She Won't Let Her Brother w/Partner Near her House'cause of her 4yo, But the Sis in a Tight Spot Wants Him To Baby Sit

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I got this story from yahoo, written by Ashley Holt and it involves a gay man who lives with his partner Ryan. He was asking if he was the *A*H* for taking the stance he took. What do you think? This is a topic that in some backwards states or even places we would dream of this type ignorance still happens.

 

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Gather 'round everyone, it's time to dive into my favorite corner of the internet, the subreddit called Am I the Asshole? This is where Reddit users tell the internet about situations they're in and ask if they're the asshole for how they handled it.

Today's installment involves family, anti-LGBTQ+ views, and children. This story comes from an anonymous 20-year-old man who said, "I have been dating my boyfriend Ryan (22, male) for about a year. My sister Amanda (28, female) has a 4-year-old son Jack. After a family BBQ last month, Amanda pulled me aside and said, 'Hey, just so you know, it might be better if you don't bring Ryan to the next few family gatherings.' I asked her why, and she got all awkward, saying, 'Jack has been asking questions about you and Ryan, and I don’t think he’s old enough to understand all that yet.'”

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"I told her we weren’t exactly putting on a Pride parade in her yard. We were literally just eating hot dogs and chatting with family. She replied, 'It’s just confusing for him. You know how kids are.' I was mad but kept it together and said, 'If Ryan isn’t welcome, maybe I just won’t come either.' She sighed and said I was being dramatic."

 

"Last week, Amanda called me panicked because her babysitter canceled on her. I told her I couldn’t babysit because Ryan and I already had plans. She begged, saying she was desperate and I finally snapped. 'Why do you want me babysitting Jack? What if I accidentally expose him to my terrifying gay lifestyle? God forbid he sees me and Ryan together.'"

 

"Amanda blew up. She accused me of using Jack to make a point and said, 'This isn’t about Ryan. It’s about you being spiteful. You're punishing Jack 'cause you're mad at me.' She told my parents and that's when the real drama started. My mom called and said I was being selfish for letting a small disagreement ruin my relationship with Amanda. I told her it wasn’t small and reminded her of Amanda’s comment about confusing Jack. Mom brushed it off saying, 'She’s just doing what’s best for her child.' I said, 'What about what’s best for me? Why do I have to hide part of my life to make her comfortable?'”

"My dad sided with me. He said Amanda was being narrow- minded, and told her, 'Kids aren’t confused by love, they're confused by people acting like it’s something to hide.' Amanda then put the drama into the family group chat. My uncle said, 'It's not homophobic to want to protect your kid from topics they're not ready for. Why push it?'"

 

"This set off my cousin. She said, 'If Jack's old enough to understand that Amanda and Mike are married, then he's old enough to understand uncle (me) has a boyfriend.' She accused Amanda of being a hypocrite and called out my uncle, too, saying, 'Let’s not make this about your own outdated beliefs.' She also called Amanda a 'stuck-up bitch,' and my uncle called my cousin a 'drama queen.' My aunt chimed in, saying, 'I don’t agree with (my) lifestyle, but we should still support each other.' My grandmother replied, 'Support doesn’t mean tolerating disrespect.'"

 

"Amanda's husband Mike texted me saying, 'Look I don’t have an issue with you or Ryan, but this is getting out of hand. Amanda's just trying to avoid awkward questions from Jack, not insult you.' I told him, 'It's already insulting. Would she say the same thing if I were dating a woman?' He left me on 'seen.' Am I the asshole?"