A long Distance Relationship worked for this two poz guys
This is the story of Richard Scarry and Dean Coates
Long-distance relationships can be tough—especially when cross-oceanic journeys are involved—but that didn’t stop Richard Scarry and Dean Coates (“Chippy” to his friends) from finding love, international style.
In 2008, Scarry was living in Los Angeles and had been looking for someone on the net for about a year. Although while he had met some interesting people online, he just couldn’t find what he was looking for in a serious, committed partner.
“I had about 100 people reach out to me on the Personals, and it let me practice dating, get my feet wet and find my confidence again,” says Scarry, 43, who was diagnosed in 2005. He had just gotten out of a serious relationship when he signed up for the Personals and wasn’t looking for anything casual or fleeting.
But he kept looking. His work as an art gallery director in Los Angeles allowed him ample travel opportunities, and since his parents live in England, he decided to reach out to POZ Personals members in the United Kingdom. That’s when he found Chippy. The two spent July and August of 2008 chatting regularly via e-mail and telephone, arranging their first in-person rendezvous that September in Chippy’s home town of Bristol—a city about 100 miles west of London.
“This was my first time online dating, and I was incredibly fearful,” Scarry admits.
Well, Richard and Chippy got engaged last September on the one-year anniversary of their first date.
“Fortunately we live in England where we can get married,” says Scarry, who, along with Chippy, advocates for same-sex marriage in the United States as part of the Manifest Equality movement.
(Main story at Poz Magazine, net. Editing by adamxoxie.blog
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