June 26, 2011

Sir Ian Mc Kellen Explain why He Was Not out sooner

Sir Ian McKellen's mother died when he was still a teenager
by James Park 


Sir Ian McKellen, who is fronting an advertising campaign for the Albert Kennedy Trust on gay teenagers kicked out of home for coming out has explained in an interview for The Times why he never came out to his own parents.

The advertising campaign shows Sir Ian sleeping rough while a gang of aggressive yobs douse him in cider.
In the advertisement, Sir Ian says: “Perfectly ordinary loving parents faced with the knowledge that their child is gay are appalled and can’t believe it. If they’re a member of a society or a faith that disapproves of homosexuality, sometimes the first gay person in their life turns out to be their child. They can’t cope. The instant reaction is: ‘Get out of our house’. And you’ve got a child who is homeless simply because he or she told the truth.”
Sir Ian explained to The Times why he never came out to his father (his mother died when he was just 12): “I first accepted I was gay when I was about 16 and I wasn’t attracted to girls in the way that my friends were. I had this secret and there was nothing I could do about it because, as far as I knew, I was the only person.” In reality, Sir Ian’s two best friends were also hiding that they were gay and it wasn’t until 20 years later that they discovered the truth.
Sir Ian’s widower father, Denis, an engineer and lay preacher died when Sir Ian was 24.
“He was a good, good man — a Christian, but not the sort of Christianity that would have condemned it. Well, I was living with a man at the time, so he couldn’t have been surprised. I hope he’d have given me a hug and said ‘That’s fine by me’. But who knows? We didn’t always talk about important emotional matters in my family.
“There was nothing positive about homosexuality in the newspapers and it was against the law to make love. I knew people my age who’d been sent to prison for doing it! When I tell schoolchildren that, they can’t believe it.
“So there was a lot of bewilderment inside me. Why did I feel like this when society said what I was doing was illegal?”
Sir Ian explained how despite being in a gay relationship while a relatively young actor, he wasn’t asked about his sexuality: ” I wasn’t one of those closeted actors who lied about it, but I avoided talking about it. It was easy. Nobody ever asked me. If I had told someone I was gay in an interview, the lawyer would have taken it out anyway because it was considered a terrible thing to say about anyone. Simon Callow would talk about being gay in interviews but it would never be reported. In the end he had to write a book to come out!”
Sir Ian eventually came out to his stepmother and sister and outed himself aged 49, during a radio debate with a right-wing commentator over the introduction of the hated Section 28 legislation that prohibited the ‘promotion’ of homosexuality by local authorities or schools. “It was a very nasty bit of legislation. I joined the campaign against it and realised that I couldn’t talk about it without explaining why I was involved.”

