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August 16, 2016

13 yr old S.I., NYC Bullied Boy Buried, The Alleged Bully Suspended 2 Days



 One of the last pictures taken of 13 yr old Victim of Suicide Danny Fitzpatrick

 

The funeral service for the 13-year-old Staten Island boy who committed suicide after being bullied in school will be held this week, according to the funeral home.

A wake for Daniel Fitzpatrick will be held from 2 to 4 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m. Tuesday at the Harmon Funeral Home, 571 Forest Ave., in West Brighton.

The funeral Mass for Fitzpatrick will be held at 11 a.m. at the Sacred Heart R.C. Church, at 981 Castleton Ave., on Wednesday, according to the funeral home.

Fitzpatrick, a student at Holy Angels Catholic Academy in Bay Ridge,  committed suicide after he was bullied by fellow students, according to a letter he wrote before he died. 

His father claims in a video posted online that school staff did nothing to stop the abuse.

"He and I went to the school, went to the principal," his father, Daniel Fitzpatrick, said in a video posted to Facebook on Saturday.

"All I got was, and all he got was, 'You'll be fine. Is he in counseling? You have to try harder, Danny.'"

A GoFundMe campaign started by Fitzpatrick’s sister to help cover the funeral costs had raised more than $100,000 as of Monday afternoon and the excess funds will be donated to anti-bullying and suicide awareness groups, according to the fundraising page. 

A spokeswoman for the diocese told DNAinfo New York over the weekend that the school tried to address the family's concerns, including giving counseling to Fitzpatrick.

One of the students accused of bullying was suspended for two days and the school's principal, Rosemarie McGoldrick, met with all of Fitzpatrick's classmates to discuss bullying, the spokeswoman said.

In his video posted to Facebook, Fitzpatrick's father called the boy a "kind, gentle soul" and his tormentors "monsters."

"To the parents of the boys that tormented my son, all I have to say is, I hope you never, never have to feel what my family is going through right now," said Daniel Fitzpatrick.

"You get to hold your children every night and day for the rest of your lives, and their natural lives. I don't get that anymore. Your little monsters took that from me and my wife and his sisters."


Background to this story
 
A 13-year-old boy from Staten Island was found hanging in the attic of his family home after writing a letter about being relentlessly bullied at school, the New York Post reported.
In his note, Danny Fitzpatrick detailed the bullying he had experienced at the hands of five other children who attended Holy Angels Catholic Academy with him in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn.
"They did it constantly," Danny wrote, adding that he had asked his teachers for help, but had received none in return.
Danny leaves behind a distraught family, including parents Maureen Mahoney Fitzpatrick and Daniel Fitzpatrick, who said that instead of helping their son at school, officials at Holy Angels Catholic dispatched child welfare investigators to their home.
"They called [the Administration for Children's Services] on us," Maureen Fitzpatrick told the Post.
"Danny told us they [administrators] were asking questions: 'Do Mom and Dad drink? Do they feed you? Do they have clothes in the house? 'Next thing you know, 7:30 at night, I have an ACS officer at my door, and my son told him, 'I just want a friend.'"
Danny's letter explains that he had "lots of friends" at one point in time, but eventually, things changed.
"At first it was good lots of friends, good grades, great life," he wrote. "I moved and went back but it was different. My old friends changed they didn't talk to me they didn't even like me."
Although Danny's letter does mention one teacher who was kind to him, the Fitzpatricks maintain that school officials badly missed any opportunities they had to help their struggling son — like the time he wound up in the principal's office with a fractured pinkie after some classmates tried to fight him on the playground.
Maureen Fitzpatrick said that instead of supporting the boy, they put him in a room with the children who had attacked him and questioned them all on what had happened.
"How do you conduct an interview with the victim and his attacker in the same room?" she asked. "If he said what happened, it would come back to him tenfold."
Maureen Fitzpatrick added that at the end of his life, there was no one that her son fully trusted.
“I’ll never have my baby back," she said.

(Nicholas Rizzi and Paul DeBenedetto)

November 28, 2015

Gays are still being Street Harass Today



                                                                         

                                                                         


Conversations about street harassment and consent often focus exclusively on the experiences of women – and most of its victims do identify that way – but it’s also a broader issue. Many gay men silently cope with harassment and consent within male-dominated social spaces designated for LGBT people, spaces most heterosexual people never enter. Spaces created for people like me.

