Tip #4 out of 7: The 3rd Law of Attraction

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Tip #4: The 3rd Law of Attraction
by Ramon Johnson

Newton’s Third Law of Motion dictates that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Some schools of thought hold the same notion in relation to our attractions. We get, they say, exactly what we put out there. In other words, the type of energy or vibe we project is exactly what we get in return.

Our projected vibe isn’t always obvious--to our eye, anyway. We may think we have an in-it-to-win-it attitude, only to live the same man-on-man nightmares over and over again. Or despite our irresistible charm, looks or wit, men resist us like the opposite end of a magnet. The energy we project is invisible to us, but men seem to pick it up like a natural force. They can tell if we are insecure despite our best efforts in hiding it. They can see the desperation in our eyes with the power of a powerful g-ray vision. They can also see our happiness and confidence gleaming from a bar away. Ever notice how when you’re feeling hot, others seem to make eye contact?

Take comfort, the laws of attraction work both ways. Remember the opposite reaction part? I’m sure you recall that one guy that was a complete turn-off for no particular reason (or at least no reason you can consciously identify)? At first glance, he seemed datable, but later you discovered that the vibe just wasn’t there. Compatibility plays a large role in connections; the energy we project is a major part of compatibility.

Most of us fail to realize, however, that each of us has complete control over the forces surrounding our attractions. We have the power to change others' reactions towards us by using Newton’s Third Law and changing our own actions. As a degreed techie, I know that understanding Newton’s law is much easier than putting it into practice. The good news is that it’s not impossible. A change in our attitude and approach can change what we get back in 

Leonardo DiCaprio on the cover of Rolling Stone

By Greg Hernandez on Jul 21, 2010 11:19 am | 

So many child stars not only have trouble transitioning to adult stardom, they have trouble transitioning to adulthood period.

Not Leonardo DiCaprio.

The kid who got his start on Growing Pains has always had the talent and as a teenager starred in such provocative movies as Total Eclipse, The Basketball Diaries, This Boys Life and an Oscar-nominated performance in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?

Superstardom came in 1997, when he was just 22, with the phenomenon that was The Titanic.

Instead of losing his way, DiCaprio became more choosy than ever about his projects and worked with top-flight directors such as Martin Scorsese (The Aviator, Gangs of New York, The Departedand Shutter Island), Steven Spielberg (Catch Me if You Can) and Sam Mendes (Revolutionary Road). Leo was also nominated for an Academy Award for best actor for his performance in Blood Diamond directed by Edward Zwick.

His latest collaboration is with director Christopher Nolan in Inception which opened at number one at the box office last weekend. Taking in $62 million in its first three days, the film was the biggest opening of Leo’s career!

I met Leo at the Academy Awards nominees luncheon the year he was nominated for Blood Diamond. It was a surreal event for me because I was seated right next to Jennifer Hudson and Leo and Mark Wahlberg were at the next table.

Then about a year later, I made a late night stop at the Taco Bell near Beverly Center and Leo was there with two female friends. He was low-key and not drawing attention to himself but when a couple of employees asked him to pose for pictures with them, he happily obliged.

He’s someone who seems comfortable with his stardom but whose main priority is being an actor.

But this does not mean he does not have anxious moments: “[My stomach churns over] really stupid stuff,” DiCaprio reveals in the newRolling Stone cover story. “Things that shouldn’t make you anxious whatsoever. It’s crazy how your mind will become this database to make you worry about things that are so arbitrary. I have a well-organized life, and I’ve put a lot of thought into the things that I do, and then, you know, my stomach will be…I’ll just be sitting there, totally anxious about something ridiculous.”

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Nick Adam Cast As Lead Role in 'Priscilla Queen Of The Dessert"

Nick Adams cast as a lead in Broadway bound production of musical “Priscilla Queen of the Desert”

By Greg Hernandez on Jul 21, 2010 11:55 am | 

So excited for Nick Adams.

The muscular openly gay actor who came to fame asMario Lopez’s co-star in A Chorus Line of Broadway a few years back will headlining on Broadway in the role of Felicia/Adam inPriscilla Queen of the Desert.

The musical will make its North American debut for a 12 week run in Ontario beginning October 12, with plans for a spring 2011 Broadway transfer. Adams will join previously announced stars Will Swenson as Tick andTony Sheldon as Bernadette in the leading roles.