Why? Beyoncé, Gaga and Adele



Leading the field: (from left) Beyoncé, Lady Gaga and Adele.
Between them, Beyoncé, Adele and Lady Gaga have pop sewn up tighter than a tumble-dried Spandex bodysuit, according to Sasha Frere-Jones, august pop critic of the New Yorker magazine.
"Who run the world?" asks Beyoncé Knowles on Run The World (Girls), the lead single from her latest album, 4 (released tomorrow, although it did leak three weeks ago).
"You do, Beyoncé," Frere-Jones appears to confirm – or, at least, confirms that she runs the pop world as part of a trio of female queens.
In the eye-popping video for Run The World (Girls) Beyoncé seems to be positing a kind of all-girls-together, cod-orientalist version of sisterhood that many feminists have, frankly, struggled to embrace. But the wider point rings true. The soundtrack to pop in 2011 has three extraordinary female lead vocalists soloing all over it, drowning out much else.
It's still only June, but it is probably safe to assume that Adele will finish the year as the Anglophone pop market's biggest-seller (around seven million albums sold worldwide to date). Gaga's Born This Way is the fastest-selling album of the year thus far and it is only part of her vast cultural reach. With more than 11 million Twitter followers, she has now out-twitted social-media princeling Justin Bieber.
We will learn in time whether the album leak will impact on Beyoncé's numbers significantly. But the R&B diva – who is headlining Glastonbury on Sunday night – was posting total figures of 75 million records sold back in 2009 (and her fourth album is stronger than the perfectly OK I Am… Sasha Fierce released that year).
For those not au fait with Beyoncé's inner workings, Sasha Fierce is the amplified persona Beyoncé adopts as a pop star; it is tempting to believe that Beyoncé needs Sasha. The sleek, blank and unknowable Knowles rarely gives the impression of having blood and bones, despite the evidence of the coups she conducted for control of Destiny's Child, her previous band. Lady Gaga may go out of her way to appear like a cyborg, but actually, it is Beyoncé's persona that is the more shiny and mechanised.
You can't, of course, discuss Lady Gaga without some mention of Madonna, whose blond ambition now seems positively classy next to Gaga's hell-for-leather brazenness. The parallels between the two Italian-American pop mavens have been traced countless times – the S&M chic, the blasphemic appropriations of religious iconography, the constant visual reinventions. Where they differ, though, is where the fascination lies. Gaga is far, far stranger, more performance art than disco dominatrix.
Madonna, too, had her own three-way fight to contend with. You might easily remember the 80s as an almighty game of oneupmanship between Madonna, Michael Jackson and Prince, two hypersexualised "freaks" and one deeply peculiar man-child. In reality, memory is a deceptive thing, and Prince's sales figures are nothing on Whitney Houston's, whose dance of wholesomeness and perdition has made her seem in hindsight more interesting than her dully canonical soul works did at the time.
With music sales pale ghosts of their former numbers, is it significant that it's a woman's market right now? Probably not. You could optimistically try to draw some sort of link between the economy, hemlines and pop-cultural artefacts but, in this case, it would look like a cat's cradle gone wrong. We could be thinking too hard about this. Adele's numbers are almost certainly swelled by irregular music fans buying their token new CD of the year. But hegemonic pop – the stuff that is everywhere – is really rather good at the moment, thanks in no small part to this distaff trinity.
It's always tempting to render pop as taxonomy – who fits where, in relation to whom; and what it is that specific genre choices say about their adherents. There is an almost Linnean urge to organise the cacophony of popular music in a schematic way... it's called "marketing", I believe.
You could – and Frere-Jones does, to some extent – assign roles to these three singers. He's got Adele – classic, mature (in sound if not in age) – reserved for the soccer moms who buy CDs in Starbucks. Beyoncé is America's sweetheart, while Gaga is, broadly, for the freaks. This is a reductivist take, but let's examine it all the same.
He's pretty right about Beyoncé. Despite disporting herself like an Amazon in heat in her videos (that'll be Sasha Fierce), she is the sort of smiley, uncontroversial figure who'll help Michelle Obama out with acampaign against childhood obesity. You're unlikely to find Gaga doing that.
Oh, but wait: that high-concept space oddity has a socially conscious agenda of her own. Even before Born This Way, few mainstream pop stars have trumpeted the rights and joys of gay culture quite so loudly.
Adele hasn't got a big drum to beat, but packing all the signifiers of vintage authenticity, she theoretically rises above the fray. Her second album, 21, is, in truth, a little lacking in grit for me, but here's the thing: Adele's wise-cracking, ebullient normality off-mic puts Beyoncé's doe-eyed absence in sharp perspective.
Gaga doesn't have exclusive rights to the LGBT crowd, either. You can imagine even her constituency of transgressive night-creatures might like to curl up and have a wobble to Adele's Someone Like You. Indeed, there will be millions of people who will own all three stars' records, music obsessives and floating voters alike.
Where these three albums differ, really, is at the level of production. Beyoncé began her career at a time when pop (by which we mean R&B) was being produced more or less exclusively by a generation of superb African-American sonic innovators: the Neptunes, Timbaland, Kevin "She'kspere" Briggs. This remains her core sound.
Around the same time as Beyoncé emerged, however, another pop sound was being honed across the Atlantic by Swedish producers like Max Martin, Bloodshy & Avant and, latterly, Moroccan-born (but Stockholm-schooled) RedOne, using singers like Britney Spears. Lady Gaga exemplifies the Swedification of R&B. The dominant American pop mode is something you might now call Euro&B: a clubby, trancy distillation of US urban music put through a Scandinavian rinser.
Ultimately, though, our token pie-split feels like a fastidious discussion of sonic nuances, and more like the kind of thing you might find in a women's magazine. Answered mostly As? You are Adele: comforting, righteous, timeless. Mostly Bs? You are Beyoncé: lusciously inscrutable. Mostly Cs? You are Gaga, barmy vagina dentata on legs with really very orthodox tunes.
None of the above? Then perhaps you favour the Barbadian elephant in the room. Loud, Rihanna's fifth album, came out last autumn but its tail has been long, selling something like 1.3 million and still sounding inescapable.
Why do we need to stratify this sonorous state of affairs at all? There will be Adele fans who loathe Gaga's porno-schtick, Beyoncé believers who look down their noses at Adele's hijacking of soul. Tribalism is traditionally held to be a rock thing, but emotions run ever higher in pop, as the febrile comments under YouTube videos attest.
Perhaps all this is ultimately predicated on a mercantilist's view of pop, on the divide-and-conquer tactics of people who see music as product –material – rather than music. Most of us are not in marketing. We just like music. And we are not naïve: we know this stuff is made by committee, probably by about two dozen, predominantly male writer-producers in a kind of digital Brill Building erected in the internet. We know that this glorious female takeover of pop is, therefore, pretty illusory. We know that Beyoncé's songs about female empowerment are not the same thing as feminism. We still like them.
And however much Adele, Beyoncé and Lady Gaga might dress up what they do in the clothing of authenticity, transgression or whatever it is that Beyoncé actually does (raunchy sexlessness, is it? "Spritzy competence," offers the New Yorker's Frere-Jones), all three of these pop divas are playing versions of the same game, with levels of skill as vertiginous as their heels.