The most toxic forms of masculinity pervade gayborhood mainstays such as nightclubs, bars and even the occasional cruise down the sidewalk. Yet these uncomfortable, if not traumatizing, experiences get swept under the rug – or worse, internalized as something that “just happens” and shouldn’t be taken seriously. 

It’s a pernicious double standard. As a 2014 report from Stop Street Harassment notes, gay, bisexual and transgender men experience rates of street harassment between 17 and 20% higher than their male counterparts who aren’t LGBT.

I should know. A few summers ago, I walked home as I normally would from a gym in Chicago’s Lakeview neighborhood, which has a high concentration of LGBT residents and business owners. With headphones in, I enjoyed a breezy afternoon stroll down Broadway Street, the wind drying my sweaty brow, soaked shirt and gym shorts. Approaching the last few blocks of my journey home, I heard loud jeers and laughs from three men walking behind me.

“Man, look at that ass,” one man said to the others, as if I wasn’t present and listening to his remarks. “Wonder if he’ll let me get a bite of that.”

I thought if I ignored them and just listened to my music, they’d eventually stop. But they kept walking behind me, they kept discussing what they’d like to do with my hindquarters with or without my consent, my whole way home. As I arrived on my block, I suddenly realized that hardly anyone else was in an earshot, and started to wonder if they really wouldn’t stop. So I quickly shuffled to my buzzer gate, slammed it behind me, and unlocked my building’s double doors in haste, rushing inside for a buffer between myself and the men on the outside. They laughed at my trepidation as they continued down the street.

Moments after, I shared my story with friends on Facebook, and I got the expected comments in return from women who experience similar situations all the time. But I didn’t expect to see several messages from gay male friends of mine noting that I wasn’t alone in what I’d experienced. Many of my friends, ashamed, had kept their stories to themselves out of fear of being stigmatized, labeled buzzkills or because their masculinity put them in conflict with being victimized.
 
Whether it’s rooted in homophobia and transphobia, or whether it’s someone from the community who has little-to-no respect for others’ boundaries, harassment in public spaces threatens the safety and well-being of many gay, bisexual, transgender and queer men.

It’s time to have more of a conversation about how the misogyny and patriarchy imbued in rape culture – including street harassment and unwelcome sexual advances – targets those deemed vulnerable, whether it’s heterosexual women or queer and gender non-conforming men.

But it’s not the responsibility of feminist women to generate that dialogue, because they’re plenty busy with the task of their own collective liberation. Gay, bisexual, transgender and queer men need to elevate their own narratives and use the examples provided by feminism to stage sustainable interventions and engage in consciousness raising about eradicating toxic masculinity from the community once and for all.

The community has long prided itself on celebrating and enjoying an array of sexual proclivities, but not every unsolicited advance, or act of sexual aggression, is fun for every man. The only reason that’s hard to recognize is that we’re still being held back by the heterosexual masculinity that so much of queer culture has worked to reject. We must foster community that celebrates a healthy, pleasurable sexuality – one that respects bodies and boundaries.

November 18, 2014

All TV Stars should have gotten the mess.Gay slangs Not Cool, Not Shane Richie “the last in is gay”




HE'S USUALLY the life and soul of the party but Shane Richie found himself cut from a Children in Need quiz after making a insensitive joke.  

Shane Richie CUT from Children in Need quiz after 'gay' jokeBBC
Shane Richie was cut from a Children in Need quiz after 'gay' joke
Hurry up! Last person in is a gay! 
Shane Richie
The EastEnders star, who plays loveable rogue Alfie Moon on the Walford soap, offended several members of reunited band S Club 7 in a lift.
Waiting for people to enter the lift, Shane reportedly said: "Hurry up! Last person in is a gay!"
The three members of S Club 7 who were in the lift - Tina Barrett, Jo O’Meara and Hannah Spearritt - clearly didn't appreciate the quip.
Jon Lee, one of the seven, came out as gay to the Gay Times in 2010. A representative for S Club 7 told BBC bosses they weren't prepared to take part in the CHildren in Need quiz alongside Shane, resulting in him being culled.
The Sun have reported a 'source' close to Shane has confirmed he made the comment, but denied it was meant to be offensive.
The source said: "The comments were clearly meant as a joke.
Shane Richie was cut from a Children in Need quiz after 'gay' jokeBBC
Shane reportedly offended S Club 7 with his gay quip
Shane Richie was cut from a Children in Need quiz after 'gay' jokeBBC
Shane still took part, acting in the EastEnders charity special
Shane Richie was cut from a Children in Need quiz after 'gay' jokeTWITTER
The star thanked everyone who donated to the children's charity
"To suggest he intended any offence couldn’t be further from the truth."
Although he was cut from the quiz, the star still did his bit for charity in the EastEnders special.
Taking to Twitter he urged people to donate, telling those who already had he "loved" them.
He said: "If you missed BBC Children in Need last night I'll be presenting the highlights from Albert Sq today @BBCOne 4.30. To all who donated...love ya x [sic]"
The Daily Express online have contacted representatives for both Shane and the BBC for comment.