The show was written byStephan Elliott and Allan Scott and had its world premiere in Australia in 2006.

Nick, 27, is currently on Broadway in the Tony winning revival of La Cage aux Folles as Cagelle Angelique and has also appeared in Broadway productions of Guys and Dolls and The Pirate Queen.

His last day in La Cage is August 8. Rehearsals are currently being held to find his replacement.

It was during the run of A Chorus Line that Nick came to fame because when Mario Lopez joined the show as the star, Nick was forced to cover up his very buff body in order to not upstage Mario’s buffness. Nick was very diplomatic about the whole thing and his classiness earned him many more fans – including me!

Out Director Getting Confused by Gay Actors Playing Straight Roles

 

Out director Don Roos still working out his feelings about openly gay actors in straight lead roles – and vice-versa

By Greg Hernandez 

When it comes
to a male actor
deciding to come
out of the closet,
 the conventional
wisdom is that it
will ruin his chances
of ever being a
big movie star –
 especially if he wants
 those coveted
romantic leading men roles.

If the audience knows the guy is gay, apparently it will kill the fantasy and no one will want to buy tickets.

We hear it time and time again from the Hollywood power players and creative folks – both gay
and straight – and we heard it again over the weekend at the Outfest Film Festival during
a panel called Coming Out in Hollywood.

You wonder though, how do they know? Has it ever been tested? Have we ever had a
major studio film flop because an openly gay actor had the romantic lead role?

I’d love to see , for example, what
would have happened if the red-hot Neil Patrick Harris had theTom Cruise role in Knight & Day. Might it have made more than the paltry $70 million it has taken in so far domestically?

Maybe. Maybe not.

We don’t know because it has never really been tried as far as I know.

But it’s hard to change things when an openly gay writer-director such as Don Roos (The Opposite of Sex, Bounce, Happy Endings) has issues with gays playing straight and vice-versa.

“I think the relationship between an audience and an actor is a very complicated thing, especially in a romantic lead,” Roos said during the panel discussion. “When you’re in a movie theater, what’s on the screen isn’t necessarily appealing to your best instincts. Most of the audience is going to be homophobic, they’re mostly violent in their hearts and that’s what they’re responding to on the screen and you can’t wait to have a career until the audience is not homophobic. That’s never going to happen. … In a romantic role, it can be very distracting for the audience to not be able to give themselves to a particular character. Like when I was watchingPhiladelphia — I knew [Tom Hanks] was straight.”

Roos has directed such actors asBen Affleck, Gwyneth Paltrow, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Tom Arnold, Lisa Kudrow, Christina Ricci, Lyle Lovett, Jason Ritter, Laura Dern and several other people who are quite well-known, not exactly blank slates in the minds of the public.

It makes me wonder if knowing that Affleck and Paltrow are straight was a distraction inBounce.

“I think everybody should be out to their circle but it’s more difficult if you’re a romantic lead,” Roos said at the Outfest event. “It would be hard for me to cast Natalie Portman as a woman rancher because she’s this crazy vegan. I want to not have conversations about is he gay or is he not gay; I want to know as little as possible.”

I wanted to publicly ask Roos to expand on this topic but could not manage to get called on by the moderator.

So I talked to Don face-to-face after the panel and we started by talking about his problems with Hanks and his Oscar-winning performance as a gay man with AIDS fighting being fired from his job in 1993′s Philadelphia.

“I kept feeling distracted knowing that he wasn’t really gay,” Roos told me. “I was admiring him and thinking, ‘Oh my God, how well he’s playing that.’ The more I know about any actor about anything, the more distracting it is.”

“I’m just saying in general, the more I know about an actor and his personal life and his personal beliefs, the less useful it is to me as a director. Sometimes I’m distracted because I’m mad that it isn’t a gay actor playing that role. Whatever your political thing is, it interferes with the storytelling.”

More specifically, if an actor were gay in a straight role, he admits he might be similarly distracted. But then he said: “I saw Sean [Hayes] on Broadway [inPromises, Promises] and the only distraction was that I sometimes saw the character that he played on Will & Grace but I totally bought him as a straight guy.”

Now I was really confused and asked: “Would you cast an openly gay actor as a romantic lead in a straight role? Would you be the one to do it?”

Roos: “That’s hypothetical. It would really depend.”

“Cheyenne Jackson?” I suggested.

Roos: “I would have to know what the part is.”

So he’s open to it?

