would be good for society.
That said, additional data reveals that young people are far more open to the idea of men donning nail polish and mascara than older generations.
When it comes to nail polish, for example, 41% of people aged 18-34 report that it's acceptable for men to wear it, compared to 28% of people aged 35-54 and 17% of those 55 and over. Meanwhile, attitudes toward men wearing cologne — a beauty product long used by men — hover above an 80% acceptability rate for all three age categories.
An analysis of America's views on men using moisturizer and wearing mascara shows similar results. While the majority are okay with males applying moisturizer, most are not alright with men coating their eyelashes. 37% of Millennials aged 18-34 say it's acceptable for men to wear mascara, compared to just 25% of those aged 35-54 and 9% of those 55 and older.
Apart from a sharp divide across the different age groups, another division exists between the sexes. When asked if it’s acceptable for men to wear various makeup products — from nail polish to eyeshadow, mascara to lipstick, blush to foundation — women were consistently more likely to say it was than men.

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June 4, 2016

Younger Men Less Likely to Say They are “Completely Masculine”


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Younger American men are noticeably less likely than older men to say that they are 'completely masculine'

Few areas of American life have seen as much change as the world of gender and sexuality. When the youngest retirees were born in the early 50s, women were expected to stay in the home and nurture the children while men were expected to serve as breadwinners, aloof from many of the mundane household tasks and joys. Today, in 2016, gender roles have been transformed as the percentage of men who stay home to take care of children increases and women begin to beat men in academic achievement and are slowly closing the income gap. 
Research from YouGov shows that the muscular masculinity of decades past is a fading feature of American life for the young. Americans were asked to rate themselves on a scale of 0 to 6, there 0 is 'completely masculine' and 6 is 'completely feminine'. 65% of men over the age of 65 say that they are 'completely masculine, while only 28% of men aged 30 to 44 and 30% of men aged 18 to 29 say the same. Among under-30s, 13% put themselves halfway between the masculine and the feminine, while 12% say that they are at least slightly feminine. Only 4% of over-65 men say that they are at all feminine. 
Women show a very similar split along age, but women are slightly less likely than men to describe themselves as atypical. 88% of American women describe themselves as feminine, compared to 82% of American men who describe themselves as masculine.
This survey was also conducted in the UK. In the UK men and women are less likely to describe themselves as completely masculine or feminine, and the age gap is even more pronounced. Among British men 56% of over-65s describe themselves as 'completely masculine - only 9% lower than in the US. Among British men aged 18 to 24, however, only 2% say that they are 'completely masculine'. 
Full poll results and margin of error can be found here.

September 6, 2014

The Beauty of the Older Dude

What makes an older dude hot? The beauty of certain older men
As hot as red lava flowing out of a akening volcano
The making of an older dude does not just mean age. A person can be old yet that same person could have had a very quiet life living for him self and may be his work or hobby along with dispassion to other things besides work. Such  dude would not be considered a hot dude unless he had a job that took his time 24 hrs a day and at the same time it made him professionally mingle into other lives. An example of such a dude would be a detective solving serious crimes like murder or a medical doctor or international newsman. Those people don’t need a live of their own because they get to know so many others. Unlike a dude that works at a bank, Insurance adjustor or taxi driver those dudes lingo with other lives but in a very superficial way.  
Their interaction with other humans is limited and very shallow. Unless they decide to make a contribution by having their time after work getting to know other people, be in a part time teaching position, paramedic or volunteer in a position that makes him get involved and get to know the people they touch. Those are almost hot older dudes if before they intervened or simply just watch the behavior of other they first took mirror and a scale understanding that we live in different times from our fathers and most utilize the medium of instant information to make ourselves physically approachable by others. A hot older dude is that guy that saw his body as a vehicle to meet others. Those hot older dudes if they have a beard is trim and no antenaes precluding from their noses to be seen first before anybody has a chance to make eye contact. This hot older dude will smell right, not like people smelled in his youth but how the youth smells now. The reason for this is to be recognized by the younger ones as a savvy hot timer never as an old timer. Someone who knows, some one that can be a hot older dude.