February 7, 2014

11 Yr Little Boy Attempts Suicide Because of Gay Bullying

Michael Morones, 11 (WTVD, FACEBOOK)
Michael Morones, 11 (WTVD, FACEBOOK)
RALEIGH, N.C. — An 11-year-old boy is in the hospital after trying to commit suicide — the victim of bullying at school.
Michael Morones remains in WakeMed Tuesday with a tube down his throat and potentially life-long brain damage.
Michael tried to kill himself, apparently because he could no longer take the torrent of bullying he was facing at school.

Michael’s parents told WTVD that he was bullied because he likes the cartoon “My Little Pony.” The cartoon has a growing, and perhaps unlikely fan club — men and boys known as “Bronies.”
Michael’s mother Tiffany Morones-Suttle said that he’s a kid who is always full of energy and always dancing. She fears this is part of the reason he was teased so much.
Ten days ago, Michael decided to do something about it.
“He hung himself off the side of the bunk bed, off the railing,” said his mother.
His parents got him to the hospital, but the damage had already been done. Oxygen to his brain had been cut off.
They say they won’t know for awhile how much damage was done to Michael.
“I’ve heard a lot of people say you need to go after bullies and hold them responsible,” said Tiffany. “But you know, I don’t think that’s what Mike would want. I would rather teach people how to do right than turn around than punish, because punishment doesn’t always work.”
Fans of the “My Little Pony” show, like Michael, try to live the motto that friendship is magic.
Michael has gotten support from as far away as Ireland, and a lot of money, which is used for Michael’s care, but also to start a nonprofit to help with bullying.
But the bullying hasn’t stopped. Michael’s parents say just Sunday night on a generally supportive website, a few people left very hurtful comments.
Michael is scheduled to have a tracheotomy Tuesday.
Money can be donated at any State Employees Credit Union under the Michael Morones Recovery Fund. Checks can also be mailed to: The Michael Morones Recovery Fund, c/o Team Trivia Inc., 1380 Woodvine Way, Alpharetta GA 30005, or through PayPal at csuttle3@gmail.com.
A fund for Michael has also been set up through gofundme.com
Source: WTVD

October 18, 2013

FL Police Arrests 2 Girls Whose Cyber Bullying Cause Another Girl to Kill Herself


   

Florida officials are still actively investigating the parents of a teenage girl accused of cyberbullyingRebecca Sedwick to suicide, Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd said.


"If I could, they would already be in jail," Judd told ABC News Wednesday. "But I can tell you this, that we're keeping our options open."
The charge would be "contributing to the delinquency of a minor," the sheriff said.
Sheriff: Suicide of Girl, 12, 'Broke My Heart'
Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd talks about the events leading up to the arrest over the weekend of two juvenile girls in a Florida bullying case at a press conference in Winter Haven Monday, Oct. 15, 2013.

