Taking Belief as Truth } 2 NFL Players To Head To Head on Gay Rights
Just in case the NFL’s righteously vocal Brendon Ayanbadejo and Chris Kluwe were making you think that the macho world of professional sports is getting a little too tolerant of gay and lesbian rights, don’t worry, Ravens center (and former Minnesota Viking) Matt Birk has a few words to even things out.
In a YouTube video for the Minnesota Catholic Conference and an Op-Ed for the Star Tribune this week, Birk takes a strong stance for his home state’s Marriage Protection Amendment, and to his credit, attempts to frame the argument in respectful, reasonable terms. An acknowledgment that gays are people may not seem like a big deal, but coming from a guy who’s speaking on behalf of a religion whose leader recently called homosexuality “a concept of human nature that has proven defective,” it’s something.
Birk opens the video by saying that, “Supporting the basic rights of children and the authentic rights of people with same-sex attraction are not mutually exclusive.” He argues against the idea that by sticking to “the natural definition of marriage we are somehow being mean or bullies.” The father of six goes on to explain, as opponents of same-sex marriage inevitably do, that this is about the children. “No child should be intentionally deprived of knowing their mother and father,” he says, declaring his opposition to “genderless marriage.” In his Star Tribune piece, he speaks frankly of “people who are simply acknowledging the basic reality of marriage between one man and one woman.”
Birk is undoubtedly working from as generous a moral template as his belief system affords. In his statements, you can see him reaching for some kind of neutral ground that’s tolerant, if not accommodating. He’s a smart guy, and probably a nice one. The problem is that he’s making the mistake religious conservatism so often does — taking belief as truth. There is no “natural” definition of marriage, no “basic reality” of it. It’s a human-made institution, and as such, we humans get to decide what it is. The Bible is riddled with examples of marriage between owners and slaves, rapists and victims, family members, and multiple partners. So can we please stop pretending that perfect man-on-woman matrimony is the only thing that’s ever existed since the dawn of time? If our culture has reached a point where we’re evolved enough to understand that two men or two women have as good a shot at making a loving lifetime bond as two members of the opposite sex, isn’t that progress?
Mary Elizabeth Williams is a staff writer for Salon and the author of "Gimme Shelter: My
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