Are Sexual Tastes Immutable?

 In Memoriam(gay porn starAndrew Gtande)
By Marnia Robinson on November, 08, 2012 in Cupid's Poisoned Arrow
Morphing brain
 It's time to distinguish 'sexual orientation' from reversible 'sexual tastes.’   The bulk of scientific evidence currently favors the view that the origins for most sexual desires are not cultural but innate. —Leon F. Seltzer 

Such statements mislead people that all sexual inclinations are created equal
 and are immutable. This is simply not true.  
Yes, genitals quite often fire up without our commanding them. Yet researchers 
have shown that mammals can be conditioned (and sometimes reconditioned)
 to adjust their sexual response with surprising ease. Even humans have
 managed
 to increase or suppress penile erection or vaginal pulse in the lab when 
offered monetary reinforcement and/or instructional feedback. 
Indeed, most of us have a good bit of indirect say over our sexual tastes
 (as contrasted with our sexual orientation).
 Brains are plastic. The truth is we are always training our brains—with or 
without our conscious participation. We can choose to avoid, pursue, and 
cease pursuit of, stimuli that condition our sexual tastes in particular directions.
For example, many young Internet porn users condition their sexuality to pixels—
such that they do not become aroused by real potential mates (to their horror).
 They are profoundly altering their innate sexual response in ways our ancestors 
would have found impossible to comprehend (because our ancestors didn’t
 have access to a parade of novel erotic cues at a click). This phenomenon 
of morphing sexual tastes in Internet porn users does not appear to have 
been researched at all, so the "bulk of scientific research" is badly skewed 
at present.In any event, proclaiming porn choices "innate" rather than
 "cultural" ignores an extensive body of evidence from multiple cultures
 about socially conditioned sexual practices.
 Psychologist Kirk Witherspoon explains:Sexual expression around the globe 
and across time has known the widest variety of permutations that have all 
been considered "normal" somewhere. ... What is deemed normal often has
 a large learned (nurturing) component, not a mere innate (nature)
 predetermination. For example, many of the sexual offenders I evaluate were
 themselves introduced to sex as children—either with other kids or with adults. 
Others, of course, may be more biogenically preconfigured.Internet porn use 
may be "normal" in our culture at present, but we should be cautious about
 assuming our porn-skewed tastes are "innate" or "immutable.”
Irreversible versus reversible
In the case of porn users, it's more accurate to think in terms of "irreversible” 
versus "reversible." Given long enough time-frames, or exposure during
 sensitive periods, sustained addiction could lead to irreversible preferences, 
at least in some people. Also, the earlier an attraction-pattern is established 
the more innate-seeming, or immutable, it will be.However, “reversible 
addiction" is the most likely explanation for the experience of many of 
today's porn users/lovers. They consistently describe escalation to harder 
and more extreme stimulation. If their tastes were instead immutable, they 
would swiftly find their perfect "fit" and stick to it indefinitely. Instead, many 
report profound, surprisingly rapid, shifts in behavior and performance. 
As it is, sexual tastes are changing rapidly. Said one observer:
I'm bisexual. These days, the men and women I sleep with are doing things that 
are more in line with pornographic acts than having sex. Things ten years ago 
were different. Recently, a woman I slept with asked if I wanted to perform
 anal sex on her. I've never enjoyed it (with men or women) so I declined and 
she almost seemed relieved, like it was some sort of normal thing that is 
expected of women. Also it takes forever for a lot of men to climax nowadays. 
My last boyfriend suffered from delayed ejaculation and he was a very heavy 
porn user.Another guy described his escalation into illegal content:I started 
looking at porn, on a regular basis, about five years ago. First there were the
 beautiful women, then the HC porn, then the weird insertions, then the
 transvestites,
 then critters, then the hermaphrodites, then the teen porn, then the younger 
models and now prison (soon to go). As the years passed I became less and
 less interested in masturbating and more and more interested in “novelty”