“Oh, I’m open to it, absolutely. What I’m talking about in a more general sense is only romantic leads. That’s a relationship they can have with the audience that it’s distracting whatever they know about you.”

He’s still got the romantic leading man block but, thankfully, he is not willing to make some kind of blanket rule about not casting gays as straight and straight as gay.

“As a director, as a casting person … if someone comes in and you fall in love with them, you don’t care anything about them … if they embody what your vision is, you go for them. … I think sometimes it’s a little hurdle for the audience but if I love the guy, I’m willing to take my chances. My films are all very counter-culture films anyway, it doesn’t really matter in my world.”

Much more clear during the panel were the feelings of openly gay actor Jonathan Slavin (pictured, left) who most recently was a regular on the ABC sitcom Better off Ted. He thinks it is time for someone in a position of power to make the leap of casting a gay actor in a major movie lead.

“Don’t you think that there were people who said to Sidney Poitierthat an audience is never going to accept a black man as the lead of a film?” he said during the panel. “At a certain point, you have to just cast (gay actors) and grab the reins and move forward and see what happens. It is about taking risks and taking risks and not waiting until it’s safe. We’re accommodating a narrow-minded mentality.”

Fla. gay candidate campaign signs defaced with anti-gay slur

Chris Johnson | Jul 21, 2010 |

Defaced Galvin campaign sign (photo courtesy Galvin campaign)

Campaign signs for Florida gay congressional candidate Scott Galvin have been found defaced with anti-gay slurs, according to his campaign.

Derek Newton, general consultant for the Galvin campaign, said in past several days between six and ten signs have been found in North Miami spray-painted with the word “fag.”

“We’ve taken them down, obviously — had people calling in to report them and what-not,” Newton said. “It’s impossible to know who’s doing it, of course.”

Galvin, who serves on the North Miami City Council, is among nine contenders seeking the Democratic nomination to represent Florida’s 17th congressional district. The primary is set for Aug. 24.

Newton said the Galvin campaign informed the North Miami Police Department about the graffiti and is considering the next appropriate action.

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Gay Marriage: Paraguay or Uruguay, Who’s Next?

July 20, 2010 by Jason Shaw 

Who’s next on the equality trail? Things are moving at quite a rapid pace down there in South America. Could Uruguay and Paraguayfollow in the footsteps of near by neighbor Argentina and legalize gay marriage?

Gay rights groups and campaigners in both Uruguay and Paraguay are pushing hard for their respective parliaments to consider bills allowing gay’s equal marriage rights.

Argentina became the first country in Southern America to make gay marriage legal, with the President, Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner expected to ratify the law this week.

However media reports from the region are suggesting Uruguay is now the most likely of the two countries to introduce equal gay marriage rights. It would seem the most logical step as they already have same sex civil unions, there are also adoption rights for gay couples, plus gay people have the right to serve openly in the military.

Paraguay is less likely to make the change at least for the moment, as church leaders have already been speaking out against such things, however gay rights group, Somosgay, announced this week it will lobby government to introduce a bill.

Roman Catholic Bishop Adalberto Martinez of San Pedo stated a “intense educational campaign” on Christian values would be launched and the the country’s vice-president Federico Franco has said man and woman were created to raise a family.

However the momentum for gay marriage in South America is starting to gain speed, with many observers expecting bills to be introduced in both countries before the end of the year

Jason Shaw

http://www.gayagenda.com

Mike Jones, Male Prostitute Who Outed Ted Haggard, Says a 1/5of His Johns Were Clergy

Mike Jones, the Denver prostitute and personal trainer who outed former New Life Church pastor Ted Haggard in 2006, wrote an article Saturday for the Daily Beast in which he estimates as many as 15% of his clients in Denver were in some way connected to the church.

From the Daily Beast article:

During the 1990s, when I worked as an escort in Denver, Colorado, I estimate at least 15 percent of my clientele were clergy or connected with the church in some way. There were one-timers and there were guys who came back again and again and again, and they were all the same: positively giddy when the encounter began, unable to look you in the eye as they left. The excitement that initially animated them was wholly overshadowed by the despondency and guilt that would overcome them as soon as it was over.

I can't imagine the guilt they were feeling. Not only were they having sex with another man--a sin punishable by God, in their minds--but I believe many of them were doing exactly what Father Gray did: stealing from their own churches. Maybe not a million bucks, maybe not even so much that anyone would notice. But more than once I was paid for my services with a handful of crinkled ones and fives. I would think to myself, how could they take from their own church's collection plate? The answer is simple and sad: addicts will do whatever they need to do to support their habit.

