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March 20, 2015

Mom Turns in Son who Groped a Midtown Jogger in NYC

Yesterday, police released a photo of a man wanted for groping a female jogger in Midtown last November. It seems the strategy was effective, because the man was arrested by the end of the day. And he was turned in by his mom!
Police say that 31-year-old Carlous Hamilton groped the 29-year-old runner's buttocks about noon on Sunday, November 23, 2014 at the corner of 5th Avenue and West 37th Street. When she turned around, he squeezed her breast; she tried to fight him off, and he punched her in the face and body, causing a laceration to her left hand.
The suspect fled southbound on Fifth Avenue, but a witness was able to take a photograph of him. According to the News, Hamilton's mother called 911 on Wednesday when she realized her son was the alleged groper. He has been charged with sex abuse and assault.

June 14, 2014

Fathers as Superheroes

                                         Father and Son - 25 pictures
Learn how neuroscience proves that today's fathers are superheroes!
The feminist revolution has garnered extreme media attention since its birth in the nineteen sixties.  The flip side of that coin has gathered far less attention despite the fact that has been  equally transformational.  As women become more like men and are able to take on traditional male roles (surgeon, military personnel, etc.), men have become more like women. Men, especially the younger ones, are now increasingly expected to pick up traditionally-female roles, such as feeding an infant, changing diapers, driving kids to school, and attending school and after-school activities.  

This lessening of role dichotomy has allowed both sexes to blossom, and the kids are the primary beneficiary. Two is almost always better than one, especially when it comes to such a highly complex task of raising children for which we have almost no education. The societal lack of parental education is a pet peeve of mine, but this is  a digression from today’s topic.  

It’s not just the mother’s brain that goes through seismic shifts once a baby is born. Fathers are transformed by hormones as well, though in very different ways. An Israeli study found a fascinating difference in mother brains and father brains. When watching videos of themselves interacting with their children, mothers showed increased activity in the emotional centers of the brain, while fathers showed increased activity in cognitivefunctions related to deciphering the child’s sounds. Then things got really interesting: the study also found that the male brains in gay couples showed responses similar to moms and dads. It seems that human brains are hardwired to help us become what children need.

Fathers experience many of the same hormonal responses that we’ve seen in countless studies on mothers. New fathers experience a boost inoxytocin and prolactin, both of which play a huge role in bonding with the infant. It is also interesting to note that new fathers experience a precipitous drop in testosterone; perhaps this is nature’s insurance against ‘wandering’ fathers, but it also serves to increase the male’s ability to engage in nurturing behaviors.

Recent research shows that the stress level of the father at time of conception is passed on, epigenetically, to the child. In recent years, we have learned that we give far more than genetic information to our offspring; we also pass on triggers to activate (or turn off) certain genetic sequences, which in turn affects gene expression. We’ve even discovered that we receive epigenetic information from grandparents and great-grandparents; one study found that people with ancestors who smoked pass on increased chances of asthma for multiple generations. Tracy L. Bale, PhD, associate professor of neuroscience in the Perelman School of Medicine Department of Psychiatry and the School of Veterinary Medicine, Department of Animal Biology found that stress on adult male mice induced an epigenetic mark in their sperm that went on to effect their offspring’s hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, a region of the brain that regulates stress responses. Conversely, if the father is not experiencing chronic stress at the time of conception, these damaging epigenetic markers are not activated.

The Research Institute of the McGill University Health Centre (RI-MUHC) recently conducted a study showing that the absence of a father during critical growth periods leads to impaired social and behavioral abilities in adults. But when the father is present and involved, wonderful things happen. Children with involved fathers perform better in school, and this effect is seen throughout the entire academic cycle, including college. Research shows that active participation at the family dinner table is still amongst the best predictors of adult success.  
Fathers also have an enormous impact on children through the quality of their relationship with the mother. A father with a solid, healthy relationship with the mother is more likely to be involved with his children, and the children are then more likely to be psychologically and emotionally stable. I always think of the Berenstain Bears model where the dad holds the mom up so she can hold the kids up. This was the traditional model for generations, and only lately are we seeing a profound shift where fathers are taking active roles as primary caretakers as early as in their child’s infancy. Even so, holding mom up will hopefully remain an important part of a father’s role.