 searching. Towards the end, I couldn't sit at a computer without searching. 
I've never even remotely considered touching anyone or invading anyone’s
 privacy (all my kids and others can attest to that). Looking back, I just don’t 
see how I could have been so ignorant as to not recognize that I had a problem.
A better understanding of brain plasticity, addiction and how to reverse such 
trends is vital—lest we imprison such porn users as pedophiles instead of treating 
them for addiction.
 Widespread awareness of the risk of morphing sexual tastes would also
 encourage
 more people to learn about their options and seek help earlier. Note the
 experience 
of these three guys:Minors - When I used porn all the time I went to more 
and more
 extreme material. For me it was young girls. From 10 to 16 years old 
- hentai, 
models, CP; didn't matter, I loved it. I would never dream of doing 
anything with 
them. However, I always felt awkward around them (including my
 niece) because 
I had so much trouble separating them from my sexual thoughts of
 little girls. Since
 quitting porn, my taste in women has become far more mature and 
developed. 
I used to look at women with big boobs and think 'Meh, too large,' but 
lately I've just 
been thinking 'Ooh... Boobies.' It has been weeks since I've looked 
at a young girl
 and thought of her as sexually attractive. TL;DR: I think cutting out 
masturbation to 
Internet porn may have helped fix my ephebophilia/pedophilia.
Feet - Gradually became addicted to foot-fetish porn and eventually 
couldn't get it 
up for actual sex. You have no idea how embarrassing that is. Then I got
 into a 
situation where I couldn't look at porn for a month and a half, and couldn’t 
beat off 
either. 6 weeks later, I was waking up rock-solid erections and sex was like
 the old days again!!Femdom - I never thought that I'd be able to have
 normal sex. I always thought 
that my brain was just hard-wired to only be turned on by my femdom 
fetish, similar to
 the way a gay guy can only be turned on by cock, and cannot appreciate
 sex with a
 woman. Little did I know that the fetish I thought was hard-wired within me, 
was simply 
the result of my porn-viewing habits. It was a hell of my own making. Now,
 at day 91 of no porn/masturbation, I managed to have successful sex with
 3 different girls over the 
course of this weekend, the last sexual encounter being the most satisfying. 
This latest 
sexual encounter increased my sexual confidence greatly, and has removed
 any doubt that I previously had about the effectiveness of the reboot process.
Sexual choices matter
 The familiar message that "our sexuality is impervious to our choices" is a
 risky message. For one thing, it subtly implies that early childhood sexual 
trauma or adult/child sex is innocuous, as it cannot alter our innate sexual
 trajectory. How likely is this to be true—especially given the extreme plasticity
 of our brains during key windows of sexual development? 
The mammalian brain compounds the problem, because it generally finds it
 easier to fall into chronic overconsumption than it does to resist 
superstimulating enticements in favor of moderation. Yet our brains retain 
some plasticity indefinitely. If they didn't, addicts could never recover.
 (They often do.)
Conclusion
Humanity's understanding of its sexuality has long been distorted by incessant
 bickering among moralizers, feminists and sexual diversity zealots. Their noise
 diverts us from fully investigating our sexualityand our options. 
An understanding of how sexual plasticity and conditioning operate in humans 
would reveal the risks of sensitization from both repression and 
overconsumption. Thanks to recent science and the hard won experience 
of former pornusers in reversing sexual tastes, humanity is finally poised to 
comprehend its sexuality from a truly scientific perspective. It's time to retire 
the meme that, "My chosen masturbation stimuli are always proof of my sexual 
identity."Both animal models and people's actual experiences (today and 
throughout history) show us that many of us do condition sexual responses, 
albeit often without intent to do so. Nor does plasticity have to be a one-way 
street in the direction of more extreme. Our choices matter.Neuroscience can
 furnish the solid common ground from which we can all work to maximize true 
freedom of human sexual desire. It would be imprudent to ignore the evidence
 in order to cling to the sacred cow of "immutable sexual tastes.”   

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