Two girls, ages 12 and 14, were arrested earlier this week and charged with felony aggravated assault for leading the digital torment against the 12-year-old Rebecca, police said. She jumped from a concrete silo tower to her death Sept. 9.
Meanwhile, the parents of the two suspects and school officials bare the bulk of responsibility, Rebecca's mother said.
"I would rather see the parents and administrators behind bars, and see the kids get help they need," Tricia Norton of Lakeland, Fla., told ABC News Wednesday.
The parents of the older suspect monitored their daughter's Facebook activities nightly and saw no signs of bullying, leading them to believe someone hacked her account, they told ABC NewsTuesday night.
Sheriff Judd doesn't buy their story and accused the older suspect of gloating on Facebook after the suicide about bullying Rebecca.
Parents of Alleged Cyberbully Blame Facebook Hack
John Borgen, the former boyfriend of both Rebecca Sedwick and Guadalpue Shaw, who has been charged in Sedwick's death, says that he knew as many as 15 girls from school were teaming up against Sedwick but never expected her to kill herself."Yeah, that's baloney. Those parents haven't cared from the very beginning," Judd said. "After this initial event, after the initial interviews, why did they let her stay on Facebook any longer?"
Judd said he's only investigating the older suspect's parents, whom he described as being "in denial."
"When the parents don't take care of the children and it becomes criminal conduct, then it becomes my responsibility, and my deputies and I know how to take control," Judd said.
The younger suspect's parents "are remorseful, and they see the big picture. They recognize that was a major malfunction. They care," Judd said.
The sheriff released the names and mug shots of the accused juveniles earlier this week to send a message to others in the community about cyberbullying. ABC News is not revealing either girl's identity because they have been charged as juveniles.
Rebecca was bullied online for 10 months and Norton said her daughter had been physically attacked five times before that, police say. Eventually, Norton pulled Rebecca from Crystal Lake Middle School in Pompano Beach to end the bullying and keep her daughter away from the two suspects, who also attended classes there.
"I made several, several reports to the school. I did an online bullying report because I thought nothing was being done by the school. And nothing was being done on that either," Norton said.
Polk County school officials refused to comment when asked about Norman's allegations, but they told ABC News that progress on bullying is being made.
"We have seen an increase in the reporting of bullying," Polk Schools Assistant Superintendent Nancy Woolcock said. "Parents seem to be paying attention now."
One mother who has a child attending Crystal Lake Middle School said bullying should not be tolerated under any circumstance.
"We don't need no more lives taken. One time is enough. Zero tolerance is zero tolerance," the unidentified mother said.
But even after Rebecca left the school for a fresh start this fall, her tormentors continued their assault online, police said. She jumped to her death at an abandoned concrete plant.
"When I stood there at the base of that cement tower, and saw that baby, that 12-year-old, deceased on the ground, it broke my heart and I know it would break the hearts of everyone else across the country if they were in the position I was in," Judd told "Good Morning America" Wednesday.
Rebecca would have celebrated her 13th birthday this weekend.
The 12-year-old suspect told them she bullied Rebecca and expressed remorse, Police said. She was released into her parents' custody and has been placed on home detention, pending further proceedings.
The older suspect remains in the juvenile wing of the Polk County Jail until her arraignment Oct. 25.
By 
MATT GUTMANMore From Matt »
Correspondent
 via GOOD MORNING AMERICA

October 14, 2013

Memorial For Dad Killed Walking For Bullied, Dead Gay Son

 
Memorial set for father killed during walk for son

LA GRANDE, Ore. -- A memorial service will be held Thursday for Joseph Bell of La Grande, Ore. who was killed last week while walking across the country to raise awareness after his son committed suicide in January.
Bud Hill, Bell's close friend, was shaken by the tragic loss. He said offers have been pouring in from people wanting to help continue Bell's legacy with Faces For Change, one of the organizations Bell was walking for.
Bell, 48, was pronounced dead Wednesday on a highway in eastern Colorado when a semi-driver from Texas fell asleep at the wheel, striking and killing him.
In August, Bell began his national trek across the country to raise awareness about bullying and suicide prevention after his gay son, Jadin Bell, hanged himself at a La Grande grade school. Jadin died two weeks later in a Portland hospital.
"Joe had a lot of influence in the time he was out there," Hill said. "I honestly believe, between him and Jadin, there are people who changed their mind."
Joe and Jadin's story already stopped one young man from committing suicide, and he is scheduled to speak at the memorial service at the Gilbert Event Center at Eastern Oregon University, Hill said.
For now, Hill is taking time to reflect on the influence his friend had on young people around the county. He is determined to keep his vision and legacy going. He just has to figure out how.
"We just have to keep it going. We Will keep it going," he said.
Thursday's service in La Grande is open to the public.

January 30, 2013

Bullied Gay Teen Taken Off Life Support } He Hang Himself

{ Jadin Bell only 15 }  His situation had gotten so bad for him he had asked his parents to home school him. 

A gay Oregon teenager has been taken off life of support more than a week after climbing onto a playground structure at a local elementary school in the city of La Grande and hanging himself.
Jadin Bell, 15, was being bullied in person and online because he was gay, a family friend told Komo News. He had recently asked his parents to allow him to be home schooled because he thought turning in the bullies would only make the situation worse.
'He was different, and they tend to pick on the different ones,' said the friend, Bud Hill.
Bell was a sophomore at La Grande High School where he was a member of the cheerleading squad.
"If someone was down and out he would walk into a room and say a couple quick words and everybody would just forget about their problems and smile,' Hill said. 'He just had a gift.'
More than 200 people attended a vigil last week in honor of the teen. After the event, friend Jody Bullock told The LaGrande Observer: 'He is amazingly sensitive. If he saw a wounded butterfly [as a child] he wanted to heal it ... He is an amazing young man who is smart and very social; he has a persona and a presence that you want to be a part of.'