And what is the father’s role? It is certainly expanding. No longer are fathers limited in the role of fatherhood, and this is a very good thing. More and more, we are realizing that fathers can be many things and can manifest fatherhood (and masculinity) in many ways, and men are finding this expanded definition as quite liberating. A father who changes diapers, goes grocery shopping, and makes dinner is no longer the rare exception. As culture and society continue to increase in complexity, kids need all the help they can get—and today’s fathers are delivering that help.

All of the research points to the same thing. While moms get the majority of the limelight, good dads are true superheroes. Their quiet strength makes us all stronger. Join me in wishing a very happy Father’s Day to all the great dads out there.
Gentlemen, you matter far, far more than you may realize. Thank you!

September 26, 2012

Parents Rescue Stillborn Baby Out of The Morgue

Luz Milagros (a name that translates to “Miracle’s Light”) was born three months premature. After being examined by a selection of obstetricians, gynecologists and a neonatologist, she was unanimously announced as stillborn.
Twelve hours later, her mother, Analia Bouter, sank to her knees in shock when she and her husband found their daughter breathing and whimpering, covered in ice in a freezing morgue, where she had been assigned immediately after Bouter gave birth.
The discovery was due to the parents’ serendipitous decision to have a glimpse of their child before leaving the hospital. According to Sky News, Bouter explained to the local press, “At the time of birth I don’t remember much because I was put to sleep…Rather, they never showed me the baby,” and so wanted to bid farewell to her daughter, who had been taken directly to the morgue.
The baby’s parents entered the morgue and forced open the casket, which was nailed shut. Slowly uncovering her face, they heard her cry out, but were at first convinced that they were hallucinating. Fabian Veron, the father, described their shock to local news reporters, as told by Sky News: “My wife jumped back, like saying, ‘this must be my imagination.’”
Medical staff at the Argentinean hospital, Perrando de Resistencia, who were present at the birth have been temporarily suspended and are under investigation.
Hospital authorities are shocked about the error, and they’re also shocked that Luz survived over 12 hours in a refrigerated room, suggesting that her vital signs may have disappeared due to hypothermia. She is now recovering to good health. Jose Luis Meirino, the hospital’s director,admitted to Metro, “At the moment we have no explanation.”
The BBC reports that the undersecretary for health in the Chaco province, Rafael Sabatinelli, said the staff “will have to answer” for this bizarre oversight. Bouter is not interested in the blame game, telling Argentina’s Clarin newspaper: “The joy of knowing she’s alive is covering every other feeling.”
By ANOOSH CHAKELIAN | @anooshchakelian |TIME

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August 30, 2012

Dad Wear Skirts To Support His Son Who Wears Them


Dad Wears Skirt To Support Son
 A dad in Germany is wearing skirts as a show of solidarity for his 5-year-old son, who loves to wear women’s clothing. Instead of doing what many dads would probably do (either gently persuade his son to wear more manly clothing, or tell him he can wear what he wants), the man, Nils Pickert, went above and beyond, wearing skirts out in public to support his son, effectively earning himself the title of Dad of the Year.
Pickert’s son loves to dress up in skirts and dresses, an incredibly unconventional choice in the “very traditional” South German village they live in, reports The Stir. The little boy’s clothing choices are so out of place that a resident even walked face-first into a street light while staring at him once.
The little boy became scared to venture out into the attire, because he did not want to be laughed at anymore. Instead of gently encouraging his son to wear more conventional clothes, Nils Pickert put on dresses and skirts too. Carbonated notes that Pickert explained:
“I didn’t want to talk my son into not wearing dresses and skirts. He didn’t make friends in doing that in Berlin already, and after a lot of contemplation, I had only one option left: To broaden my shoulders for my little buddy and dress in a skirt myself.”
Because of his dad’s response, Pickert’s son is no longer afraid to dress how he wants to, and the teasing he receives from others doesn’t bother him anymore.
“The day [after I wore a skirt] he fished out a dress from the depth of his wardrobe. At first only for the weekend. Later also for nursery-school. He’s simply smiling, when other boys (and it’s nearly always boys) want to make fun of him and says: ‘You only don’t dare to wear skirts and dresses because your dads don’t dare to either.’”

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