As We Get Married Some Will get Divorce-How Expensive is it?
Getting the right to marry is a civil, human right. I ask my self why is it that in something so clear to me as sex and living with somebody when there is property, children, involved is not a human right? Why is it that for those who don’t see the correlation on human rights includes having sex. Procreation or not.
The same religions that would lie about that as they lie about so many other things including child sexual abuse, have a problem with the procreation part. Have a bigger problem with the same part as that not being a human right. On the sex part is not only a human right is part of a bodily function that is to be performed in private.Common sense tells us that sex is part is what a human person does if capable of doing, like talking and walking. I know, same sex is the problem not sex. That is reserved for some people that most be more human that others. Public people saying the opposite need to be call on it!
Getting the human right to marry for LGTB is been both tooth pulling and an appendix fix through the ear. But we are on the way there without doubt. Just like with sex there are other negatives attacks to to it witch I think you can imagine so does same sex marriage. A lot of people in relationships wants it. Yes, there are people that have waited all their lives to get married but then others who just don’t want to miss the boat on something historical. After California gave it and then it was taken away. Regardless of what happens at the Supreme Court presently are people that got married and people not allowed to. Talk about the fairness of our laws and the humanity of it.
One of the negatives of Getting married for any couple that has not gotten to know their partner well is divorce. Divorce is a failure but so is being in a bad relationship and between the two getting out a mistake wins out any time. The problem that there is that, yes there is same sex divorce but like any ‘new’ practice, in this case divorce you're going to have fewer lawyers doing it. Fewer competition means higher prices. So how expensive it it? Also keep in mind if there are children and property involved:
Jim Duke, founder of the Guide for Gay Men and a life coach who helps men with issues like divorce. "The current legal structure leaves massive holes that straight couples do not face."
Duke entered a domestic partnership in California in 2001, but eight years later he and his partner divorced. He ended up paying $12,000 in legal fees for a simple 50-50 split of property and assets.
Christina Fuentes and her partner decided not to dissolve their civil union after realizing it was going to cost at least $6,000 -- even though the only property they would need to divide was their furniture. Instead, they waited two years, until Fuentes got a full-time job, to start the separation process.
"The lawyer fees were [high], because this is a new type of law and basically lawyers have to figure out how to charge and how to negotiate with the other side," she said.
For an out-of-court settlement in states where same-sex marriage isn't recognized, a same-sex divorce typically costs around $20,000, versus $10,000 for an opposite-sex couple, said Randall Kessler, a partner at Kessler & Solomiany Family Law Attorneys in Atlanta.
And the costs go up exponentially when children are involved. Even though a divorce typically can't be brought to court in states that don't recognize same-sex marriage, custody issues can -- resulting in court fees on top of the lawyer fees the couple is already paying to resolve property issues outside of court.
Same-sex couples who negotiate property division on their own but bring the custody issue to court are usually looking at $40,000, compared to $20,000 for opposite-sex couples, Kessler said. And a long, drawn-out court battle over custody could lead costs to jump to $100,000 or more for a same-sex couple, twice what it costs for an opposite-sex couple.
Many same-sex couples face extra custody costs even in states where same-sex marriage is recognized.
Andrea Friedman, an associate at Sari M. Friedman in New York, is representing a client who is battling for custody of her child. But since the client isn't the biological mother -- her wife carried the child -- her legal standing to argue for custody is in question, and an appeal has been filed against her.
"An appeal can be very costly, so on top of the cost to get divorce, the fight over custody adds more legal work on top of it and can really complicate things," said Friedman.
Other attorneys say same-sex divorces cost the same amount as opposite-sex divorces in states where same-sex marriage is recognized -- and are sometimes even cheaper because the marriages are usually very short given how recently the laws have taken effect.
No matter what state they're in, same-sex partners can still be subject to a federal gift tax when they transfer property or assets worth more than $14,000 to one another in a divorce. Opposite-sex married couples don't have to pay this tax when dividing assets.
Those prices will come down so it’s better at this time to get counsel and try to get that relationship going instead of going to the lawyer. 
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