December 6, 2012

Follow Up } Josh Pacheco 17, Final Good Bye on FaceBook


The parents of a gay high school student who killed himself after posting a Lord of the Rings farewell quote on his Facebook page have claimed he took his life after extreme bullying.
Josh Pacheco, 17, was found dead in his car inside his family's garage in Fenton, Michigan on November 27 by a neighbour who had gone to check on the teen while he was at home sick.
The neighbour went around after Pacheco's stepfather saw he had written a Bilbo Baggins quote on his Facebook wall, reading: 'I regret to announce that this is the end. I'm going now, I bid you all a very fond farewell. Goodbye.'
He also left a note in his truck: 'I'm sorry I wasn't able to be strong enough.


Loss: Josh Pacheco, who came out to his family two months ago, committed suicide after relentless bullying


Linden


The teen, who came out to his parents two months ago, was bullied both in and out of school, his mother, Lynnette Capehart, and stepfather, Michael Capehart, told the Flint Journal/Mlive.
His mother said she first realised there was something wrong when he returned from the homecoming dance on October 6 and was crying, but would not tell her what was wrong.
After he died, other students and parents told her that Josh had been pushed into lockers and teased at Linden High School, the paper reported.
 He was having problems with bullying,' Lynnette Capehart said. 'He didn't really want to tell us very much. It was very disheartening to me.'
The weekend before his death, he spoke to his sisters about his future, making comments that worried his parents.
They spoke to him on the Sunday and set up an appointment for him to see a counsellor on Wednesday 28, although they thought he seemed back to normal. He took his life on the Tuesday.

 
At his funeral, teachers also said they believed he had been bullied, the Capeharts said, and his mother said she was upset the school had never told her.


'I regret to announce that this is the end. I'm going now, I bid you all a very fond farewell. Goodbye'

Facebook post by Josh Pacheco

But Superintendent Ed Koledo said there had never been a report of bullying made to the school.
'We weren’t aware of any specifics,' he said. 'There’s been a lot of stories that have turned up over the weekend that we are looking into.'
But he added that new programs are being put in place to help students feel more comfortable about coming forward if they are being bullied. The school is also considering bringing speakers to the school to talk about bullying and suicide.
Michael Capehart said he will be touch with the school constantly until they take some action with those students who were involved in bullying his stepson. 
But more than anything, the family said they just want the bullying to stop, and do not want those involved in bullying Josh to be bullied themselves.
At his funeral on Saturday, attended by around 400 people, Josh was remembered as a kind, fun-loving student who adored taking part in the theatre.
'My son was very funny and exceptionally sensitive and loving to other people's feelings,' his mother said.
As well as his parents, he leaves behind his siblings - Alicia, 20, Tiffani, 19, Grant, 14, and Haylee, 12 - whom he described as his best friends.
By LYDIA WARREN 

Bullied 17 Yrs.Old } Josh Said Good Bye on FB and Ended His Life

  BY GREG HERNANDEZ




The parents of a 17-year-old gay high school student have gone public about their son's suicide last month and believe anti-gay bullying may have been a factor in his decision to end his life.
Josh Pacheco was a junior at Linden High School in Fenton, Michigan. On 27 November, he posted a message on his Facebook page quoting Bilbo Baggins from J.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit: 'I regret to announce that this is the end. I'm going now, I bid you all a very fond farewell. Goodbye.'
The parents have since learned from other students that their son was being bullied in and outside of school including being pushed into lockers at one point.
'He was having problems with bullying,' his mother, Lynette Capehart, tells Michigan Live. 'He didn't really want to tell us very much. It was very disheartening to me.'
Superintendent Ed Koledo tells MLive that the school was unaware of any specific bullying incidents.
'There's been a lot of stories that have turned up over the weekend that we are looking into.,' he said. 'We are trying to put new programs into place, so [students] feel more comfortable [talking to administrators]'
Pacheco was found dead by a neighbor. He was inside of his truck inside the family's garage with the garage door closed.
He left a note in the truck which read: 'I'm sorry I wasn't able to be strong enough.’

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