Beaten Up in London For Being Gay...By Whom? A Gang of 4 Guys? Adamfoxie Will Give You His own Experience

 Adam on left recuperating from gunshot and on right, My love Bob. He was also with me when about five guys accosted us after we left a gay bar and wated to rob us. They did not succeed and I did not know I was going to pay that price but is ok I got shot better me than him. I feel bad for Rober Seal and not knowing where he is. That was love between two guys not since I never had before.

I won't publish the picture of this gay man that was beaten but I have something to say about this:

First Who Would do that? 

Anti Gay Homophobe, Crazy person Coward

This guy is afraid of being gay and is a coward...Crazy person....*Telle'm you were at the Dr. and have been diagnosed with smallpox and they will get contaminated. I would run after them to touch them. 

The bully cowards...Those are the easiest one to stand up too. *Well, what if he punches me? *You make him pay a price. I have been surrounded many times.  Many but one exception of being in a place similar to London I got a sucker-punched on the mouth which knocks me out for a few secs and to my disappointment the guy had done a runoff. I got off the sidewalk so angry I could hit any man. But otherwise everything that hit me or tries to was hit more than once by me and they got as much injured or a lot more than I did.

Cowards need to be confronted once they confront you! I learn that, when I was about 10 and my older brother about 22 kept slapping me in the face because he accused me of something I didn't do. He would not believe me. And I will not backtrack because I didn't do it. His wife was there and I guess he wanted to show her how he hits. Every time he slapped I cursed him. Would wait until he stepped back thinking he was done and I have cursed him again, and again. He was way too much for me and he was not boxing me or wrestling me to the floor. I don't know how long this went on, I was crying and thinking if he was going to kill me but I felt I had to do this, it was not the first time I was used as a punching bag.  Someone told one of my parents of what was going on and I think my parent most have Told him he was not supposed to do that., not because he felt bad for me but because My father knew what I knew, I could have him arrested. He must've past the information to this bully and he stopped. As for my father defending me from the older guys, never. When my mom came from town she told my brother off the only time she ever did, I always thought she was a little afraid of him. I was in such a rush to grow up and then to find out I was gay I figure the way I learn to deal with bullies does not change. By the way, when you are defending yourself against someone bigger than you or more than one, you use whatever nature gave you to defend yourself (teeth, elbows, legs) If you are lucky someone throws you a baseball bat or stick and you just swing and swing, run and swing. I was arrested once in Miami while I stayed at the Fountain Bleu on a Managers Conference. I went there with other managers that were gay to a famous gay disco. Can't remember the name but it had a Belgian sounding name. Very big, The guys sent me to get the drinks which were just 3 beers. The bar was full but I saw a spot. 

I approached and this guy, with the tough demeanor and trying to be straight, Told me not in a nice way that spot belongs to his friends which were dancing. I guess a new rule here. I told him I was ordering three beers and pulling right away to meet my friends. "He said I don't give a shit!"Just leave the spot open. Yeah, I was to run away and not order because he was superior to me. This was South Miami but I was raised in NYC)

I got the bartender and I ordered. His friends came... He curses me and says I warn you and now I'm going to get you out to the street myself. He was my size younger but with more muscle, my concern was the ones behind him which I could not see and I knew that when someone trip you and you fall you will get boots and shoes you will lose your virginity if you ever had one on your behind.. At that minute I turn facing bar to check if the beers have come in. No, but those were smoking times and there was a nice beautiful glass ashtray. I knew he was waiting for me to turn and he put his hand on my should throw a punch but when I turn I had the ashtray on my hand and you have to do fast not threatened, I  hitting not to kill him but to knowck him out I also hit him with  the forehead, not on his teeth or eyes I hit him right on the forehead not to permanently injured but to send him spinning to the floor hopefully. And to remember how stupid he was every morning when he brushed his teeth. Yeah, he went down like a Cluster bomb.

His friend's complaint they were hit by the glass from the ashtray. What a shame! No one came after me. But they have cams and security which follow me to the door. Cops. were called, the guy cursed the cops, me and EMS because they wanted to force in the ambulance because of the amount of blood. 

I sat in the police car waiting for the investigation but also about where I was going to wake in the am and I had a meeting and we were told if you dont make the meeting don't bother to go to your store. This was Sterling, Inc owners of Kay Jewelers and White Hall jewelers. To me this was the most disqusting people to work for and I already had 20 yrs experience on the field.

All I'm saying and I know my examples would be aggravated because I never have little things happen to me, but all I'm saying is defend yourself any way you can. In NYC when we got the right to marry we had all these low lives who felt maybe we needed a beating as a wedding ceremony. The newspapers and I kept posting most of these cases. I can't say and others joined my voice, bullies are not brave. They need to step on someone to validate that they are a man. The beating of gays stopped and I think it was because they knew that gays have been told to hit back,
Well, don't let them. If you bite him in the arm of taking his ear off he is going to be bussy with his blood. And even if he throws a punch, well You could honestly say when they ask you why the black eye you can say the other guys looks worse and be truthful about it. Feels free to post comments with any question and I will andswe your questions if I can.

{Adam Gonzalez}

Homophobic hate crime: Beaten-up for being gay

Jarek was beaten and hospitalized in a homophobic attack after a night out in February 2019.

"I thought London was the best place to be happy and safe and gay - until I was beaten up," he said.

A BBC 5 Live investigation found the number of hate crime reports across the UK more than doubled in the last five years, to over 13,000.

But the number of cases that led to charges or court summons being issued fell by 10% in the same time, to 1,047.

Jarek says he has had a positive experience with the police, but hate crime victim Ferhan says the police have not taken his report of being chased by a group of men shouting abuse from a car seriously.

"These men should have been tried for their crimes, but that never happened."

The Metropolitan Police Service say they have a hate crime liaison officer within every partnership and prevention hub in its basic command units and a central hate crime team.

"We stand with colleagues and groups to investigate all hate crime allegations, support victims, bring perpetrators to justice," the force said.

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Commissioning Editor: Kimberley Rowell

• 19 Sep 2019