For same-sex couples across New York, this is a day to celebrate


George Constantinou (left) and Farid Ali LancherosGeorge Constantinou (L) and Farid Ali Lancheros are expecting twins

 

Jo-Ann Shain and her partner Mary Jo Kennedy have been together for 29 years and have a daughter. Now, finally, they can get married.
"We've lived as if we were married," says Ms Shain, who's 58 and lives in Brooklyn, "but this makes it so much more real.
"Finally we can stand in front of our friends and family and reaffirm our commitment." The couple plan to be married by a friend who is a judge.
George Constantinou and Farid Ali Lancheros are expecting twins via a surrogate mother.
"It's so exciting. I never thought I would see this day. I grew up knowing I was gay and wanting to get married and have children.
"I've been to so many heterosexual weddings, and now I look forward to inviting my heterosexual friends to our wedding."
For Ms Shain and Mr Constantinou, the legalisation of same-sex marriage in New York is a matter of civil rights.
"I have the right to vote, to pay taxes. Give me the same rights as my heterosexual neighbour," says Mr Constantinou.
'Repugnant'
But for opponents of same-sex marriage, this is an ominous redefinition of the institution, forced by New York lawmakers upon their constituents.
"People wanted to be able to vote on this directly," insists Brian Brown, head of the National Organization for Marriage.
"There's something unique and special about marriage between a man and a woman. Only the union of a man and a woman can create new life."
Mr Brown says a "profound and irreconcilable conflict" has now been created with the legalisation of same-sex marriage.
"We have a redefinition of marriage in which those of us who disagree are treated as bigots."
Mr Brown cites the case of the Catholic Church in Washington, DC, where same-sex marriage is legal.
He says the church there has been told it's discriminatory not to place children for adoption or fostering with same-sex couples.
The Catholic Church does not recognise same-sex marriage.
"The Church is going to be punished for its belief that marriage is between a man and a woman," says Mr Brown.
In New York, lawmakers sought protection for religious organisations that don't believe in same-sex marriage, so they could carry out their mission without the risk of legal action.
The Reverend Monsignor Kieran Harrington, a Catholic priest in Brooklyn, says it's the underlying principle of this new law which he finds offensive.
"What we find repugnant is that this is being described as a civil rights issue," he says.
"African-Americans weren't allowed to use the same fountains as white people. There were lynchings.
"The civil rights legislation was a reaction to this very real level of discrimination.
"If you say it's a civil rights issue, then the state uses the coercive means at its disposal."
Monsignor Harrington fears that those New Yorkers who disagree with same-sex marriage will now be portrayed as prejudiced.
As opponents of the new law reflect upon its implications, Mr Constantinou is realising that this year he will not only become a parent but could now marry his partner.
A late-night vote in Albany has granted him the acceptance he lacked for so long from society.
"We're going to make it better for the next generation," says Mr Constantinou.

SW Pilot on Rant About Gays,Grannies Etc Suspended but All Are Asking For The Axe


