'We Were Not Drop by A Potato Truck'
I’ve just finished reading a piece on Politics Daily by Bonnie Goldstein entitled “I Do, I Do. What Gay Brides and Grooms Should Know About Marriage”, and I have to say, I’m a bit perturbed, to say the least.
Bonnie closes her piece by saying:
On top of these disenchantments, I have more bad news. Marriage is full of love but not much romance. It’s not that married people don’t want to make love with their mates, but domesticity does not readily lend itself to passion or dreamy hand-holding moments. For every time Honey I love you leads to kissing and other endearments, there will be many more times when the phrase that follows is “but I . . . have to finish the laundry . . . want to watch the game (or “Desperate Housewives”), or . . . need to call back my mom, the school, or my sponsor.”Welcome to the club.
To which I say, no sh*t Sherlock! See, the problem with this condescending piece is that Bonnie (and I would suspect she’s not alone) wants us to feel all warm and fuzzy about the fact she claims to support marriage equality, but yet, she acts as though gays and lesbians just fell off the potato truck yesterday and have some unrealistic perception that if allowed to marry (if given permission by the likes of her…the straight people), that we’ll spend our lives in wedded bliss and much like a fairy tale (pun intended) we’ll live our lives happily ever after.
Well Bonnie, thanks for your approval, but I don’t need you to point out the downfalls of marriage. After all, I was born into a family with a Mom and a Dad. I witnessed first hand the struggles and ultimate demise of my parents marriage, but I witnessed the good times as well.
For your information Bonnie, the LGBT community is well aware of the effort and dedication it takes to make a relationship work. We are not some naive group of children being given our very first car and are not yet aware that we have to learn how to drive it as well as pay for maintenance and insurance. In fact, I would say that because people have been allowed to legally discriminate against us, we know more about the ‘not so good parts’ of relationships than most straight people do. You see Bonnie, we’ve had to try to make relationships work in an environment where on top of the trials and tribulations that go along with being in a relationship, we’ve been forced to combat the notion that our relationship is somehow ‘less than’ in the eyes of many and the law. We’ve had to work through our troubles knowing that our relationship isn’t even recognized as such.
As much as your piece may have had good intentions, I for one take offense, and to be honest, when it comes down to it, I firmly believe gay and lesbian couples could probably offer straight couples more and better advise as to how to make a relationship work. Because when it comes down to it, it’s been much more difficult for us, than it has for you
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