In November, 2006, Jones claimed that he and Haggard, who was in a leadership position at the National Council of Evangelicals at the time, carried on a three-year sexual relationship during which the Colorado Springs-based pastor paid Jones for oral sex and admitted to taking crystal meth.

At the time, Jones said he outed Haggard because he wanted to "expose the hypocrisy." Haggard was a vehement opponent of gay marriage.

After a hiatus from the Church, Haggard has returned to Colorado Springs where he has started a new Church. He has made headlines lately with his softened rhetoric on gay rights, saying he would welcome gay members at his church. Last week, Haggard announced his church wasmoving to a new venue after out-growing the Haggard family's Colorado Springs barn.

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Argentina Passed Marriage Equality and It Is Because of Its President! Video

Possible AIDS breakthrough

Sarah Coffey
Jul 20th 2010 at 6:00am         

Filed under: Health, In the News

U.S. researchers have discovered two powerful antibodies that can neutralize more than 90% of all known strains of the HIV virus in the lab, according to new research by National Institutes of Health scientists.

The antibodies, known as VRCO1 and VRCO2, prevent most HIV strains from infecting human cells, a potential breakthrough for advancing HIV vaccine design, and antibody therapy for other diseases.

The study is published in the July 9 issue of Science.

"The discovery of these exceptionally broadly neutralizing antibodies to HIV and the structural analysis that explains how they work are exciting advances that will accelerate our efforts to find a preventive HIV vaccine for global use," said Dr Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID), National Institutes of Health.

"In addition, the technique the teams used to find the new antibodies represents a novel strategy that could be applied to vaccine design for many other infectious diseases," Fauci stressed in a statement.

At the end of 2006, around 1.1 million people in the U.S. were living with an HIV infection, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Globally, the number of people getting treatment for AIDS has increased twelve-fold since 2003, according to Aids2010.org.

Read more: http://www.walletpop.com/blog/2010/07/20/aids-breakthrough/#ixzz0uEstLDKp

Tip #3 of 7: Find New Love By Closing Old Wounds>Entering The Golden Age of Dating

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Tip #3: Find New Love By Closing Old Wounds
Reaching the Golden Age of Dating
by Ramon Johnson

Many years ago, a friend and I relished in our ability to cite the most fabulous of historical monarchs,
Elizabeth I. It’s said that the young queen harbored in the Golden Age of British prosperity. Even so,
she lost her personal war on love.

"I am married to England," Elizabeth declared in herring defiance to the miscreant Sir Robert Dudley.
She risked her crown for her adorer. He, in return, broke her heart by plotting against her life. She kept
him alive despite his treason as a constant reminder of how close she came to danger—declaring her
 independence from the like of any man. Her primary concern became matters she could control, not
unpredictable men.

Modern day love isn’t quite as melodramatic, but my friend and I had experienced our fare share of no
good Dudley’s. Our dates always started out with excitement and ended in complete anarchy. Some
mini-relationships lasted a few hours, others weeks until they suddenly ended with us left alone in a
tower of loneliness and regret. We began dating with extreme caution, assuming that every man would
inevitably break our hearts.

It’s understandable: Why would we surrender to the monstrous dating scene? We’d been hurt so many times.
The crown of our hearts proved to be much more fragile than one of a kingdom. Instead of harboring
 in a new age of love, we wallowed in our lost opportunities.

There needed to be a change if we were ever to break the cycle. In order to make room for better love,
we had to free our crowded perceptions.

Far too many of us take the bitter queen approach to love. You see, the mistake Elizabeth made was
keeping Lord Robert alive. We too kept our old failures alive in the form of resentment, anger, bitterness
 and mistrust. And holding on to past failures leaves little room for future possibilities. Our crown jewels
don’t always have to be protected in order for us to be fully appreciated by other men. Each opportunity
must be approached with a clean bully of possibilities.

Sour subjects exist in every realm of dating potentials. And most of us, at some point or another, have fallen
victim to their folly. But better, more affirmative men await our approach. Only by sending old wounds to
 the gallows can we harbor in a new, more prosperous golden age of dating.