This hot older dude carries the past on one shoulder and the present in the other. They both meet without having to have needle and thread or any foreign object to sew them together; Instead they melt by the understanding of how things have changed.This dude knows the past and knows how it molds the present while at the same time understands what is happening today because that will be the future while he lays down with his last breath of air.
The hot older dude never speaks of himself and seldom says “I” unless specifically asked about his experiences. Never raises his voice while making his point but firmly puts his foot down at the presence of ignorance which someone expects him to swallow.  Yes he swallows but only what makes him either healthy or satisfies his thirst for the flavor of this world.
This hot dude is never afraid of aging because he will not change inside. He understand that he would be as sexy now as a decade from now because he will follow his route which is to have his body secured and then understand the others that surround him. When this hot old dude can not find fresh experience with the smell of peppermint and lime is time to move on to another part of town or another part of the world because the world is big and everything is in it, you just have to look
He knows he has the power to change peoples perception of things. He carries the truth because he has paid attention to the world as it ages and then gets younger again. He understand why the beautiful rose plant has needles that hurts the inexperience hand.
He understand why the night brings out such beauty while at the same time it brings heart ache and the color red spills down the highway and brings agony to some. This hot dude would make the younger get experienced and the contemporary acquire a vision.
by Adam Gonzalez                               

January 7, 2013

Cosmetics for Men is Covering The Asian peninsula



 


Gentlemen: ever wished you could use your girlfriend's concealer to cover up a zit or two without ridicule? Or that you could apply a bit of powder to achieve the enhancing effects your lady friends effortlessly pull out of a purse?
Salvation might just be coming.
Men aren't generally associated with makeup and cosmetics in the modern era, but some Korean gents are happily bucking the trend, as the male cosmetic industry continues to grow in leaps and bounds on the Asian peninsula.
Korea may require two years of military conscription for all males, but in this K-Pop obsessed country, male cultural role models don't tend to be the masculine heroes and warriors lionized in previous generations. Some of them are downright pretty.
Market research firm Euromonitor International found that South Korean men spent a remarkable $495.4 million on skincare products in 2011 — that's 21 percent of global sales.
A BBC report found that "face-creams, cleansers and foundation are among the products that men have been buying in large quantities." There are even television programs dedicated entirely to the art of male grooming, according to the BBC.
"Appearance power" matters for men in the rough international job market, as recent Australian economic research reinforced, and the Associated Press found that South Korean women now often prefer "flower men" — a popular slang term for Korean males who wear makeup and take on a feminine appearance. (No, South Korean males aren't all striving to look like Psy. Shocker).
So-called flower men don't stop at cosmetics. ABC reported that many are now investing in cosmetic surgery, especially when it comes to the nose — because the male proboscis is considered a symbol of "male sexuality."
Could Western men be far behind? It's looking more and more likely that they won't be (have you seen Justin Bieber recently?): The NPD Group found that the demand for men's grooming products is booming in the US, with more than nine out of 10 men saying they use some sort of grooming product.
The motivation behind the American trend is the same as that for Korean men, researchers suspect: In an economy that rewards looking good, guys who pay extra attention to their appearance — and even, perhaps, smear on a little concealer — may find themselves with a leg up.
Just check out makeup-for-men makers Kenmen, who specialize in "efficient, accessible and practical masculine skin care solutions," including bronzer, "sculpting face sticks," and "glossy lip salve."
It's worth remembering that makeup for men is nothing new in human history. Men in Ancient Egypt wore kohl (eyeliner), Elizabethan men strove for an alabaster complexion and used powder to achieve it, and Africa's Wodaabe tribe are famous in the modern era for their elaborate male beauty ceremonies — which naturally involve a copious quantity of makeup.
So, why not try it? You might like it..

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