Southwest Airlines(Follow Up)  Posted by Jeanne Sager
OK, someone explain to me how theSouthwest Airlines pilot who went off on the ridiculous rant on an airplane mic aboutgays, grannies, and "grandes" (aka overweight people to you and me who have a little, ahem, humanity) still has a job? Last we heard, the guy had been suspended, but today the flight attendants' union is talking about filing charges because the guy is back in the cockpit. Doesn't Southwest know there's a recession going on? There are people waiting for that job!
The as yet unidentified jackass pilot was caught by air traffic controllers who overheard him bashing the Southwest crew of flight attendants with homophobic, ageist, and all-around nasty words back in March. While he was bemoaning the airline not hiring "cute chicks" who he apparently planned to bed, the controllers were taping his every word to hand over to Southwest officials. Who should have put him on a no-fly list, pronto.
Instead they took this crude piece of horse manure and shuttled him off to diversity training, then welcomed him back to the cockpit to once again fly the "friendly skies," promising the rest of the staff that he's a chastened boy who will never do it again. OK, if I'm on that staff, I'd be saying "dang right, he's never doing it again! Because he's not hanging around me anymore!"
What this pilot did was straight up sexual harassment. He talked about how "doable" the flight attendants were. He called out the gay men as "fags." And now they have to look him in the face again? Work with him again, with him technically in a supervisory role? Yeah, I don't think so. Is it any wonder the union is mad that he's back?
The pilot may have gone through "sensitivity training," but Southwest has a responsibility to the rest of its staff, not just one pilot, to provide a safe working environment. I hate to see someone lose their job, especially in this economy, but some people bring it on themselves. People shouldn't have to work under someone who has treated them in this manner. And Southwest should value its flight attendants enough to protect them from such cruelty.

Gay Pride Around the World

Patrick Harris will Tie The Knot in NY


Source: Yahoo 
Neil Patrick Harris is engaged!
The 38-year-old How I Met Your Mother star tweeted Saturday that he and partner David Burtka are planning to say "I do" now that gay marriage is legal in New York!
"David and I did propose to each other, but over five years ago!" he explained. "We've been wearing engagement rings for ages, waiting for an available. date."
   Harris and Burtka became the parents of fraternal twins, Harper and Gideon, in October 2010 via a surrogate.
 Before the New York state senate and Governor Andrew Cuomolegalized gay marriage Friday night, Harris tweetedthat he'd "sure love to get married."
"Please, New York Senate, vote in favor of marriage equality today," he said. "My family would really appreciate it."
 After news of progress in the northeast broke, Harris excitedly rejoiced with his followers. "It passed!" heexclaimed. "Marriage equality in New York! Yes! Progress! Thank you everyone who worked so hard on this. A historic night."

Gay Marriage Andrew Cuomo's Way


 