Taxpayers Demand $4.4 Million Refund Over Anti-Gay Military Survey

Taxpayers Demand $4.4 Million Refund Over Anti-Gay Military Survey

Servicemembers United an advocacy organization dedicated to repealing the anti-gay military policy known as Don't Ask Don't Tell is furious over a new and biased survey about the policy.

The Department of Defense just paid the research firm Westat the outrageous sum of $4.4 million to design and administer an email-based survey about the repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” law. While its development was shrouded in secrecy for weeks, leaked copies of the final version recently began circulating. To everyone’s surprise, the survey, which went out to 400,000 service members, turned out to be laced with bias, inaccuracies, and derogatory assumptions and insinuations about gay and lesbian Americans. Demand that Westat and the Pentagon repay the American Taxpayer for this outrageous waste of $4.4 million!

United Nations Grants Official Status to U.S.-based International LGBT Rights Group

United Nations Grants Official Status to U.S.-based International LGBT Rights Group
A victory against homophobic silencing of civil society
07/19/2010

(July 19, 2001) On July 19, 2010, the full United Nations Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC) voted in favor of a US-led resolution to grant the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC) consultative status. IGLHRC is only the tenth organization working primarily for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) human rights to gain such status at the United Nations.

"Today's decision is an affirmation that the voices of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people have a place at the United Nations as part of a vital civil society community," said Cary Alan Johnson, IGLHRC Executive Director. "The clear message here is that these voices should not be silenced and that human rights cannot be denied on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity."

The resolution passed with 23 in favor, 13 against, and 13 abstentions and 5 absences.

This victory is particularly significant, coming as it does after a prolonged 3-year application process in the sub-committee that makes initial recommendations on status. Despite full compliance with all procedures IGLHRC faced deferrals, homophobic questioning, and procedural roadblocks in the ECOSOC NGO Committee.

Today's decision overturned a "no-action" vote in the NGO-committee that threatened to establish a dangerous precedent and the possibility of organizations deemed controversial being continuously denied the opportunity to have their application put to a vote even after undergoing the required review.

The vote also signals a recognition of the important role of a diverse and active civil society at the UN. In support of progress on IGLHRC's application, a group of over 200 NGOs from 59 countries endorsed a letter to all UN Member States, demanding fair and non-discriminatory treatment and supporting IGLHRC's goal of amplifying LGBT voices in the international arena.

"As human rights defenders and LGBT people living in countries where homophobic discrimination is a daily reality, we celebrate the accreditation of IGLHRC at the UN," said Frank Mugisha, Chairperson of Sexual Minorities Uganda (SMUG), one of 13 NGOs from Uganda to publicly call for IGLHRC to be accredited. "IGLHRC's access to the UN means that we too will have greater access to international human-rights mechanisms that can prove invaluable to LGBT people's lives."

The government of the United States stood strongly behind IGLHRC's application, calling for a vote in both the NGO Committee and ECOSOC. Ambassador Susan Rice, US Permanent Representative to the United Nations,publicly supported IGLHRC's application. Additionally, 14 members of the US House of Representatives and 4 Senators sent letters of support to all UN Member States for IGLHRC's application. Among them were Senator John Kerry, Chair of the Senate Committee on Foreign Relations, and Congressman Howard Berman, Chair of the House Committee on Foreign Affairs.

The victory continues the upward trajectory for LGBT rights at the UN. It allows IGLHRC to participate in a more formal way through attending meetings, submitting statements and collaborating with the UN and governments in the international human-rights arena.

"We celebrate this decision," stated Toni Reis, president of the Brazilian LGBT group, Associação Brasileira de Lésbicas, Gays, Bissexuais, Travestis e Transexuais (ABGLT) – that in 2009 was the last LGBT organization to receive status. "It is crucial that LGBT NGOs have the opportunity to participate in the UN human rights debate – though in future, organizations should receive full and fair reviews before the NGO Committee itself."

Despite the limited opportunities offered to non-accredited NGOs, IGLHRC has a long history of advocating at the UN for the rights of all people, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity. The organization advocated for sexual rights to be included in the official discussions at the 1995 UN Fourth World Conference on Women in Beijing; spoke at the first UN General Assembly meeting on HIV and AIDS in 2001; and in recent years has been part of a collaboration between NGOs and supportive States that resulted in the groundbreaking 2008 UNGA Declaration on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity, signed by 67 UN Member States.

www.iglhrc.org(International Gay, Lesbian,Human Rights Commission)