Gay Marriage All Goes According to Andrew Cuomo’s Plan
It all went according to plan. Oh, the two-week delay on a gay-marriage vote, the exact identities of the final Senate Republican “yes” voters — true, those frustrating twists and uncertainties weren’t pretty, and there were moments when the whole thing could have come crashing down. But to a remarkable degree, the same-sex marriage endgame unfolded just as Governor Andrew Cuomo had drawn it up months ago. And his "what-me-worry?" posture throughout the end-of-session mess was crucial in making it happen: Cuomo’s confidence game — his repeated public statements and private assurances to marriage advocates and legislative fence-sitters that legalization was inevitable, even when it wasn’t — created the climate for the last breakthrough today. Well, that and some good old-fashioned horse-trading.
Cuomo had outlined his big three legislative priorities last year, during his campaign for governor, and after pushing through a state budget in March he kept a tight focus on winning a property tax cap, tightening ethics rules, and passing gay marriage. Getting everything done required providing something for everyone: Upstate and suburban Republicans wanted the tax cap; city Democrats wanted rent regulations; and Cuomo, who believed in gay marriage in principle, also needed it politically to shore up his progressive credentials.
Just establishing the goals didn’t get them done, of course; Cuomo and his allies worked relentlessly to maintain the favorable momentum, from Cuomo’s approval-number-boosting roadshow to — pivotally, in the case of gay marriage — organizing a well-financed ground-game, run by his aide Steve Cohen and political consultant Jennifer Cunningham, that teamed with gay advocacy groups like Empire State Pride Agenda and the Human Rights Campaign to flood legislators with pro-marriage calls and mail. This paid off most spectacularly with the switch of Brooklyn Democrat Joe Addabbo from a “no” vote in 2009 to a “yes” this month, a necessary domino to bringing two other Dems and Republicans Jim Alesi and Roy McDonald on board.
But once Cuomo had established the fundamental architecture of the bargain, the rest was mere haggling: A shift in rent regulation numbers here, some significant loopholes in ethics rules there, plus a dash of extra legalese in the amendment to gay marriage. The new governor determined his strengths months ago, and pinpointed his colleagues' and opponents' weaknesses, and those things haven’t changed. He knew that Shelly Silver, the powerful Assembly speaker, needed to be able to claim improvements in protecting the tenants of rent-regulated apartments, but that otherwise Silver wouldn’t be the immovable object he’d been in the past. “How many times did Nancy Pelosi, when she was speaker of the house, tell Obama to go to hell?” a top New York Democrat asks. “Not often. It doesn’t really work that way. And in Albany, a Democratic speaker doesn’t really want trouble with a Democratic governor. A Republican governor, Pataki — yes, then the Democratic speaker is the counterforce. An immature, eccentric governor, Spitzer? Sure. A weak governor, Paterson? Shelly consumes a weak governor. But right now you have a popular Democratic governor. Shelly doesn’t want to start a fight of who is more popular and who has more sway with the Assembly.” Once Silver got some incremental improvements in tenant laws he was willing to play ball on the property tax cap, the priority for Republican senate majority leader Dean Skelos.
Which left the minor matter of gay marriage itself. The decisive votes needed to come from Skelos’s conference, which was split between two factions: A solid majority opposed to legalization who didn’t want to allow the vote to come to the floor, and a handful of undecideds who were fearful of being the 32nd “yes” that would put marriage over the top and expose them to the vengeance of the Conservative Party. Skelos, to the end, couldn’t make up his mind what he wanted to do. He could allow a vote and get the issue over with, thereby risking his party’s thin hold on the senate, or stall indefinitely, satisfying the bulk of his membership.
“The Republican leadership has promised (Conservative Party Chairman) Mike Long that it won’t put the thumb on individual legislators to decide it,” a GOP insider said mid-week. “So they have these tortured conferences where people are pretty anguished. Senators say, ‘I don’t want to be a bigot, but my church and my priest say I shouldn’t be doing this!’ A significant portion of the meeting the other day was venting at Alesi, especially, and McDonald, who they felt broke the proctocol.” Alesi, in particular, wallowed in the spotlight after declaring he’d vote yes, and angered his fellow Republicans by saying he was voting on principle while they resorted to craven political calculation. “In the meetings, they told him, ‘Nobody holds it against you that you’re in favor of this issue or that issue, but who are you to go out and indict the whole conference? You’re full of shit! You’re portraying my serious wrestling with this issue as some kind of cavalier political thing, and I take great offense to that!’”
All this pontificating took up many hours, and could have continued indefinitely. Cuomo knew from the beginning that Republicans would use questions about protecting religious institutions as a delaying tactic, and that he couldn't depend on Skelos to deliver the last votes. So Cuomo kept working on individual Republicans, and he strategically gave ground, until late Friday, when his last bit of concession on religious exemptions tipped the balance for Sen. Stephen Saland, who represents a district near Albany. Cuomo felt confident of Saland's vote a week ago, but knew he needed to give the senator slightly more room to justify the decision to the Republican conference and to his constituents.
"You’ve got a governor who from New York City who shouldn’t be wildly popular upstate, but he is," a Cuomo insider says. "So legislators take comfort in the fact that he’s out there so hard on this issue. You took a tough vote for David Paterson? Shame on you! You took a tough vote for Andrew Cuomo? God bless you!" The repeated, emphatic waving of campaign money by gay groups didn’t hurt, either. “It’s carrots and sticks. It’s music and champagne — and it’s strength,” a Cuomo intimate says. “It’s an orchestra, it’s a symphony, it’s all of this combined. It’s political skills. It’s 500 phone calls to individual senators. It’s birthday calls, it’s anniversary calls, it’s going to their district, it’s all last year campaigning with them.”
“Andrew has been masterful,” a political strategist says. “Whether health care or ethics or Medicaid reductions, they announce victory, stand with the partners in a room — and then they work out the details later.” So it was with gay marriage; it will be some time until all the fine print is digested, and perhaps the last round of maneuvering will open up the law to serious legal challenges, but Cuomo will worry about that another day. He's gotten the big win, and it will be very hard for anyone to turn back the clock. (A digression: Yes, Mike Bloomberg has been a longtime and aggressive supporter of gay marriage, but otherwise he and the city took a beating in Albany this session. From LIFO to the slashing of education funds to the meager improvements in rent regulations to the punting of pension reductions, Cuomo has recognized and exploited his political advantages over the mayor at every turn . The state’s new reduction in union benefits may have a ripple benefit for Bloomberg, but it’s a big maybe. And okay, Bloomberg did get an Albany win on livery cabs.)
For all his political victories — and for all the civil right-ness of New York finally joining the states that permit same-sex marriage — Cuomo is now at risk too: He got what he wanted this winter and spring in Albany, and now he owns the near-future of the state like no other governor in recent memory. If the broader economy turns around sufficiently, he’ll reap the benefits. If it doesn’t, Cuomo has a long, painful three years ahead of him. Whatever happens, in his first six months Andrew Cuomo has already established a permanent, enormous part of his legacy: He is the governor who made marriage for all a reality in New York.
NY Magazine

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